The Happiness Trap (27 page)
setting,
1
,
2
vs values,
1
,
2
going ‘off track’,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
grieving
expansion session transcript,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
initial feelings,
1
,
2
,
3
power of breathing,
1
,
2
recovery,
1
,
2
grizzly bears, meeting,
1
,
2
guilt trips,
1
H
happiness
on hold,
1
,
2
,
3
health
neglected,
1
values,
1
,
2
heart, follow your,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
hiding strategy,
1
hostile neighbour analogy,
1
,
2
human mind
as storyteller,
1
,
2
evolution of,
1
thought process,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
,
7
,
8
hyperventilation,
1
,
2
I
ice cream experiment,
1
‘I’m having the thought that...’,
1
,
2
images
defusing,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
explained,
1
,
2
‘imposter syndrome’,
1
,
2
incompetence, belief of,
1
,
2
,
3
intimate relationships, values,
1
J
James, Henry,
1
judgements,
1
,
2
,
3
‘learning history’,
1
L
leisure, values,
1
life
consider changes,
1
looking back on,
1
,
2
Life Values questionnaire,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
light bulb invention,
1
listening,
1
loneliness, defusing feeling,
1
,
2
M
Man’s Search for Meaning (book),
1
marriage, values,
1
meditation,
1
,
2
memories, painful,
1
men, suppression of feelings,
1
mental pictures
see images
mental suffering,
1
mind
see human mind
mindfulness
breathing technique,
1
effect on life,
1
explained,
1
practising,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
of world around,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
mindfulness meditation,
1
,
2
‘misery zone’,
1
mistakes,
1
,
2
moods,
1
morning routine, connecting with,
1
,
2
motivational books,
1
motivations
core values,
1
,
2
examining,
1
multiple sclerosis diagnosis,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
musical soundtrack,
1
musical thoughts,
1
,
2
,
3
myths about happiness,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
N
nature, values,
1
Nazi death camps, survival in,
1
,
2
negative feelings,
1
,
2
,
3
negative thoughts
defusion techniques,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
demotivating,
1
,
2
not the enemy,
1
recurring,
1
,
2
unjustified,
1
,
2
,
3
newspaper stories,
1
,
2
Nietzsche, Friedrich,
1
Notice Five Things exercise,
1
numbing strategy,
1
O
OBSERVE acronym,
1
,
2
,
3
observing
daily experiences,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
process of,
1
vs thinking,
1
observing self, the
awareness of,
1
,
2
connection,
1
,
2
,
3
in everyday life,
1
,
2
experiencing,
1
,
2
,
3
explained,
1
,
2
function,
1
,
2
,
3
qualities,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
weather analogy,
1
obstacles
see difficulties
opportunities
often missed,
1
,
2
vs difficulties,
1
,
2
opposites, attraction of,
1
,
2
optimism, attitude of,
1
,
2
overweight,
1
,
2
,
3
P
pain of living,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
panic disorder,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
Passion of the Christ, The (film),
1
,
2
past, accepting,
1
perfection,
1
personal development, values,
1
personal dislikes,
1
personal growth, choice,
1
,
2
physical exercise,
1
positive thoughts radio analogy,
1
,
2
present, being
see connection
problems
reaction to,
1
sharing,
1
vicious cycles,
1
,
2
,
3
common,
1
Q
quicksand analogy,
1
,
2
quotes, inspiring,
1
R
radio analogy,
1
,
2
,
3
reason-giving,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
recreation, values,
1
reflex reactions,
1
rejection, avoiding,
1
,
2
,
3
Relational Frame Theory,
1
relationships, values,
1
riches
as goal,
1
,
2
,
3
underlying values,
1
,
2
Robert the Bruce,
1
,
2
Roberts, Julia,
1
,
2
running commentary,
1
,
2
S
sadness,
1
,
2
,
3
self
deficiencies,
1
,
2
dislikes about,
1
,
2
identifying,
1
,
2
self-acceptance,
1
self-awareness,
1
,
2
self-blame,
1
self-bullying strategy,
1
self-criticism,
1
self-esteem
building,
1
,
2
letting go of,
1
low,
1
,
2
,
3
questions and answers,
1
,
2
self-help movement,
1
,
2
,
3
self-talk,
1
sensations, observing,
1
Serenity Challenge,
1
,
2
silly subtitles technique,
1
silly voices technique,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
‘single and lonely’ story,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
social interaction avoiding,
