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33 When he asked her: Ibid., 34.

33
Joie de vivre
packs: See
Psychology Today
, May 1, 2005; this is one of the five components of charisma.

33 “It’s not the men”: Quoted in Peter Haining, ed.,
The Essential Seducer
(London: Robert Hale, 1994), 49.

33 “the thrust of the sap”: Quoted in Len Oakes,
Prophetic Charisma: The Psychology of Revolutionary Religious Personalities
(Syracuse, NY: Syracuse University Press, 1997), 29.

33 When we’re passionately in love: Michael R. Liebowitz,
The Chemistry of Love
(Boston: Little, Brown, 1983), 96.

33 “splendid triggering”: José Ortega y Gasset,
On Love: Aspects of a Single Theme
, trans. Toby Talbot (New York: New American Library, 1957), 108.

33 “Exuberance is seductive”: Quoted in Kay Redfield Jamison,
Exuberance: The Passion for Life
(New York: Vintage Books, 2004), 210.

34 Greek Dionysus: Carl Kerényi,
Dionysos: Archetypal Image of Indestructible Life
(Bollingen Series, vol. 65), trans. Ralph Manheim (Princeton, NJ: Princeton University Press, 1976), xxxvi.

34 “the exultant god”: Walter F. Otto,
Dionysus: Myth and Cult
, trans. Robert B. Palmer (Bloomington: Indiana University Press, 1965), 78, 103.

34 “In no love story”: Quoted in Helen Handley, ed.,
The Lover’s Quotation Book
(New York: Barnes and Noble, 2000), 22.

34 “he was so much alive”: Geoffrey Chaucer, “The Wife of Bath’s Tale,” in
The Canterbury Tales
, trans. Nevill Coghill (New York: Penguin, 2003), 259.

34 “exuberant joy”: Bernard Williams, “Don Juan as an Idea, in Lydia Goehr and Daniel Herwitz, eds.,
The Don Giovanni Moment
(New York: Columbia University Press, 2006), 111.

34 “animated and high-spirited”: Theodor Fontane,
Effi Briest
, trans. Hugh Rorrison and Helen Chambers (1895; New York: Penguin, 2000), 77.

34 Heroes of women’s popular romances: See, for example, Lisa Kleypas’s “big, sexy tomcat,” Jack Travis of
Smooth Talking Stranger
, whose erotic cocktail is a combination of “vitality, confidence, and masculinity” (New York: St. Martin’s Paperbacks, 2009), 46.

34 Nineteenth-century French Romantic poet: Charlotte Haldane,
Alfred: The Passionate Life of Alfred de Musset
(New York: Roy, 1960), 45.

34 Deploying an élan assault: Ibid. 47.

34 Lord Palmerston: Margaret Nicholas, ed.,
The World’s Greatest Lovers
(London: Octopus Books, 1985), 39.

35 “exactly like his work”: Quoted in William G. Hyland,
George Gershwin: A New Biography
(Westport, CT: Praeger, 2003), 215.

35 “a joyous delight”: Quoted in Howard Pollack,
George Gershwin: His Life and Work
(Berkeley: University of California Press, 2006), 205.

35 “his exuberant vitality”: Quoted in ibid., 112, 205.

35 “I
was
crazy”: Quoted in ibid., 115.

35 He never married: Hyland,
George Gershwin
, 115.

36 “He loved every aspect”: Quoted in ibid., 116.

36 “All love begins”: André Maurois, “The Art of Loving,” in
The Art of Living
, trans. James Whitall (New York: Harper and Row, 1959), 17.

36 “Emotional intensity”: Lindholm,
Charisma
, 20.

37 “I turned the heads”: Quoted in Peter Trachtenberg,
The Casanova Complex: Compulsive Lovers and Their Women
(New York: Poseidon Press, 1988), 32.

37 Romantic love is: Robert C. Solomon,
About Love: Reinventing Romance for Our Times
(New York: Touchstone/Simon & Schuster, 1988), 23.

37 philosophers say: William Gass, “Throw the Emptiness out of Your Arms: Rilke’s Doctrine of Nonpossessive Love,” in Robert C. Solomon and Kathleen M. Higgins, eds.,
The Philosophy of (Erotic) Love
(Lawrence: University of Kansas Press, 1991), 463.

37 Under a functional magnetic resonance imaging scan: See Helen Fisher, “The Drive to Love: The Neural Mechanism for Mate Selection,” in Robert J. Sternberg and Karen Weis, eds.,
The New Psychology of Love
(New Haven, CT: Yale University Press, 2006), 91.

37 It’s so close: See Elaine Hatfield, “Passionate and Compassionate Love,” in Robert J. Sternberg and Michael L. Barnes, eds.,
The Psychology of Love
(New Haven, CT: Yale University Press, 1988), 199–205.

37 His appearances were: Otto,
Dionysus
, 74.

37 “God, how slow”: Colette,
The Other One
, trans. Elizabeth Tait and Roger Senhouse (New York: New American Library, 1960), 130.

