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13
. Rampell, Catherine, “Bundled Households,”
New York Times
, November 12, 2012,
http://economix.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/11/12/bundled-households/
.

14
. Arnold, Lisa and Christina Campbell, “The High Price of Being Single in America,” January 14, 2013,
http://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/01/the-high-price-of-being-single-in-america/267043/
.

15
. Palmer, Kimberly, “Why Single People Are So Financially Stressed,”
USNews.com
, October 17, 2010.

16
. Correll, Shelley, Steven Bernard, In Paik, “Getting a Job: Is there a Motherhood Penality?”
American Journal of Sociology
, Vol. 112, No. 5, March, 2007, 1297–1339,
http://gender.stanford.edu/sites/default/files/motherhoodpenalty.pdf
.

17
. Coontz, Stephanie, “Progress at Work, But Mothers Still Pay a Price,”
New York Times
, June 8, 2013,
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/06/09/opinion/sunday/coontz-richer-childless-women-are-making-the-gains.html
.

18
. Wang, Wendy and Kim Parker and Paul Taylor, “Breadwinner Moms,” Pew Research Center, May 29, 2013,
http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2013/05/29/breadwinner-moms/
.

19
. Hymowitz, Kay and Jason S. Carroll, W. Bradford Wilcox, Kelleen Kaye, “Knot Yet Report: What Does the Rising Marriage Age Mean For Twentysomething Women, Men and Families?” 2012,
http://twentysomethingmarriage.org/
.

20
. Castillo, Michelle, “Almost Half of First Babies in US Born to Unwed Mothers,” CBS News, March 15, 2013,
http://www.cbsnews.com/news/almost-half-of-first-babies-in-us-born-to-unwed-mothers/
.

21
. Angier, Natalie, “The Changing American Family,”
The New York Times
, November 26, 2013,
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/11/26/health/families.html
.

22
. Sawhill, Isabel, “The New White Negro,”
Washington Monthly
, January/February 2013,
http://www.washingtonmonthly.com/magazine/january_february_2013/features/the_new_white_negro042050.php?page=all
.

23
. Edin, Kathryn and Maria Kefalas, “Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage,” published by the National Poverty Center, March 12, 2013,
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRUj_C5JdHs
. Talk stems from
Promises I Can Keep
by Edin and Kefalas.

24
. “Phyllis Schlafly Still Championing the Anti-Feminist Fight,”
Tell Me More
,
NPR, March 30, 2011,
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=134981902
.

25
. Fleischer, Ari, “How to Fight Income Inequality: Get Married,”
The Wall Street Journal
, January 12, 2014.

26
. Bruenig, Matt, “The Single Mother, Child Poverty Myth,” Demos, April 14, 2014,
http://www.demos.org/blog/4/14/14/single-mother-child-poverty-myth
.

27
. Rector, Robert, “Marriage: America's Greatest Weapon Against Child Poverty,” The Heritage Foundation, September 5, 2012,
http://www.heritage.org/research/reports/2012/09/marriage-americas-greatest-weapon-against-child-poverty
.

28
. Mencimer, Stephanie, “The GOP's Dead End Marriage Program,”
Mother Jones
, June 25, 2012,
http://www.motherjones.com/politics/2012/06/gops-dead-end-marriage-program
.

29
. Covert, Bryce, “Heritage Panel tells Women that the Road to Economic Security is Marriage, not Feminism,”
Think Progress
, April 1, 2014,
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.

30
. “Minnesota Family Investment Program,” Minnesota Department of Human Services.

31
. Fremstad, Shawn and Melissa Boteach, “How Progressive Policies Can Strengthen Marriage and Family Life,”
Family Studies,
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.

32
. “New Hope Project,” Promising Practices,
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.

33
. Gassman-Pines, Anna and Hirokazu Yoshikawa, “Five Year Effects of an Anti-Poverty Program on Marriage among Never-Married Mothers”
Journal of Policy Analysis and Management,
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.

34
. Covert, Bryce, “Senator Floats Idea to Penalize Low-Income Women Who Have Children,”
Think Progress
, January 29, 2014,
http://thinkprogress.org/economy/2014/01/29/3220881/rand-paul-welfare-cap-children/
.

