Mentor: A Memoir
Authors: Tom Grimes
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Praise for
Mentor
Mentor
“It’s astonishing how much insight, passion, pain, joy, self-doubt, and sheer love Tom Grimes has managed to pack into this tightly made memoir of his relationship with the writer Frank Conroy. Not only does
Mentor
offer an honest and compelling account of the struggles of a writer at the onset of his career, but this immaculately composed memoir also draws an enduring and eerily lifelike portrait of Frank Conroy. For me, it was as if Conroy had somehow risen from the dead before my eyes, with all his impish zest and stern earnestness and voluble wisdom.
Mentor
is a beautiful, beautiful book—a monument both to Frank Conroy and to the writer’s terrifying quest for artistic excellence.”
Mentor
offer an honest and compelling account of the struggles of a writer at the onset of his career, but this immaculately composed memoir also draws an enduring and eerily lifelike portrait of Frank Conroy. For me, it was as if Conroy had somehow risen from the dead before my eyes, with all his impish zest and stern earnestness and voluble wisdom.
Mentor
is a beautiful, beautiful book—a monument both to Frank Conroy and to the writer’s terrifying quest for artistic excellence.”
—TIM O’BRIEN, author of
The Things They Carried
The Things They Carried
“Generation to generation, writers have mentored one another, on the page, in classrooms, across café tables and lifetimes. Tom Grimes’s graceful, moving account of one such relationship is not only a primer on the joys and dangers of writing but also a considered love letter to the mentor who, in becoming Grimes’s literary ‘father,’ understood and supported his work, and so verified the spiritual surrender to ‘meaning, sense, clarity’ that radiates at the heart of the writing life. Frank Conroy entered the contemporary canon with his lucid, clarified prose, but he also mentored dozens of American writers, fostering an exacting refuge that today exists in his image. Tom Grimes has written a beautiful book, as muscular, honest, and lasting as the gift he received.
Mentor
belongs on the shelf of every writer, every teacher, every reader.”
Mentor
belongs on the shelf of every writer, every teacher, every reader.”
—JAY NEANNE PHILLIPS, author of
Lark & Termite
Lark & Termite
“
Mentor
is a fine and unique achievement. It’s moving as the record of a first-rate writer’s early career. But its uniqueness lies in its treatment of something quite ineffable, the way in which a major artist can nourish the talents and maintain the confidence of a younger one. Frank Conroy was a wild, wildly talented, phenomenal artist. Tom Grimes has served his memory superbly.”
Mentor
is a fine and unique achievement. It’s moving as the record of a first-rate writer’s early career. But its uniqueness lies in its treatment of something quite ineffable, the way in which a major artist can nourish the talents and maintain the confidence of a younger one. Frank Conroy was a wild, wildly talented, phenomenal artist. Tom Grimes has served his memory superbly.”
—ROBERT STONE, author of
Dog Soldiers
Dog Soldiers
“I can’t think of anyone in American letters other than Frank Conroy whose teaching of writing matched the power of his brilliant prose. His dictums still echo with me, twenty years after being in his workshop. Frank could be dogmatic, brilliant, erratic, and inspired in the space of two hours. Intensely personal, moving, powerful, and insightful,
Mentor
is a must read for people who write and for every reader who has wondered about the mysterious alchemy that produces a writer.”
Mentor
is a must read for people who write and for every reader who has wondered about the mysterious alchemy that produces a writer.”
—ABRAHAM VERGHESE, author of
Cutting for Stone
Cutting for Stone
“
Mentor
is a touching memoir about one of those rare encounters in life where the deep connection between two human beings transcends time and death. It is about artists and their arts, fathers and sons, families and friends, and, above all, love that allows each generation of artists to dream and create on the shoulders of its mentors.”
Mentor
is a touching memoir about one of those rare encounters in life where the deep connection between two human beings transcends time and death. It is about artists and their arts, fathers and sons, families and friends, and, above all, love that allows each generation of artists to dream and create on the shoulders of its mentors.”
—YIYUNLI, author of
The Vagrants
The Vagrants
“Tom Grimes has written a most affecting book. Part memoir and part homage to his mentor, Frank Conroy, it is also an extremely candid meditation on the writing life, both its joys and its pains. Anyone who has ever been on either side of the mentor-student relationship will catch glimpses of himself in this remarkable memoir.”
—SCOTT ANDERSON , author of
Triage
Triage
“
Mentor
is a tender, tough, and appropriately bewildered look into the heart of the Iowa Writers’ Workshop—indeed, into what it means to be a writer of ambition altogether. It is also a magnificent double portrait of two fiction writers, rendered in fine, piercing, fond, and ruthless prose—and, above all, a love letter to a teacher.”
Mentor
is a tender, tough, and appropriately bewildered look into the heart of the Iowa Writers’ Workshop—indeed, into what it means to be a writer of ambition altogether. It is also a magnificent double portrait of two fiction writers, rendered in fine, piercing, fond, and ruthless prose—and, above all, a love letter to a teacher.”