37 To qualify for: Sarah Wendell and Candy Tan,
Beyond Heaving Bosoms: The Smart Bitches’ Guide to Romance Novels
(New York: Fireside Books/Simon & Schuster, 2009), 70.

37 Tightly wound and “aggressively ardent”: Ernest Newman,
The Man Liszt
(New York: Charles Scribner’s, 1935), 40, 14.

38 “His personal magnetism”: Quoted in Lucy Hughes-Hallett,
Heroes: A History of Hero Worship
(New York: Anchor Books, 2005), 36.

38 culture that enshrined moderation: Plutarch,
The Rise and Fall of Athens
, trans. Ian Scott-Kilvert (New York: Penguin, 1960), 246.

38 “second Dionysus”: Hughes-Hallett,
Heroes
, 14.

38 He fled to the enemy: E. F. Benson,
The Life of Alcibiades
(London: Ernest Benn, 1928), 109.

38 king’s wife numbered among them: Plutarch,
Rise and the Fall
, 267.

39 “The subject of this treatise:
The Complete K
ā
ma S
ū
tra
, trans. Alain Daniélou (Rochester, VT: Park Street Press, 1994), 111.

39 Women in Trenton: See Janet Evanovich,
Ten Big Ones
(New York: St. Martin’s Paperbacks, 2004), 290–291.

39 fierceromance blogspot: Carly Carson, “Heros in Romantic Fiction,” June 16, 2009, http://fierceromance.blogspot.com; and Evanovich,
Ten Big Ones
, 390.

39 sex drive lies on a continuum: For the best treatment of this, see John Money,
Love and Love Sickness: The Science of Sex: Gender Differences and Pair Bonding
(Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University Press, 1980), 78–100, 118.

39 “sensuality”: Quoted in Otto Rank,
The Don Juan Legend
, trans. David G. Winter (Princeton, NJ: Princeton University Press, 1975), 18.

39 Throughout deep history: For a discussion of the “magical effect” of sexual indulgence and phallic images, see George Ryley Scott,
Phallic Worship: A History of Sex and Sexual Rites
(London: Senate/Random House UK, 1966), 42–45.

40 Women’s dream lovers: A surprise for newcomers to the romance genre is the amount of explicit sex. Sarah Wendell and Candy Tan discuss this under the heading, “The Hero’s Wang of Mighty Lovin’,” in
Beyond Heaving Bosoms
, 83.

40 “walking orgasm”: E. C. Sheehy, “Midnight Plane to Georgia,” in
Bad Boys Southern Style
(New York: Brava/Kensington, 2006), 125.

40 “It’s bath time”: Ibid., 167.

40 “Don Juan Khan”: Leonard Slater,
Aly: A Biography
(New York: Random House, 1964), 6.

40 “charm in neon”: Definition of charisma from “Fast Forces of Attraction,”
Psychology Today
, January 2008.

40 Trained as a boy: Ibid., 4.

40 But he added: In an interview, he said that “class,” a desire to make women happy, and “a rose at a special moment” were his secrets to being a great lover. Quoted in a reprint of an interview with Porfirio Rubirosa in
El Universal
, 1955: “Porfirio Rubirosa: What Women Need,”
Repeating Islands
, June 6, 2010, http://repeatingislands.com/2010/06/21/porfirio-rubirosa-what-women-need.

41 “Rubi is so virile”: Quoted in Shawn Levy,
The Last Playboy: The High Life of Porfirio Rubirosa
(New York: HarperCollins, 2005), 160.

41 “hero of the boudoir”: Quoted in H. Noel Williams,
The Fascinating duc de Richelieu: Louis Francois Armand du Plessis
(New York: Charles Scribner’s, 1910), 51.

41 “Profligate,” adorable, and hypersexed: Cliff Howe, “duc de Richelieu,” in
Lovers and Libertines
(New York: Ace Books, 1958), 7.

41 “unbridled animal magnetism”: Ibid., 9.

41 “could ruin a woman”: Williams,
Fascinating duc de Richelieu
, 51.

41 Women were “wild”: Howe, “duc de Richelieu,” 7.

41 “clothed as Amazons”: Quoted in Williams,
Fascinating duc de Richlieu
, 51, 50.

42 “Destructive, damnable”: Thomas Otway,
The Orphan: or, the Unhappy Marriage
(London: W. Feales, 1735), act 3, scene 1.

42 “a honey-dripping chick magnet”: Marc Shapiro,
Ashton Kutcher: The Life and Loves of the King of Punk’d
(New York: Pocket Books, 2004), 4.

42 “love[s] the company of women”: Ibid., 5.

42 “treat women right”: Quoted in ibid., 23.

42 tradition is ancient: This refers to Jonathan’s love for David in the Old Testament, 2 Samuel 1:26.

