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Authors: Travis Bradberry,Jean Greaves,Patrick Lencioni
Emotional Intelligence 2.0 (3 page)
The approaching wave stood tall to reveal Butch’s worst nightmare in the shimmering, translucent surface—a massive great white shark that stretched 14 feet from nose to tail. Paralyzed by the fear coursing through his veins, Butch let the wave roll past, and with it a speedy ride to the safety of the shoreline. It was just the shark and him now; it swam in a semi-circle and approached him head-on. The shark drifted in slowly along his left side, and he was too transfixed by the proximity of the massive fish to notice his left leg dangling perilously off his surfboard in the frigid saltwater.
It’s as big around as my Volkswagen
, Butch thought as the dorsal fin approached. He felt the sudden urge to reach out and touch the shark.
It’s going to kill me anyway. Why shouldn’t I touch it?
It’s as big around as my Volkswagen
, Butch thought as the dorsal fin approached. He felt the sudden urge to reach out and touch the shark.
It’s going to kill me anyway. Why shouldn’t I touch it?
The shark didn’t give him a chance. The shark, with a massive chomp of its jaws, thrust its head upward from underneath Butch’s leg. Butch’s leg stayed on top of the shark’s rising, boulder-sized head and out of its cavernous mouth, and he fell off the opposite side of his surfboard into the murky water. Butch splashing into the water sent the shark into a spastic frenzy. The shark waved its head about maniacally while snapping its jaws open and shut. The great white struck nothing; it blasted water in all directions as it thrashed about. The irony of floating alongside a 3,000-pound killing machine without so much as a scratch was not lost on Butch. Neither was the grave reality that this apex predator was unlikely to miss again. Thoughts of escape and survival flooded Butch’s mind as quickly and completely as terror had in the moments prior.
The shark stopped snapping and swam around Butch in tight circles. Instead of climbing back on his surfboard, Butch floated on his belly with his arms draped over the board. He rotated the surfboard as the shark circled, using the surfboard as a makeshift barrier between himself and the man-eater. Butch’s fear morphed into anger as he waited for the beast to strike. The shark came at him again, and Butch decided it was time to put up a fight. He aimed the sharp, pointed nose of his surfboard at the shark as it approached. When it raised its head out of the water to bite, Butch jammed the nose of the board into the shark’s slotted gills. This blow sent the shark into another bout of nervous thrashing. Butch climbed atop his board and yelled, “Shark!” at the pack of surfers down the beach. Butch’s warning and the sight of the turbulent cauldron of white-water around him sent the surfers racing for dry land.
Butch also paddled toward safety, but the shark stopped him dead in his tracks after just a few strokes. It surfaced in his path to the shoreline, and then began circling him once more. Butch came to the dire conclusion that his evasive tactics were merely delaying the inevitable, and a paralyzing fear took hold of him yet again. Butch lay there trembling on his surfboard while the shark circled. He mustered the will to keep the tip of his board pointed in the shark’s direction, but he was too terror-stricken to get back in the water and use his board as a barrier.
Butch’s thoughts raced between terror and sadness. He wondered what his three children were going to do without him and how long his girlfriend would take to move on with her life. He wanted to live. He wanted to escape this monster, and he needed to calm down if that was ever going to happen. Butch convinced himself that the shark could sense his fear like a rabid dog; he decided that he
must
get hold of himself because it was his fear that was motivating the shark to strike. To Butch’s surprise, his body listened. The trembling subsided, and the blood returned to his arms and legs. He felt strong. He was ready to paddle. And paddle Butch did—straight for the shoreline. A healthy rip current ensured that his journey to shore was a nerve-rattling five minutes of paddling like mad with the sense that the shark was somewhere behind him and could strike at any moment. When Butch made it to the beach, an awestruck group of surfers and other beachgoers were waiting for him. The surfers thanked him profusely for the warning and patted him on the back. For Butch Connor, standing on dry land had never felt so good.
must
get hold of himself because it was his fear that was motivating the shark to strike. To Butch’s surprise, his body listened. The trembling subsided, and the blood returned to his arms and legs. He felt strong. He was ready to paddle. And paddle Butch did—straight for the shoreline. A healthy rip current ensured that his journey to shore was a nerve-rattling five minutes of paddling like mad with the sense that the shark was somewhere behind him and could strike at any moment. When Butch made it to the beach, an awestruck group of surfers and other beachgoers were waiting for him. The surfers thanked him profusely for the warning and patted him on the back. For Butch Connor, standing on dry land had never felt so good.
