The Favored Daughter (38 page)

finance business of,
186

imprisonment of,
139–44
,
146–70
,
172–3
,
183

marriage, See marriage of Fawzia Koofi

teacher,
188
,
191

torture of, by Taliban,
209

and tuberculosis,
170
,
173
,
188
,
191–3
,
198
,
200
,
209–113

Koofi, Shaharzad (daughter), x,
1
,
15
,
29
,
37
,
46
,
61
,
63
,
69
,
85
,
109
,
121
,
129
,
137
,
145
,
171
,
185–90
,
192
,
205
,
215
,
222
,
227
,
235

birth of,
186–8

infancy of,
190

Koofi, Shuhra (daughter), x,
1
,
15
,
29
,
37
,
47
,
61
,
63
,
69
,
85
,
109
,
121
,
129
,
137
,
145
,
171
,
185
,
189–93
,
195–6
,
198
,
205
,
210
,
215
,
222
,
227
,
235
,
252

Koofi political dynasty,
1
,
5–7
,
10
,
19–22
,
26
,
31
,
38
,
42
,
50–1
,
61
,
91
,
97
,
147
,
194
,
196
,
216–19
,
222
,
224–5
,
227
,
230
,
235
,
238–40
,
241
,
243
,
250–61

Kuchis,
181

Kunduz,
57
,
123
,
238

Lahore,
157–9

landmines,
174–5

letters to daughters,
1–2
,
15
,
29–30
,
37
,
47
,
61–2
,
63
,
69
,
85
,
97–9
,
109
,
121–2
,
129–30
,
137
,
145
,
171
,
185
,
205
,
215
,
222
,
227
,
241

on achievement,
1–2

on Afghanistan,
205

on celebrations,
129–30

on change,
47

on civil war,
29–30
,
37

on courage,
1–2
,
15
,
241

on death threats,
1–2
,
47

on duty,
137

on education,
1–2

on family,
61–2

on grandfather Abdul Rahman,
241

on girl children,
15

on giving up,
171

on grandmother Bibi jan,
97–9

on Islam,
109

on the kindness of others,
121–2

on loss,
145

on loyalty,
69

on marriage,
15
,
137

on mother-daughter intimacy,
129

on politics,
227

on snobbery,
185

on Taliban,
109

loya jirga (tribal council),
210
,
221
,
254–5

MacKay, Peter,
240

madrassas (religious schools),
83
,
92
,
101

Makrorian, Kabul,
58
,
70
,
77
,
79
,
82
,
127
,
138
,
143
,
169
,
211

male clothing in Afghanistan,
20
,
35
,
58
,
102
,
104
,
113
,
116
,
150–1
,
156
,
176
,
180
,
220
,
233

beards,
113
,
116
,
150

long striped coats,
220

paqul,
58

and the Taliban,
102

turbans,
35
,
104
,
116
,
139
,
151
,
156
,
176
,
180
,
220
,
233

See shalwar kameez

marriage, and Afghan culture,
4–6
,
8
,
10–11
,
15
,
19–26
,
38
,
42
,
53–4
,
86–8
,
91
,
115–19
,
131–36
,
137
,
138
,
139
,
144
,
149
,
162
,
168
,
171
,
180
,
209
,
212

and child brides,
15
,
19
,
24–5

and children,
23–4
,
38

and engagement,
117–19

and financial pressures,
15

and love,
5

married women, segregation of,
11

and mujahideen,
53–4

and obedience/duty,
4–5
,
11
,
137

wedding day,
131–6

See polygamy; weddings

marriages of Abdul Rahman,
4–5
,
10–12
,
20–4
,
35
,
91–3

and divorce,
10

and eight wives,
4–5
,
10–11
,
21–4
,
35
,
91–2

and Koofi's mother, See parents' marriage

and perfectionism,
11

twenty-three children,
4

See parents' marriage

marriage of Fawzia Koofi,
86–92
,
115–19
,
131–36
,
137
,
138
,
139
,
149–50
,
186
,
190–3
,
209–13
,
215
,
216
,
230
,
232