42 Mirror neurons light up: See discussion of Pentland’s work in Winter, “How to Light Up a Room.”

43 Unlike the macho deities: Otto,
Dionysus
, 172.

43 Chekov’s rake: Anton Chekov, “The Lady with Lapdog,” in
Lady with Lapdog and Other Stories
, trans. David Magarshack (New York: Penguin, 1964), 265.

43 “like[s] women”: W. Somerset Maugham,
Up at the Villa
(New York: Vintage Books, 1940), 57.

43 “Women are more important”: Jennifer Crusie,
Bet Me
(New York: St. Martin’s Paperbacks, 2004), 213.

43 “madly in love”: Lydia Flem,
Casanova: The Man Who Really Loved Women
, trans. Catherine Temerson (New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1997), 80.

43 “he loved women”: Simon Sebag Montefiore,
Potemkin: Catherine the Great’s Imperial Partner
(New York: Vintage, 2005), 183.

44 “sweetly endearing appreciation”: Quoted in Suzanne Finstad,
Warren Beatty: A Private Man
(New York: Three Rivers Press, 2005), 86.

44 “He’s just wonderful”: Quoted in ibid., 293.

44 “sweet man”: Quoted in James Lincoln Collier,
Duke Ellington
(New York: Macmillan/McGraw-Hill, 1991), 10.

44 “Spoiled rotten”: Quoted in John Edward Hasse,
Beyond Category: The Life and Genius of Duke Ellington
(New York: Da Capo Press, 1993), 22, 256.

44 “absolutely adored him”: Ibid., 257.

44 “as flowers”: Quoted in ibid., 257.

44 “Is this the beautiful department?”: Quoted in ibid., 257.

44 “Does your contract”: Quoted in “The Duke,” in Irving Wallace et al.,
The Intimate Sex Lives of Famous People
(New York: Delacorte Press, 1981), 262.

44 “charismatic presence”: Don George,
Sweet Man: The Real Duke Ellington
(New York: Putnam’s, 1981), 109.

45 “The more feminine”: “The Evolution of Homosexuality: Gender Bending. Genes That Make Some People Gay Make Their Brothers and Sisters Fecund,”
Economist
, October 23, 2008, 97.

45 gender ambiguity: See Roach,
It
, 4, 11.

45 “
is
the charismatic personality”: Camille Paglia,
Sexual Personae: Art and Decadence from Nefertiti to Emily Dickinson
(New York: Vintage, 1990), 441.

45 women differ from men: For a discussion, see Andy Newman, “What Women Want (Maybe),”
New York Times
, June 12, 2008.

45 Other studies show: See “Evolution of Homosexuality,” 97; and Lois Rogers, “Feminine Face Is Key to a Woman’s Heart,
Sunday Times
(London), December 8, 2002.

46 Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung: See discussion in June Singer,
Androgyny: Toward a New Theory of Sexuality
(Garden City, NY: Anchor Books, 1977), 29–33.

46 “sensual perfection”: Quoted in “Androgyny,”
Parabola: Myth and the Quest for Meaning
, 3, no. 4 (1997), 27.

46 “great He-She”: Quoted in ibid., 24.

46 “divine sensual delight”: Alain Daniélou,
Gods of Love and Ecstasy: The Traditions of Shiva
(Rochester, VT: Inner Traditions, 1992), 63.

46 “Man-Woman” Dionysus: He was known as
thelymorphos
, a man with the appearance of a woman. Arthur Evans,
The God of Ecstasy: Sex Roles and the Madness of Dionysos
(New York: St. Martin’s Press, 1988), 21.

46 “Woman Whisperer”: Maureen Child,
Turn My World Upside Down
(New York: St. Martin’s Paperbacks, 2005), 1.

47 Byron’s androgyny: Benita Eisler,
Byron: Child of Passion, Fool of Fame
(New York: Vintage Books, 1999), 267.

47 “ravishing androgyny”: Quoted in Jeffrey Meyers,
Gary Cooper: American Hero
(New York: William Morrow, 1998), 88.

47 Six foot three: Ibid., 34–35.

47 “fell over themselves”: Quoted in ibid., 50.

47 “Gary had crooked”: Quoted in Meyers,
Gary Cooper
, 90.

47 explain his “hypnotic” effect: Quoted in ibid., 36.

48 “the perfect balance”: Quoted in ibid., 88.

48 “Creative types have”: Rusty Rockets, “Sexual Success and the Schizoid Factor,”
Science a GoGo
, April 28, 2006, www.scienceagogo.com/news/creativity.shtml.

48 They may lack: See Len Oakes, who quotes Weber about charisma: “It is creative,” for “in its pure form charisma . . . may be said to exist only in the process of originating.” Oakes,
Prophetic Charisma
, 27.

48 “incredibly close”: Quoted in Handley, ed.,
Lover’s Quotation Book
, 23.

48 “have more sex appeal”: The 2008 studies were conducted at Newcastle upon Tyne and the Open University. “Sex Appeal,” Peterman’s Eye, January 7, 2009, www.petermanseye.com/curiosities/notables-gossip/467-sex-appeal.