1
seeking,
1
solutions become problems,
1
,
2
sounds, awareness of,
1
spirituality, values,
1
stories
dirty dog wash,
1
‘give up’,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
inspirational,
1
naming,
1
,
2
negative,
1
,
2
not the event,
1
,
2
recurring,
1
‘single and lonely’,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
thoughts as,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
unhelpful,
1
,
2
struggle switch
effect of,
1
explained,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
physical reactions,
1
success
personal choices,
1
redefining,
1
,
2
suppression strategy,
1
survival
strength for,
1
,
2
,
3
techniques,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
,
7
T
taking charge strategy,
1
television screen technique,
1
,
2
,
3
Ten Deep Breaths,
1
,
2
,
3
thanking your mind technique,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
thinking self, the
biased life documentary,
1
,
2
causing disconnection,
1
constantly working,
1
,
2
,
3
distraction of,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
experiencing,
1
,
2
,
3
function,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
,
7
,
8
judgemental,
1
,
2
put to good use,
1
,
2
,
3
stories about emotions,
1
,
2
thinking vs observing,
1
thoughts acceptance of,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
as stories,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
cognitive fusion,
1
,
2
control questionnaire,
1
,
2
,
3
controlling,
1
,
2
distancing from,
1
,
2
effect on behaviour,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
helpful,
1
,
2
illusion of control,
1
,
2
,
3
managing,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
musical,
1
,
2
,
3
not taken seriously,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
practise noticing,
1
process explained,
1
,
2
,
3
unhelpful,
1
see also negative thoughts; positive thoughts
U
unhelpful,
1
,
2
uncertainty, embracing,
1
,
2
unhelpful thoughts
defusion,
1
,
2
,
3
emotions,
1
,
2
fusion,
1
,
2
,
3
radio analogy,
1
,
2
urge surfing,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
,
7
,
8
,
9
urges
awareness of,
1
,
2
balancing act,
1
,
2
push and pull,
1
,
2
response to,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
‘Valued Living Questionnaire’,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
,
7
,
8
V
values
and relationships,
1
as motivators,
1
,
2
1
,
2
vs values,
1
,
2
going ‘off track’,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
grieving
expansion session transcript,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
initial feelings,
1
,
2
,
3
power of breathing,
1
,
2
recovery,
1
,
2
grizzly bears, meeting,
1
,
2
guilt trips,
1
H
happiness
on hold,
1
,
2
,
3
health
neglected,
1
values,
1
,
2
heart, follow your,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
hiding strategy,
1
hostile neighbour analogy,
1
,
2
human mind
as storyteller,
1
,
2
evolution of,
1
thought process,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
,
7
,
8
hyperventilation,
1
,
2
I
ice cream experiment,
1
‘I’m having the thought that...’,
1
,
2
images
defusing,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
explained,
1
,
2
‘imposter syndrome’,
1
,
2
incompetence, belief of,
1
,
2
,
3
intimate relationships, values,
1
J
James, Henry,
1
judgements,
1
,
2
,
3
‘learning history’,
1
L
leisure, values,
1
life
consider changes,
1
looking back on,
1
,
2
Life Values questionnaire,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
light bulb invention,
1
listening,
1
loneliness, defusing feeling,
1
,
2
M
Man’s Search for Meaning (book),
1
marriage, values,
1
meditation,
1
,
2
memories, painful,
1
men, suppression of feelings,
1
mental pictures
see images
mental suffering,
1
mind
see human mind
mindfulness
breathing technique,
1
effect on life,
1
explained,
1
practising,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
of world around,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
mindfulness meditation,
1
,
2
‘misery zone’,
1
mistakes,
1
,
2
moods,
1
morning routine, connecting with,
1
,
2
motivational books,
1
motivations
core values,
1
,
2
examining,
1
multiple sclerosis diagnosis,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
musical soundtrack,
1
musical thoughts,
1
,
2
,
3
myths about happiness,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