arrangement of,
89–90
,
115–16

character of,
90–1

courtship,
89–90

death of husband

See Hamid Koofi, death of

engagement,
117–19

in Faizabad,
186

and girl daughters,
190–2

and Hamid's sickness

See Hamid Koofi, and tuberculosis

imprisonment of Hamid

See Hamid Koofi, imprisonment of

and independence,
91–2

meeting Hamid,
86–7

and mother's blessing,
87
,
90

on polygamy,
91–2

and politics,
230
,
232

on remarrying,
216

and sexual intimacies,
191

and the Taliban,
131–36
,
209

and $20,000 price tag,
116–17
,
180–1
,
191

wedding day,
131–6
,
137
,
138
,
139

Massoud, Ahmed Shah (“Lion of Panjshir”),
48
,
70
,
77
,
101–3
,
105–7
,
124–5
,
158–9
,
173–4
,
200–3
,
206–7
,
231
,
248
,
254

maternal mortality, ix,
152–3
,
187
,
219
,
242–3

Mazary, Abdul Ali,
70

Mazaar,
123

member of parliament (MP) (Abdul Rahman),
5–10
,
20–1
,
31–5
,
76
,
216–20
,
250

as arbab (a leader of the village),
8

assassination of,
32–4

and Atanga Pass road,
7–8

character of,
10

imprisonment of,
20

and leadership,
7–10
,
20

and poor people,
8–9

pressure of,
20–1

radio address,
9

and Saur Revolution,
29–31

member of parliament (MP) (Fawzia Koofi), ix-x,
1–2
,
4–6
,
26
,
39
,
42
,
44–5
,
47
,
61
,
97
,
121–2
,
193–200
,
206–7
,
216–25
,
227
,
228–40
,
241
,
242–52

and brothers,
59

campaigning,
26
,
39
,
42
,
206–7
,
219–25
,
229–31
,
235
,
240

and change,
47

and criticism,
199–200

death threats, ix-x,
1–2
,
4
,
47
,
250

as deputy speaker,
235–8

dreams for Afghanistan,
244–52

election as,
228–30

and her father,
193–7

and female leaders,
44

as husband,
216

and horizons,
44–5

and Indira Gandhi,
44

and international politicians,
239–40

and marriage,
230
,
232

and medical survey tour,
193–7

and poverty, x,
193–8
,
216
,
219
,
234
,
240
,
242–4

and privacy,
121–2
,
230

and public speaking,
197

reflections on,
230

and smears/rumors,
231

and Taliban,
248–9

and women's rights,
197–8
,
219–20
,
242–4
,
248–9

Meshrano Jirga (House of the Elders),
232

Michel, Louis,
200

middle class,
79

militia,
112
,
115–16
,
254

Ministry of Defense,
151

Ministry of the Interior,
58
,
141

Ministry of Vice and Virtue,
113
,
133
,
144 Mo
ngol,
22
,
70

“morality crimes,”
113
,
149

See Taliban

Mother of the Year contest,
197

motherhood, and Fawzia Koofi,
129
,
152–5
,
171
,
172
,
179–200
,
186–92

and abortion,
189

and childbirth,
186–92

and pregnancy,
152–5
,
171
,
171
,
179–80
,
186–92

on a son,
62
,
191

See letters to daughters

Mughals,
158

muharram,
132
,
140–1

mujahideen (Afghan fighters),
29
,
31–4
,
39–42
,
48–55
,
58
,
66
,
70–83
,
90
,
93
,
100–2
,
106–7
,
110
,
115
,
117
,
123–4
,
132
,
158
,
162
,
173
,
175
,
186
,
190
,
197
,
202
,
217
,
223
,
232
,
239
,
245
,
249
,
253–4

and “dead man's dance,”
49

and Fawzia Koofi,
31–4
,
53–6

as heroes,
31–3

peace treaty,
92–3

and politics,
31–3
,
48–58
,
66
,
70

and propaganda,
52

and robbing and killing,
76

and Shia,
81

and the Taliban,
100–1

and torture,
31–4
,
39–43
,
49

victory over Soviets,
48

and women,
39–43
,
50–4
,
79–82

mujahideen and Fawzia Koofi,
31–4
,
52–6

murder of half-brother,
55

murder of father,
31–4

torment of family,
39–43

mujahideen and women,
38–43
,
50–4
,
79–82

abuse of women/girls,
39–43
,
50–4
,
79–82

female news anchors,
53

forced marriages,
53–4

and rape,
79–82

Muslims,
21
,
40
,
51
,
67
,
70
,
80–1
,
109
,
121
,
141–3
,
159
,
161
,
166
,
168
,
194
,
202
,
208
,
222