Butch and the great white weren’t fighting the only battle in the water that morning. Deep inside Butch’s brain, his reason struggled for control of his behavior against an onslaught of intense emotions. The bulk of the time, his feelings won out, which was mostly to his detriment (paralyzing fear) but at times a benefit (the anger-fueled jab of his surfboard). With great effort, Butch was able to calm himself down, and—realizing the shark wasn’t going away—make the risky paddle for shore that saved his life. Though most of us will never have to tussle with a great white shark, our brains battle it out like Butch’s every single day.
The daily challenge of dealing effectively with emotions is critical to the human condition because our brains are hard-wired to give emotions the upper hand. Here’s how it works: everything you see, smell, hear, taste and touch travels through your body in the form of electric signals. These signals pass from cell to cell until they reach their ultimate destination, your brain. They enter your brain at the base near the spinal cord, but must travel to your frontal lobe (behind your forehead) before reaching the place where rational, logical thinking takes place. The trouble is, they pass through your limbic system along the way—the place where emotions are produced. This journey ensures you experience things emotionally before your reason can kick into gear.
The rational area of your brain (the front of your brain) can’t stop the emotion “felt” by your limbic system, but the two areas do influence each other and maintain constant communication. The communication between your emotional and rational “brains” is the physical source of emotional intelligence.
The physical pathway for emotional intelligence starts in the brain, at the spinal cord. Your primary senses enter here and must travel to the front of your brain before you can think rationally about your experience. But first they travel through the limbic system, the place where emotions are experienced.Emotional intelligence requires effective communication between the rational and emotional centers of the brain.
When emotional intelligence was first discovered, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding: people with the highest levels of intelligence (IQ) outperform those with average IQs just 20 percent of the time, while people with average IQs outperform those with high IQs 70 percent of the time. This anomaly threw a massive wrench into what many people had always assumed was the source of success—IQ. Scientists realized there must be another variable that explained success above and beyond one’s IQ, and years of research and countless studies pointed to emotional intelligence (EQ) as the critical factor.
people with the highest levels of intelligence (IQ) outperform those with average IQs just 20% of the time, while people with average IQs outperform those with high IQs 70% of the time.
A
Time
magazine cover and hours of television coverage introduced millions to EQ, and once people were exposed to it, they wanted to know more. They wanted to know how EQ worked and who had it. Most importantly, people wanted to know if
they
had it. Books emerged to scratch this itch, including our own,
The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book.
Released in 2004, the
Quick Book
was unique (and still is) because each copy contained a passcode that let the reader go online and take the world’s most popular EQ test, the
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal
®. The book satisfied readers’ curiosity by teaching the ins and outs of EQ and (thanks to the test) providing a new self-perspective that wasn’t available anywhere else.
Time
magazine cover and hours of television coverage introduced millions to EQ, and once people were exposed to it, they wanted to know more. They wanted to know how EQ worked and who had it. Most importantly, people wanted to know if
they
had it. Books emerged to scratch this itch, including our own,
The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book.
Released in 2004, the
Quick Book
was unique (and still is) because each copy contained a passcode that let the reader go online and take the world’s most popular EQ test, the
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal
®. The book satisfied readers’ curiosity by teaching the ins and outs of EQ and (thanks to the test) providing a new self-perspective that wasn’t available anywhere else.
The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book
hit home—it was an instant best seller that has been translated into 23 languages and is now available in more than 150 countries. But times have changed. The emotional intelligence field is on the steep incline of a new wave of understanding—how people can improve their EQ and make lasting gains that have a profoundly positive impact upon their lives. Just as knowing your EQ score was reserved for the privileged few before the publication of
The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book
, learning how to increase your EQ is something that happens only in isolated circles. Our company trains hundreds of people each week to increase their EQ, but even at this pace it would take 3,840 years to hit every adult in the U.S.! We realize that we’ve unwittingly been holding important information back. We believe everyone should have the opportunity to increase his or her EQ, and have created this book to make it possible.
hit home—it was an instant best seller that has been translated into 23 languages and is now available in more than 150 countries. But times have changed. The emotional intelligence field is on the steep incline of a new wave of understanding—how people can improve their EQ and make lasting gains that have a profoundly positive impact upon their lives. Just as knowing your EQ score was reserved for the privileged few before the publication of
The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book
, learning how to increase your EQ is something that happens only in isolated circles. Our company trains hundreds of people each week to increase their EQ, but even at this pace it would take 3,840 years to hit every adult in the U.S.! We realize that we’ve unwittingly been holding important information back. We believe everyone should have the opportunity to increase his or her EQ, and have created this book to make it possible.
