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PRAISE FOR
URBAN TANTRA

“Any book on Tantra that begins by describing a professional lap dance as a divine sexual experience is one I will definitely read. Written with wit and humor, Barbara’s
Urban Tantra
keeps sex real, and, best of all, the rituals are fun.”

—Betty Dodson, PhD, author of
Sex for One
and
Orgasms for Two

“If you ever thought Tantra wasn’t for you—too foreign or gimmicky or New Agey, or not edgy enough for your radical sex explorations—Barbara Carrellas will cure you of all misconceptions and bring you an Urban Tantra to unite your sex, your spirit, your erotic wanderlust, your edge.”

—Carol Queen, author of
Real Live Nude Girl

“Urban Tantra
offers a daring, delicious, profound, courageous, and altogether magical celebration that will teach us all to dance to the rhythms of the universe. Barbara Carrellas has written the ultimate how-to book that unites sex with spirit, healing with philosophy, and the animating force of the cosmos with each and every one of us. So if you’d like to live your sex life on a galactic scale, you must read this book!”

—Dossie Easton, coauthor of
The Ethical Slut

“Everyone needs to rejoice in their own sexuality, and Barbara shows us how in this very informative, easy-to-use book. It would be nice to practice Tantra in a lovely remote garden or high atop a mountain, but the reality is that in today’s world many of us don’t have that luxury. Barbara demonstrates that it doesn’t matter where you practice, as long as you’re conscious when you do. Now, let go and enjoy
Urban Tantra.”

—Louise Hay, author of
You Can Heal Your Life
and
Empowering Women

“Urban Tantra
is a courageous book by Barbara Carrellas, one of the pioneers in contemporary American Tantra. This engaging and comprehensive guide includes numerous powerful exercises as well as moving personal anecdotes that reveal how the conscious exploration and embrace of sexuality can function as a tool for transformation.”

—Mark A. Michaels (Swami Umeshanand Saraswati) and Patricia Johnson (Devi Veenanand), authors of
The Essence of Tantric Sexuality

“Barbara Carrellas, whose Urban Tantric sex workshops combine Eastern sex techniques with the postmodern methods of SM practitioners, is a trailblazer.”

—Tristan Taormino,
The Village Voice

Copyright © 2007 by Barbara Carrellas
Illustrations copyright © 2007 by Colleen Coover

All rights reserved.
Published in the United States by Celestial Arts, an imprint of the Crown Publishing Group,
a division of Random House, Inc., New York.
www.crownpublishing.com
www.tenspeed.com

Celestial Arts and the Celestial Arts colophon are registered trademarks of Random House, Inc.

The poem on the opposite page is paraphrased from Guillaume Apollinaire.

Quotation on
this page
excerpted from
The Book of Secrets
by Osho. Copyright © 1974 by Osho International Foundation, Switzerland.
www.osho.com
. All rights reserved.

Reprinted with permission.

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Carrellas, Barbara.
     Urban tantra : sacred sex for the twenty-first century / Barbara Carrellas.
         p. cm.
     1. Sex. 2. Tantrism. 3. Sex instruction. I. Title.
     HQ23.C38 2007
     306.77—dc22
                           2006100430

eISBN: 978-0-307-78580-0

v3.1

Come to the edge, she said
.
No, I will fall
.
Come to the edge
.
No, it’s too high
.
Come to the edge
.
I came
she pushed
and I flew
.
This book is dedicated to
Louise L. Hay
&
Patricia M. Neilson

