I Hate You—Don't Leave Me (32 page)

For many borderlines, “out of sight, out of mind” is an excruciatingly real truism. Panic sets in when the borderline is separated from a loved one because the separation feels permanent. Because memory cannot be adequately utilized to retain an image, the borderline forgets what the object of his concern looks like, sounds like, feels like. To escape the panicky sensation of abandonment and loneliness, the borderline tries to cling desperately—calling, writing, using any means to maintain contact.

“Borderline Personality Disorder.”
Journal of the California Alliance for the Mentally Ill
, Vol. 8, No. 1, 1997. Comments from experts, families, and persons with BPD.

Sometimes I Act Crazy: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder
, by J. J. Kreisman and H. Straus. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons, 2004. Detailed review of BPD symptoms, many from the patient's perspective, and recommendations for coping; directed toward families.

New Hope for People with Borderline Personality Disorder
, by N. R. Bockian, V. Porr, and N. E. Villagran. Roseville, CA: Prima Publishing, 2002. A readable book for the layperson emphasizing better prognosis.

Understanding and Treating Borderline Personality Disorder: A Guide for Professionals and Families
, by J. G. Gunderson and P. D. Hoffman. Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Publishing, 2005. A readable review for clinicians and families.

Borderline Personality Disorder: A Clinical Guide
(2nd ed.), by J. G. Gunderson. Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Publishing, 2008. Directed primarily for practitioners; includes a comprehensive list of resources.

Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified: An Essential Guide for Understanding and Living with BPD
, by R. O. Friedel. New York: Marlowe & Company, 2004. A readable guide for families.

 

Siren's Dance: My Marriage to a Borderline: A Case Study
, by A. Walker. Emmaus, PA: Rodale, 2003. A spouse's experience.

Lost in the Mirror: An Inside Look at Borderline Personality Disorder
(2nd ed.), by R. Moskovitz. Dallas, TX: Taylor Publications, 2001. Intimate descriptions of borderline pain.

Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder
, by R. Reiland. Center City, MN: Hazeldon Publishing, 2004. A personal account.

Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
, by R. Kreger and P. T. Mason. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 1998. An instructive manual.

The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder
, by R. Kreger. Center City, MN: Hazelden, 2008. Follow-up to
Stop Walking on Eggshells
with suggestions for the family.

Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents: A Complete Guide to Understanding and Coping When Your Adolescent Has BPD
, by B. A. Aguirre. Beverly, MA: Fair Winds Press, 2007. Dealing with the adolescent borderline.

Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds and Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem
, by K. Roth and F. B. Fried-man. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2003. For the children of borderline parents.

One of the oldest and most comprehensive sites with many suggested books and articles.

 

Lists many articles and books on BPD.

 

Recommends books and articles, author interviews, and general information for individuals and families.

 

Westchester Division of Cornell and Columbia University Hospitals maintains an active treatment unit headed by Otto Kernberg, MD, and a general informational website.

 

General information.

 

General information and answers to questions.

 

This is a site animated by Robert O. Friedel, MD, a leading psychiatrist and author of
Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified.

 

PDAN works to increase public awareness about the impact of BPD on children, relationships, and society.

 

One of the largest sites providing information and support for families.

 

A site for individuals recovering and looking for help with BPD.

 

Bulletin board for family members and loved ones of persons with BPD.

 

Bulletin board and email communication for practitioners working with BPD.

 

Provides education, books, support, and a state-by-state listing of physicians and therapists.

 

Support and education for patients, relatives, and professionals.

 

National nonprofit organization advocates for individuals with BPD and their families, sponsors workshops and seminars, operates a national resource and referral center, and articulates BPD issues to congressional legislators.

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