—ELIZABETH MCCRACKEN, author of
An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination
An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination
For the Conroys Maggie, Dan, Will, and Tim
PART ONE
CHAPTER ONE
I
was living in Key West and working as a waiter the first time I saw Frank Conroy. Each January, a literary seminar brought two dozen famous writers to the island. Panels featuring them took place in a large auditorium at the community college. On opening day at nine o’clock in the morning, the year’s keynote speaker addressed everyone in attendance. Given that my restaurant shift ended sometime after midnight and I invariably closed the After Deck bar several hours later, 9:00 AM had a middle-of-the-night feel to me. The bar’s wooden planks, white tables, and white chairs were suspended several feet above the Atlantic’s shallow inlet and overlooked what, as a young writer, I knew to be Sam Lawrence’s house. As an editor, he’d published Kurt Vonnegut, Tim O’Brien, and Thomas McGuane, idols to me at the time. Occasionally, I’d spot a cocktail party under way on his deck and wonder who was there sipping a scotch and if, someday, I might be one of them.
was living in Key West and working as a waiter the first time I saw Frank Conroy. Each January, a literary seminar brought two dozen famous writers to the island. Panels featuring them took place in a large auditorium at the community college. On opening day at nine o’clock in the morning, the year’s keynote speaker addressed everyone in attendance. Given that my restaurant shift ended sometime after midnight and I invariably closed the After Deck bar several hours later, 9:00 AM had a middle-of-the-night feel to me. The bar’s wooden planks, white tables, and white chairs were suspended several feet above the Atlantic’s shallow inlet and overlooked what, as a young writer, I knew to be Sam Lawrence’s house. As an editor, he’d published Kurt Vonnegut, Tim O’Brien, and Thomas McGuane, idols to me at the time. Occasionally, I’d spot a cocktail party under way on his deck and wonder who was there sipping a scotch and if, someday, I might be one of them.
When my alarm rang at eight thirty, I rose, splashed water on my face, brushed my teeth, then biked across the island from the clapboard house where I lived to the hall where Frank Conroy was scheduled to speak. I took a seat in the dim balcony, far from the stage. I’d been writing for more than a decade, and during the past year my first stories had found homes in nationally respected literary journals. Nevertheless, the chasm between the podium and myself seemed unbridgeable. It was as if the writers who would occupy the stage’s empty chairs had pierced a literary dimension in space-time and had returned simply to pass along wisdom, be applauded, and collect an honorarium. I feared that I would never join their ranks. I’d grown up in a bookless house, raised by a father who’d quit school after the eighth grade and mocked the novels I toted to the mediocre junior college in New York that had granted me admission. And although I’d managed two successful businesses in Manhattan—one of which sold expensive stationery, the other housewares and antiques—before my wife, Jody, and I moved to Key West two years earlier, I felt condemned to lead a waiter’s life, not a writer’s. That my station would climb no higher seemed apparent. Each winter, during high season, town was packed with tourists, and the job’s relentless, exhausting labor made composing an aesthetically coherent sentence, one with the rhythm, tempo, and music of a distinctive voice, as impossible for me as it was impossible for a physicist to snatch an electron from space while it orbited the nucleus of an atom. Clearly, I needed to change my life, but I didn’t know what life would replace the one I’d created. Like a novelist who never outlines a book, I’d never plotted my future. Instead, I trusted my intuition. Sometimes the results were good; other times, disastrous. Only one constant existed: I wrote. Writing was my center of gravity. If I quit, I’d implode. All my notebooks would become worthless. All my unfinished drafts, orphaned. The million words I’d written, however, insisted that I not give up. And since I couldn’t allow my doubt to overwhelm my work, at times I needed to glimpse the life I’d envisioned for myself. So I went to hear Frank Conroy speak.
I also went because, when I’d recently mentioned applying to law school, Jody stunned me by suggesting that I apply to writing programs instead. In New York, we’d lived four blocks from NYU and ten subway stops from Columbia University, each of which had notable creative writing programs, but never once had we discussed submitting my work to either of them. Nor had I ever had an impulse to join a writers’ group. I had no writer friends. I pursued my work in a vacuum. What existed were books, a typewriter, notepads, pencils, erasers, and I. Plus, the rejection letters I plucked out of our narrow metal mailbox, which I dreaded and revered for its power either to obliterate my expectations or, rarely, deliver word of my infinitesimal success. Beyond these monkish concerns, a palpable literary world didn’t exist for me. But, with several stories in print and no other prospects, I decided to take Jody’s advice, although I still half believed that creative writing programs had nothing to teach anyone and was suddenly terrified of being rejected. I selected four programs: Iowa because it was Iowa; Syracuse because Raymond Carver had taught there, and it was in New York; Boston University because I could graduate in a year; and the University of Florida at Gainesville because it was near Key West and so second rate that it would probably accept me without hesitation. I assembled an application that included the beginning of a novel—not the slim, semiautobiographical novel I’d written in my midtwenties, but a new, more ambitious one. I dropped four copies off at the Key West post office and then did what most young writers do—I waited.