35
. “Rand Paul and the Extent of Marital Poverty in Kentucky,” CEPR Blog, Center for Economic and Policy Research, January 30, 2014,
http://www.cepr.net/blogs/cepr-blog/rand-paul-and-the-extent-of-marital-poverty-in-kentucky
. Via Shawn Fremstad,“Temporary Assistance Doesn't Help Impoverished Married Parents,”
TalkPoverty.org
, May 1, 2015,
http://talkpoverty.org/2015/05/01/temporary-assistance/
.

36
. Senate Bill 518, General Assembly of North Carolina, Session 2013, April 1, 2013,
http://www.ncleg.net/Sessions/2013/Bills/Senate/PDF/S518v1.pdf
.

37
. Marcotte, Amanda, “The Worst State for Women?”
The American Prospect
, January 13, 2013,
http://prospect.org/article/worst-state-women
.

38
. Hymowitz, Kay and Jason S. Carroll, W. Bradford Wilcox, Kelleen Kaye, “Knot
Yet Report: What Does the Rising Marriage Age Mean For Twentysomething Women, Men and Families?” 2012,
http://twentysomethingmarriage.org/
.

39
. Angier, Natalie, “The Changing American Family,”
The New York Times
, November 26, 2013,
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/11/26/health/families.html
.

40
. Edin, Kathryn and Maria Kefalas, “Unmarried with Children,”
Contexts,
Vol. 4, No. 2., May, 2005,
http://ctx.sagepub.com/content/4/2/16.abstract
.

41
. Edin, Kathryn and Maria Kefalas,
Promises I Can Keep,
185.

42
. Fragile Families and Child Wellbeing Study, cited by Kathryn Edin Study cited by Edin and Kefalas in ““Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage” speech.

43
. Wang, Wendy, “The Best Cities for Women Looking to Marry,” Pew Research Center, October 2, 2014,
http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2014/10/02/the-best-and-worst-cities-for-women-looking-to-marry/
.

44
. Knafo, Saki, “1 in 3 Black Men Will Go To Prison in their Lifetimes, Report Warns,”
Huffington Post
, October 4, 2013,
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/10/04/racial-disparities-criminal-justice_n_4045144.html
.

45
. Porter, Eduardo, “In the U.S., Punishment Comes Before the Crimes,”
The New York Times
, April 29, 2014.

46
. Coates, Ta-Nehesi, “The Black Family in the Age of Mass Incarceration,”
The Atlantic
, October, 2015.

47
. Via the Federal Bureau of Investigation.

48
. “Criminal Justice Fact Sheet,” National Association for the Advancement of Colored People,
naacp.org
,
http://www.naacp.org/pages/criminal-justice-fact-sheet
.

49
. Angier, Natalie, “The Changing American Family,”
New York Times
, November 26, 2013,
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/11/26/health/families.html
.

50
. Discussion between Marian Wright Edelman, Vivian Nixon, Glenn Martin, Bob Herbert on
The Melissa Harris Perry Show
, MSNBC, July 14, 2012.

51
. “Know Your Rights: Housing and Arrests or Criminal Convictions,” The Bronx Defenders, October 2, 1010,
http://www.bronxdefenders.org/housing-and-arrests-or-criminal-convictions/
.

52
. Alexander, Michelle, “The Zimmerman Mindset: Why Black Men Are the Permanent Undercaste,” July 29, 2013.

53
. Ludden, Jennifer, “Can Marriage Save Single Mothers From Poverty?”
Morning Edition
, NPR, September 13, 2012,
http://www.npr.org/2012/09/13/161017580/can-marriage-save-single-mothers-from-poverty
.

54
. Stevenson, Betsey and Justin Wolfers, “Valentine's Day and the Economics of Love,”
Bloomberg View
, February 13, 2013,
http://www.bloombergview.com/articles/2013-02-13/valentine-s-day-and-the-economics-of-love
.

55
. Fremstad, Shawn, “Temporary Assistance Doesn't Help Impoverished Married
Parents,”
TalkPoverty.org
, May 1, 2015,
http://talkpoverty.org/2015/05/01/temporary-assistance/
.

56
. Edin and Kefalas,
Promises I Can Keep
, 199.

