By following some of these guidelines, you can have a rewarding couples or friends dream group. Some of these may last for only a few months, while other can last for years. Remember that the object is to share and build trust and a sense of common experience and community.
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Couples coaching couples: Another method of developing a group is to select some other couples to coach one another. Such groups can support the creation of visions. Coaching of this kind can promote each couple's commitment to visions and dreams while producing a feeling of community. Using this model, you may begin to feel comfortable enough to share your most intimate dreams not only with your partner, but with another couple. This is similar to a dream group, except that all the participants are sharing from the perspective of their couple.
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There are several elements necessary to this method of developing community. First, find at least one other couple who is willing to work on creating a great relationship for themselves. You and your partner must agree to be committed to staying in your own relationship and to support the other couple in doing so as well. Follow the coaching you get from the other couple whether you like it or not, and they must also follow yours. Coaching should take place at a regular time, at least weekly and for a certain period (e.g., three or six months). Sessions need to be twoway: One couple coaches for twenty to thirty minutes, and then the other coaches for the same amount of time.
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As a coach, you generally don't give advice. You merely get your coachees to say what vision they proclaim for themselves, and then make sure that whatever they have done that week is consistent with what they agreed to do. For instance, the coaching couple might say, "Last week you proclaimed, 'We have fun together.' Have you been a couple having fun this
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