In the auditorium, roughly three hundred people, most in their fifties or sixties, waited for Frank Conroy to appear. In 1987, he’d become the director of the Iowa Writers’ Workshop, and by the time he arrived in Key West in January 1989, he’d become as renowned for his new position as he’d been celebrated for his memoir,
Stop-Time
, twenty years earlier. Now, the raked rows of cushioned chairs and the velvet maroon drape, which hung several feet behind the dais, reinforced the event’s theatricality. A program listing the seminar’s events had been handed out. Around me, audience members studied each author’s biographical note, or circled the day and time of a panel they didn’t want to miss. A few men wore Hawaiian shirts, and the smooth face of the woman seated beside me gleamed with lotion. She smelled like a freshly peeled mango, and I wondered if she was, or hoped to be, a writer. Her long, glossy fingernails would have made typing difficult, and it was too dark to see if, like me, she had a calloused groove near the upper knuckle of her middle finger from holding a pencil while scribbling in a notebook. A slender gold bracelet circled her tanned left wrist, and her arms, bare to the shoulder, had the lean, sculpted look of a fortysomething woman who excelled in yoga and ran a charity marathon once a year. I imagined her sitting, freshly showered, at a walnut-stained, Colonial-style, lemon-waxed desk with brass handles on each of its six drawers. Already, the woman had become a character to me. Then the lights dimmed and a spotlight illuminated the podium. Frank Conroy emerged from the shadows and, in a gait neither hurried nor languid but at the deliberate pace of someone accustomed to having audiences await his arrival, he made his way to the microphone. He carried several sheets of white eight-and-a-half-by-eleven-inch paper in one hand. He parted his silvery-gray hair on the left like a schoolboy, yet the comfortable way he moved in his slightly baggy blazer and khaki pants lent him a patrician style. It seemed as if he’d boarded at a preparatory academy during his early teens and dated girls who wore plaid skirts and kneesocks before enrolling at Wellesley or Bard, when in fact he’d been educated at a New York City public high school. He approached my height, six foot, perhaps an inch more. He raised his head just enough for the audience at the rear of the hall to get a glimpse of his face as he adjusted the microphone. For an instant, his eyeglass lenses reflected the light. Then he lowered his head and, without acknowledging anyone’s presence, began to read. I’d planned to approach him to ask one question when he finished speaking. How that encounter would play out dominated my thoughts and numbed most of my senses. I no longer noticed the woman’s scent or felt the chair supporting me. If acid burned my throat, I didn’t taste it. I don’t remember a single syllable formed by his tongue and palate; to me, they composed a series of incomprehensible sounds. For twenty minutes, watching him stand at the podium constituted my entire universe. Then his address ended and he walked off the stage, ignoring what I recognized as applause.
Stop-Time
, twenty years earlier. Now, the raked rows of cushioned chairs and the velvet maroon drape, which hung several feet behind the dais, reinforced the event’s theatricality. A program listing the seminar’s events had been handed out. Around me, audience members studied each author’s biographical note, or circled the day and time of a panel they didn’t want to miss. A few men wore Hawaiian shirts, and the smooth face of the woman seated beside me gleamed with lotion. She smelled like a freshly peeled mango, and I wondered if she was, or hoped to be, a writer. Her long, glossy fingernails would have made typing difficult, and it was too dark to see if, like me, she had a calloused groove near the upper knuckle of her middle finger from holding a pencil while scribbling in a notebook. A slender gold bracelet circled her tanned left wrist, and her arms, bare to the shoulder, had the lean, sculpted look of a fortysomething woman who excelled in yoga and ran a charity marathon once a year. I imagined her sitting, freshly showered, at a walnut-stained, Colonial-style, lemon-waxed desk with brass handles on each of its six drawers. Already, the woman had become a character to me. Then the lights dimmed and a spotlight illuminated the podium. Frank Conroy emerged from the shadows and, in a gait neither hurried nor languid but at the deliberate pace of someone accustomed to having audiences await his arrival, he made his way to the microphone. He carried several sheets of white eight-and-a-half-by-eleven-inch paper in one hand. He parted his silvery-gray hair on the left like a schoolboy, yet the comfortable way he moved in his slightly baggy blazer and khaki pants lent him a patrician style. It seemed as if he’d boarded at a preparatory academy during his early teens and dated girls who wore plaid skirts and kneesocks before enrolling at Wellesley or Bard, when in fact he’d been educated at a New York City public high school. He approached my height, six foot, perhaps an inch more. He raised his head just enough for the audience at the rear of the hall to get a glimpse of his face as he adjusted the microphone. For an instant, his eyeglass lenses reflected the light. Then he lowered his head and, without acknowledging anyone’s presence, began to read. I’d planned to approach him to ask one question when he finished speaking. How that encounter would play out dominated my thoughts and numbed most of my senses. I no longer noticed the woman’s scent or felt the chair supporting me. If acid burned my throat, I didn’t taste it. I don’t remember a single syllable formed by his tongue and palate; to me, they composed a series of incomprehensible sounds. For twenty minutes, watching him stand at the podium constituted my entire universe. Then his address ended and he walked off the stage, ignoring what I recognized as applause.
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