57
. Coontz, Stephanie, “The Triumph of the Working Mother,”
New York Times
, June 1, 2013,
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/06/02/opinion/sunday/coontz-the-triumph-of-the-working-mother.html?ref=global-home
.

58
. Ibid.

59
. Boo, Katherine, “The Marriage Cure,”
The New Yorker
, August 18, 2003.

60
. Coates, Ta-Nehesi, “Of Baguettes and Black Families,”
The Atlantic
, September 13, 2013,
http://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2013/09/of-baguettes-and-black-families/279678/
.

Chapter Eight: Sex and the Single Girls

1
. Coontz, Stephanie,
Marriage: A History.

2
. Addams, Jane,
The Spirit of Youth and the City Streets
, 15–16. Via Louise Knight.

3
. Grimké, Sarah, “Marriage,” in Sarah Grimke,
Letters on the Equality of the Sexes and Other Essays
. Elizabeth Ann Bartlett, ed., 148.

4
. Ibid., 148.

5
. Randall, Mercedes Moritz,
Improper Bostonian: Emily Greene Balch
, 398.

6
. Caplan, Paula J., “Sex and the Myth of Women's Masochism,”
Psychology Today,
August 14, 2012,
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/science-isnt-golden/201208/sex-and-the-myth-women-s-masochism
.

7
. Trimberger, Ellen Kay,
The New Single Woman
, 14.

8
. Firestone, Shulamith,
The Dialectic of Sex: The Case for Feminist Revolution
, 152.

9
. Bilton, Nick, “Tinder, The Fast Growing Dating App, Taps and Age-Old Truth,”
New York Times
, October 30, 2014,
http://mobile.nytimes.com/2014/10/30/fashion/tinder-the-fast-growing-dating-app-taps-an-age-old-truth.html?referrer=&_r=0
.

10
. Sales, Nancy Jo, “Tinder and the Dawn of the ‘Dating Apocalypse,' ”
Vanity Fair
, August 2015,
http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2015/08/tinder-hook-up-culture-end-of-dating
.

11
. Massey, Alana, “The Dickonomics of Tinder,”
Matter
, April 30, 2015,
https://medium.com/matter/the-dickonomics-of-tinder-b14956c0c2c7
.

12
. McCracken, Amanda, “Does My Virginity Have a Shelf Life?”
The New York Times
, November 13, 2013,
http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/11/13/does-my-virginity-have-a-shelf-life/?smid=tw-share
.

13
. Tyler May, Elaine,
Homeward Bound,
.

14
. “Sex Will Change Totally, Liza Mundy Predicts in New Book, ‘The Richer Sex,' ”
Huffington Post
, March 19, 2012,
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/03/19/sex-richer-liza-mundy-gender-gap_n_1363917.html#s790489title=Women_Will_Refuse
.

15
. Freitas, Donna, “Time to Stop Hooking Up (You Know You Want To)”
The Washington Post
, March 29, 2013.

16
. Plank, Elizabeth, “There's A Way to Discuss Hookup Culture and this Wasn't It,”
mic.com
, July 15, 2013,
http://mic.com/articles/54701/there-s-a-way-to-discuss-hook-up-culture-and-this-wasn-t-it
.

17
. Sessions Stepp, Laura, “Cupid's Broken Arrow,”
The Washington Post,
May 7, 2006,
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/05/06/AR2006050601206.html
.

18
. Douthat, Ross, “Love in the Time of Hookups,”
New York Times
, July 18, 2013,
http://douthat.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/07/18/love-in-the-time-of-hookups/
.

19
. Rosin, Hanna, “Boys on the Side,
The Atlantic, September 2012,
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/09/boys-on-the-side/309062/3/
.

20
. Ingeno, Lauren, “Let's Talk (Differently) About Sex,”
Inside Higher Ed
, July 29, 2013,
http://www.insidehighered.com/news/2013/07/29/changing-hook-culture-conversation-college-campuses
.

21
. Rosin, Hanna, “Boys on the Side,
The Atlantic, September 2012,
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/09/boys-on-the-side/309062/3/
.

22
. Paquette, Danielle, “Why Millennials Have Fewer Sex Partners than their Parents Did,”
The Washington Post
, May 6, 2015,
http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonkblog/wp/2015/05/06/why-millennials-have-sex-with-fewer-partners-than-their-parents-did/
.

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