Emotional Intelligence 2.0
has one purpose—increasing your EQ. These pages will take you far beyond knowing what EQ is and how you score. You’ll discover time-tested strategies that you can begin using today to take your EQ to new heights. As you transform yourself and bring new skills into your life, you’ll reap all of the benefits that this incredible human ability has to offer.
has one purpose—increasing your EQ. These pages will take you far beyond knowing what EQ is and how you score. You’ll discover time-tested strategies that you can begin using today to take your EQ to new heights. As you transform yourself and bring new skills into your life, you’ll reap all of the benefits that this incredible human ability has to offer.
The 66 strategies in this book are the result of many years of careful testing with people just like you. These strategies provide the specifics of what you need to say, do, and think to increase your EQ. To glean everything they have to offer, you need to know where to focus your attention. The first major step in your journey to a higher EQ is to go online and take the new edition of the
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal
® test. Taking the test now provides a baseline against which you can gauge your improvement as you read on and learn. Measuring your EQ takes your learning beyond a conceptual or motivational exercise—your score profile uncovers the EQ skills you need to improve the most, and it pinpoints the individual strategies from this book that will get you there. This feature is new to 2.0, and it takes the guesswork out of choosing the strategies that will increase your EQ the most.
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal
® test. Taking the test now provides a baseline against which you can gauge your improvement as you read on and learn. Measuring your EQ takes your learning beyond a conceptual or motivational exercise—your score profile uncovers the EQ skills you need to improve the most, and it pinpoints the individual strategies from this book that will get you there. This feature is new to 2.0, and it takes the guesswork out of choosing the strategies that will increase your EQ the most.
The value of measuring your EQ now is akin to learning the waltz with an actual partner. If I tell you how the dance works, you are likely to learn something and may even get the urge to try it yourself. If, as I show you how to do a waltz, you practice each step with a partner, your chances of remembering them later on the dance floor go up exponentially. The EQ profile you receive from taking the
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal
® is your dance partner in developing these skills. It will remind you where to step with every beat of the music.
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal
® is your dance partner in developing these skills. It will remind you where to step with every beat of the music.
Your online report includes a goal-tracking system that summarizes the skills you are working on and provides automatic reminders to help you stay focused. E-learning activities bring EQ to life via clips from Hollywood movies, television and real-world events. You will also learn how your scores compare to other people’s. You will see what percentage of the population you scored higher than and how your scores compare to those of specific groups with which you share certain characteristics. You can “ask” your report to contrast your scores with others based on gender, age, region of the world, job type and job title. For example, you might discover how you compare to other women in their forties who hold a marketing manager title at a company in North America.
In addition to receiving the most accurate scores possible, taking the
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal
®
now lets you see how much your EQ scores increase with time. You can take the test twice—once now and again after you’ve had enough time to practice and adopt the strategies from this book. After you complete the test a second time, your updated feedback report will display your scores side by side and offer insights into how you’ve changed and what your next steps should be to keep your EQ working for you. The orange insert at the back of this book contains instructions for going online to access the
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal
®
, as well as the unique passcode that you’ll need to access the test.
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal
®
now lets you see how much your EQ scores increase with time. You can take the test twice—once now and again after you’ve had enough time to practice and adopt the strategies from this book. After you complete the test a second time, your updated feedback report will display your scores side by side and offer insights into how you’ve changed and what your next steps should be to keep your EQ working for you. The orange insert at the back of this book contains instructions for going online to access the
Emotional Intelligence Appraisal
®
, as well as the unique passcode that you’ll need to access the test.
Emotions can help you and they can hurt you, but you have no say in the matter until you understand them. We invite you to begin your journey now, because we know that emotional mastery and understanding can become realities for
you
.
you
.
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