Girls Like Us

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Authors: Rachel Lloyd

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RACHEL LLOYD

GIRLS
LIKE
US

Fighting for a World Where
Girls Are Not for Sale,
an Activist Finds Her Calling
and Heals Herself

For Falicia and Adam. I miss you both.
To all the GEMS girls and young women,
past and present, who all hold a place in my heart.
I love you more than you will ever know.
And to all the girls like us.

Hang on to the world as it spins around.

Just don’t let the spin get you down.

Things are moving fast.

Hold on tight and you will last.

Keep your self-respect, your manly pride.

Get yourself in gear.

Keep your stride.

Never mind your fears.

Brighter days will soon be here.

Take it from me, someday we’ll all be free.

Keep on walking tall, hold your head up high.

Lay your dreams right up to the sky.

Sing your greatest song.

And you’ll keep going, going on.

Just wait and see, someday we’ll all be free.

Take it from me, someday we’ll all be free.

—DONNY HATHAWAY AND EDWARD HOWARD
,“Someday We’ll All Be Free”

Contents

Cover

Title Page

 

Prologue

Chapter 1 : Learning

Chapter 2 : Risk

Chapter 3 : Family

Chapter 4 : Recruitment

Chapter 5 : Pimps

Chapter 6 : Johns

Chapter 7 : Victims

Chapter 8 : Cops

Chapter 9 : Staying

Chapter 10 : Leaving

Chapter 11 : Relapse

Chapter 12 : Unlearning

Chapter 13 : Stigma

Chapter 14 : Healing

Chapter 15 : Leadership

Chapter 16 : Beginnings

Acknowledgements

Notes

Credits

 

About the Author

Additional Praise for
GIRLS LIKE US

 

Copyright

About the Publisher

Prologue

She likes swimming, SpongeBob, Mexican food, writing poetry, getting her nails painted (light pink is her favorite color), and Harry Potter books (plus she thinks Daniel Radcliffe is “fine”). This Christmas, she really wants an iPod but would settle for some sweat suits, preferably pink. Sometimes she’s petulant—pouting and sullen—but mostly she’s open and eager to be loved. When she smiles, huge dimples crease her chubby face and are still capable, as she moves into awkward adolescence, of melting hearts. She’s much like any other eleven-year-old girl in America, except for one critical difference. Over the last year of her life, she’s been trafficked up and down the East Coast by a twenty-nine-year-old pimp and sold nightly on Craigslist to adult men who ignore her dimples and her baby fat and purchase her for sex.

It’s late on a Friday night and I’m still in the office. As the executive director of Girls Educational and Mentoring Services (GEMS)—the organization I founded to help girls and young women who have been recruited and trafficked into the commercial sex industry—I have a lot of late nights at the office. During the day, the office functions as a drop-in center, filled with teenage girls who are meeting with their case managers, coming for poetry or cooking or a boxing group, using the computers, or simply hanging out on our old and overused couch. It’s frequently noisy; someone always needs something and while I love the energy of the space that we’ve created, it can be tough to get much paperwork done in this environment. After-hours, when all the girls and staff have left, is often my time to finish writing that grant that’s overdue or respond to the never-ending stream of e-mails that I can never seem to stay on top of. Tonight, though, I have no plans to be here till the wee hours; I’ve promised myself that I’m leaving in ten minutes.
The Soup
is on and I have a new
InStyle
magazine to read. After a long day and a long week, it’s a perfect Friday night plan.

When the office phone starts ringing, I’m almost tempted to ignore it and run out the door, but instead find myself answering and agreeing to a request to come to a foster care agency to meet a fourteen-year-old who’s just been picked up off the streets. Since we’re the only nonprofit in New York State designed to serve commercially sexually exploited girls, calls like these are common. Tonight the on-call staff is already at home in Brooklyn, so I figure it’s easier and quicker for me to just grab a cab downtown, do a quick assessment, try to make the girl feel safe and comfortable, and then transfer the case on Monday to one of my staff members. I figure I can still make it home in time for
The Soup
’s 1 a.m. rerun and my weekly date with Joel McHale.

Ten minutes after arriving at the agency, though, I’m grouchy and wishing I actually had let the phone ring; the security guard gives me a hard time about getting into the building and the two staff workers on duty act as if I’m invisible. I’m deposited on a bench in the hallway by another staff person who then disappears for almost an hour, time well spent writing furious e-mails in my head to the agency’s supervisor detailing what constitutes an emergency call on a Friday night and what doesn’t.

