College Sex - Philosophy for Everyone: Philosophers With Benefits

Edited by Michael Bruce and Robert M
.
Stewart

PHILOSOPHY FOR EVERYONE

Series Editor: Fritz Allhoff

VOLUME EDITORS

MICHAEL BRUCE
currently works in the non-profit sector with at-risk youth. Previously, he was a teaching assistant at California State University, Chico, and received his Master’s degree from San Diego State University, specializing in continental philosophy.

He has published articles in the pop culture and philosophy genre and is currently editing Just the Arguments: 100 of the Most Important Arguments in Western Philosophy for Wiley-Blackwell.

ROBERT M. STEWART
is Professor of Philosophy at California State University, Chico. He is the author

of
Moral Philosophy: A Comprehensive Introduction
(1994), and editor of
Philosophical Perspectives on Sex and Love
(1995). He has published numerous journal articles.

SERIES EDITOR

FRITZ ALLHOFF
is an Assistant Professor in the Philosophy Department at Western Michigan University, as well as a Senior Research Fellow at the Australian National University’s Centre

for Applied Philosophy and Public Ethics. In addition to editing the
Philosophy for Everyone
series, Allhoff is the volume editor or co-editor for several titles, including
Wine & Philosophy
(Wiley-Blackwell, 2007),
Whiskey & Philosophy
(with Marcus P. Adams, Wiley, 2009), and

Food & Philosophy
(with Dave Monroe, Wiley-Blackwell, 2007).

PHILOSOPHY FOR EVE RYONE

Series editor: Fritz Allhoff

Not so much a subject matter, philosophy is a way of thinking.Thinking not just about the Big Questions, but about little ones too.This series invites everyone to ponder things they care about, big or small, significant, serious … or just curious.

Edited by Michael W. Austin

Edited by Fritz Allhoff

Edited by Fritz Allhoff and Dave Monroe

Edited by Steven D. Hales

Edited by Fritz Allhoff and Marcus P. Adams

and Robert M. Stewart

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Edited by Michael Bruce and Robert M. Stewart

COLLEGE SEX

PHILOSOPHY FOR EVERYONE

Philosophers With Benefits

Foreword by Heather Corinna

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This edition first published 2010

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College sex – Philosophy for Everyone: philosophers with benefits / Michael Bruce and Robert M. Stewart (eds.); with a foreword by Heather Corinna.

p. cm. — (Philosophy for everyone) Includes bibliographical references.

ISBN 978-1-4443-3294-0 (pbk.: alk. paper) 1. College students—Sexual behavior. 2. Sexual ethics. I. Bruce, Michael. II. Stewart, Robert Michael, 1952– III. Title: College sex – philosophy for everyone.

HQ35.2.C645 2010 176—dc22

2010004889

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Set in 10/12.5pt Plantin by SPi Publisher Services, Pondicherry, India Printed in Malaysia

1 2010

CONTENTS

Foreword viii

Heather Corinna

Acknowledgments xiii

Michael Bruce and Robert M. Stewart

Campus Orientation:
An Introduction to

College Sex – Philosophy for Everyone 1

Michael Bruce and Robert M. Stewart

PART I FRESHMAN YEAR: Hook-Up Culture
15

1. Sex and Socratic Experimentation 17
   

   Sisi Chen and George T. Hole
   

2. The Straight Sex Experiment 28
   

   Bassam Romaya
   

3. The Virtual Bra Clasp:
   Navigating Technology in
   

   College Courtship
   40
   

   Michael Bruce
   

4. Smeared Makeup and Stiletto Heels:
   Clothing, Sexuality,
   

   and theWalk of Shame
   51
   

   Brett Lunceford
   

5. Relations at a Distance 61
   

   Bill Puka
   

   PART II SOPHOMORE YEAR: Friends With Benefits
   75
   

6. What’s Love Got to Do with It? Epicureanism
   

   and Friends with Benefits 77
   

   William O. Stephens
   

7. Friends with Benefits:
   A Precarious Negotiation
   91
   

   Timothy R. Levine and Paul A. Mongeau
   

8. The Philosophy of Friends with Benefits:
   What College
   

   Students Think They Know
   103
   

   Kelli Jean K. Smith and Kelly Morrison
   

   PART III JUNIOR YEAR: Ethics of College Sex
   115
   

9. A Horny Dilemma:
   Sex and Friendship between
   

   Students and Professors
   117
   

   Andrew Kania
   

10. Philosophers and the Not So Platonic Student-Teacher Relationship 131
    

    Danielle A. Layne
    

11. Thinking About Thinking About Sex 145
    

    Ashley McDowell
    

12. Exploring the Association Between Love and Sex 158
    

    Guy Pinku
    

13. Sex for a College Education 169
    

    Matthew Brophy
    

    PART IV SENIOR YEAR: Sex and Self-Respect
    185
    

14. Meaningful Sex and Moral Respect 187
    

    Robert M. Stewart
    

15. Can Girls Go Wild With Self-Respect? 198
    

    John Draeger
    

16. Mutual Respect and Sexual Morality:
    

    How to Have College SexWell
    209
    

    Yolanda Estes
    

    

    vi
    CONTENTS
    

17. Bad Faith or True Desire? A Sartrean View on College Sex 220