Contents

Cover
Title Page
Copyright
Dedication
Acknowledgments
Foreword by Annie Sprinkle, PhD
Prelude
The Temple of the Sacred Lap Dance, or Ecstasy Is Where You Find It
Introduction
What Is Tantra, Anyway?
TEN MYTHS ABOUT TANTRA
A QUICK-START GUIDE
Part 1
Tantra: The Basics
1. Why Ecstasy is Necessary
PLEASURE VS. ECSTASY
ADRENALINE IS NOT ECSTASY
XXXTASY IS NOT ECSTASY
SO HOW DO WE FIND REAL ECSTASY?
2. Be Here Now
BREATHE
CHANGE YOUR MIND
DO SOME AFFIRMATIONS
FOCUS AND IMAGINE
MAKE NO JUDGMENTS, MAKE NO COMPARISONS, AND DELETE YOUR NEED TO UNDERSTAND
DROP YOUR EXPECTATIONS
GIVING AND RECEIVING
3. Know Thy Chakras, Know Thyself
THE SEVEN CHAKRAS
SEX AND THE CHAKRAS
4. Wake Up Your Body, Calm Your Mind, and Free Your Spirit
THE BASICS OF BREATH
FOUR CONSCIOUS BREATHS
MEDITATION
THE POWER OF SILLINESS
WITNESSING
THE EXHILARATION AND CATHARTIC MEDITATIONS
5. How to Touch
THE RESILIENT EDGE OF RESISTANCE
THE RESILIENT EDGE OF RESISTANCE APPLIES TO MORE THAN TOUCH
6. Twenty-Minute Tantra
CONSCIOUS QUICKIES
Part 2
Tantra for One: Unleashing Your Orgasmic Energy
7. Sexual Energy: What It Is and What to Do with It
KUNDALINI, CHI, AND THE INNER FLUTE
“SEEING” SEXUAL ENERGY
DROPPING INTO THE BODY
LET’S DANCE
8. Orgasm: The Totality of Possibilities
WHAT IS ORGASM?
BUT WAIT, THERE’S MORE!
ORGASM TIPS FOR ESTROGEN-BASED BODIES
ORGASM TIPS FOR TESTOSTERONE-BASED BODIES
WHAT ABOUT P-SPOT ORGASMS?
ORGASMIC SOUNDS
THE UNIVERSAL HUM
9. Breath and Energy Orgasms
WHAT’S SO SPECIAL ABOUT BREATH AND ENERGY ORGASMS?
THE FIREBREATH ORGASM
THE CLENCH AND HOLD
10. Solo Tantra
EYE GAZING
THE MICROCOSMIC ORBIT
VIBRATE THOSE CHAKRAS
DISCOVER WHAT TRULY TURNS YOU ON
TRY NEW SENSATIONS
TAKE YOURSELF ON A TANTRIC DATE
EVOLUTIONARY SELFLOVING
Part 3
Tantra for Two: A Tantric Ritual
11. Set the Stage
THE STAGE
SCENERY
LIGHTING
SOUND
COSTUMES
PROPS
SPECIAL EFFECTS
SAFER SEX
12. Chill Out and Warm Up
CHILL OUT
WARM UP
13. Come Together
THE POSE OF RECOGNITION WITH HAND BALANCING
THE POSE OF GIVING AND RECEIVING
THE GARDEN OF SENSUAL DELIGHTS
14. Rock and Roll
THE HEART CONNECTION
BACK TO BACK
SPREAD THE ENERGY AROUND
YAB YUM/SITTING POSITION
SITTING OPEN-EYED CLENCH AND HOLDS
TANTRIC FUCKING
15. Afterglow
TOES TO THIRD EYE
HEART-FOOT-HAND
GROUNDING HUG
16. The Erotic Awakening Massage: An Introduction
THE EROTIC AWAKENING MASSAGE HAS UNLIMITED POSSIBILITIES
SENSUAL MASSAGE
CONSCIOUS RECEIVING AND CONSCIOUS GIVING
HOW TO BREATHE
WHOLE-HAND TOUCHING
GENDER AND THE EROTIC AWAKENING MASSAGE
ORGASM AND THE EROTIC AWAKENING MASSAGE
17. The Erotic Awakening Massage for People with Pussies
SETTING UP
CONNECTING
STARTING WITH A SENSUAL MASSAGE
THE VULVA
THE CLITORIS
SPREADING THE ENERGY AROUND
INTRAVAGINAL MASSAGE
STOP!
ROCK AND ROLL
THE CLENCH AND HOLD
NOW WHAT?
18. The Erotic Awakening Massage for People with Penises
STARTING WITH A SENSUAL MASSAGE
THE COCK STROKES
THE CLENCH AND HOLD
AFTERGLOW
Part 4
Tantra for the Adventurous
19. Tantric BDSM
THE NEEDLE MUDRA
FIVE MYTHS ABOUT BDSM
USING TANTRA TO ENHANCE BDSM
20. How to Create the Tantric Ritual That’s Perfect for You
THE EROTIC PLAYSHEET
ONE OF THOSE DAYS
DIFFERENT LIVES
P.S., YOUR CAT IS DEAD
21. Group Tantra
HOW TO THROW A GREAT RITUAL/SEX PARTY
CLUB RELATE
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
AN EROTIC RITE
A WEEKEND IN THE COUNTRY
THE DARK HEART
HOW TO TRY GROUP SEX WITHOUT FRACTURING YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Part 5
Tantra: The Next Dimension
22. Sex Magic
SEX AND HEALING
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