I’m struck as always by the sterile, clinical atmosphere of the agency. This newly renovated center had been unveiled with much fanfare from the city. In fairness, it stands in stark contrast to the prior building, which had been Dickensian in its disrepair, yet I can’t help feeling that they’ve really missed the boat with this new facility. Though it is clean, the harsh fluorescent lights and pale green walls, with the long hallways decorated with nothing more than a few child abuse hotline posters, don’t really add up to a warm feeling. I couldn’t imagine being a child who was brought here (actually, I could and that was worse). If you ended up here, it was likely after repeated abuse or neglect. You would probably just have been removed from your home, a terrifying experience even if you did feel lucky to escape. Now you were in unfamiliar territory, with strangers, in one of the most child unfriendly spaces in the city. I guess this thought had occurred to people other than me, because at least the living areas for the infants and toddlers had a wall mural and some brightly colored plastic furniture. Someone must have figured that the older kids didn’t need color or a semblance of warmth, as the only thing that decorated the walls of the girls’ unit were some pictures ripped out from
Essence
and
Honey
magazines. Clearly one of the staff had tried, but the effort is almost comical: a few magazine pictures, curled at the edges, of happy black women and girls, fashionable and beautiful, eating, laughing, celebrating life. I guess that a concerned woman of color who worked there desperately wanted the children of color, the overwhelming majority, who came through the doors to see images that looked like them in vastly different circumstances. Yet the sparseness of the unit in contrast with the staged, golden-lit happiness of the models makes their picture-perfect lives seem all the more unachievable and remote. I decide to once again offer my five decorating cents (warmer, brighter paint; colorful pictures; curtains; lamps; throw pillows) to the director before I leave.

I sit there redecorating in my mind, alternating between frustration (with waiting so bloody long) and sadness (that there even needs to be a place where kids can go when they can’t live at home), when finally two staff workers appear flanking a child, I presume the Danielle I’ve been told about, who is obviously fresh from a shower. Her wet black hair is swept back into a ponytail framing a very pretty, slightly chubby, but extremely pissed-off-looking face. I’d been informed that the clothes Danielle had been wearing when she was brought in were considered “inappropriate,” so her new attire consists of a plus-size shapeless black pantsuit, the type favored by larger women in their sixties and probably purchased at Walmart or Talbots. The outfit swamps her short frame, her hands hidden in the sleeves, the pants bagged around her ankles, creating a bizarre Aladdin look that is enhanced by an incongruous pair of black open-toed heels. Despite encouragement from the staff to put on socks and slippers, she has vehemently refused to let go of her shoes and clatters down the hallway with the familiar gait of a girl whose feet are killing her.

The staff members introduce me to Danielle as “someone who wants to talk to you,” which unsurprisingly is met with a completely disinterested look from her, and then leave us alone in the interview room. Given the staff’s bored and vague introduction, I figure I’ll give it another go.

“Hey, my name’s Rachel and I’m from a program called GEMS that works with teenage girls who’ve been in the life, and I’m just here to see how we can support and help you. I know you’ve had a pretty rough day, how are you doing tonight?”

Pause. Silence. Danielle sits eyeing me warily, with her arms folded tightly across her chest.

“Guess they didn’t tell you I was coming, huh?” I roll my eyes at the door. Cheap trick, bond against the system when all else fails. Silence.

“I’m just here to talk to you a little bit and see if there’s anything we can do. I’m not from the cops or child welfare or anything like that. What you tell me will be confidential.”

Silence. If she is at all relieved that I’m not a cop, she doesn’t show it.

“You know, the reason I started GEMS is cos I used to be in the life, too, so I wanted to have a place for girls who’d been through the same thing.”

Silence. That admission normally at least provoked a question: “Really, miss? How old was you?” “What track you worked?” “You had a daddy?” But nothing, not even a raised eyebrow or a show of interest.

“Can you tell me what brought you here today?”

Silence. This is a little tougher than I’d expected or, to be honest, wanted, particularly at the end of a long week. A lot of girls I encountered in these situations started chatting right away and it was harder getting them to be quiet.

“So I know that your name’s Danielle. Can I ask how old you are?”

I’d already been told over the phone by the intake worker that she is fourteen and it is a close-ended question (bad move in the counseling process), but I’m not really getting anywhere so I figure that this will at least get her to respond.

She breaks her silence. “Eleven.”

I’m so mentally prepared for a different answer that it takes a moment to register.

Double take.

“I’m sorry, how old?”

“Eleven.”

“Really?” I say, with far too much incredulity in my voice, and, I’m sure, on my face. Wow . . . dumb response.

She looks at me like I’m a little dense and just nods.

I wonder if perhaps she is lying. Lots of girls lied about their age in order to be older but I’d never met anyone who’d lied to be younger. While it probably isn’t hard to believe that one of the staff had erroneous information, I really don’t want to believe what she is telling me. Fourteen was bad enough, but eleven?

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