N
nature, values,
1
Nazi death camps, survival in,
1
,
2
negative feelings,
1
,
2
,
3
negative thoughts
defusion techniques,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
demotivating,
1
,
2
not the enemy,
1
recurring,
1
,
2
unjustified,
1
,
2
,
3
newspaper stories,
1
,
2
Nietzsche, Friedrich,
1
Notice Five Things exercise,
1
numbing strategy,
1
O
OBSERVE acronym,
1
,
2
,
3
observing
daily experiences,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
process of,
1
vs thinking,
1
observing self, the
awareness of,
1
,
2
connection,
1
,
2
,
3
in everyday life,
1
,
2
experiencing,
1
,
2
,
3
explained,
1
,
2
function,
1
,
2
,
3
qualities,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
weather analogy,
1
obstacles
see difficulties
opportunities
often missed,
1
,
2
vs difficulties,
1
,
2
opposites, attraction of,
1
,
2
optimism, attitude of,
1
,
2
overweight,
1
,
2
,
3
P
pain of living,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
panic disorder,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
Passion of the Christ, The (film),
1
,
2
past, accepting,
1
perfection,
1
personal development, values,
1
personal dislikes,
1
personal growth, choice,
1
,
2
physical exercise,
1
positive thoughts radio analogy,
1
,
2
present, being
see connection
problems
reaction to,
1
sharing,
1
vicious cycles,
1
,
2
,
3
common,
1
Q
quicksand analogy,
1
,
2
quotes, inspiring,
1
R
radio analogy,
1
,
2
,
3
reason-giving,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
recreation, values,
1
reflex reactions,
1
rejection, avoiding,
1
,
2
,
3
Relational Frame Theory,
1
relationships, values,
1
riches
as goal,
1
,
2
,
3
underlying values,
1
,
2
Robert the Bruce,
1
,
2
Roberts, Julia,
1
,
2
running commentary,
1
,
2
S
sadness,
1
,
2
,
3
self
deficiencies,
1
,
2
dislikes about,
1
,
2
identifying,
1
,
2
self-acceptance,
1
self-awareness,
1
,
2
self-blame,
1
self-bullying strategy,
1
self-criticism,
1
self-esteem
building,
1
,
2
letting go of,
1
low,
1
,
2
,
3
questions and answers,
1
,
2
self-help movement,
1
,
2
,
3
self-talk,
1
sensations, observing,
1
Serenity Challenge,
1
,
2
silly subtitles technique,
1
silly voices technique,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
‘single and lonely’ story,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
social interaction avoiding,
1
seeking,
1
solutions become problems,
1
,
2
sounds, awareness of,
1
spirituality, values,
1
stories
dirty dog wash,
1
‘give up’,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
inspirational,
1
naming,
1
,
2
negative,
1
,
2
not the event,
1
,
2
recurring,
1
‘single and lonely’,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
thoughts as,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
unhelpful,
1
,
2
struggle switch
effect of,
1
explained,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
physical reactions,
1
success
personal choices,
1
redefining,
1
,
2
suppression strategy,
1
survival
strength for,
1
,
2
,
3
techniques,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
,
7
T
taking charge strategy,
1
television screen technique,
1
,
2
,
3
Ten Deep Breaths,
1
,
2
,
3
thanking your mind technique,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
thinking self, the
biased life documentary,
1
,
2
causing disconnection,
1
constantly working,
1
,
2
,
3
distraction of,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
experiencing,
1
,
2
,
3
function,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
,
7
,
8
judgemental,
1
,
2
put to good use,
1
,
2
,
3
stories about emotions,
1
,
2
thinking vs observing,
1
thoughts acceptance of,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
as stories,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
cognitive fusion,
1
,
2
control questionnaire,
1
,
2
,
3
controlling,
1
,
2
distancing from,
1
,
2
effect on behaviour,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
helpful,
1
,
2
illusion of control,
1
,
2
,
3
managing,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
musical,
1
,
2
,
3
not taken seriously,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
practise noticing,
1
process explained,
1
,
2
,
3
unhelpful,
1
see also negative thoughts; positive thoughts
U
unhelpful,
1
,
2
uncertainty, embracing,
1
,
2
unhelpful thoughts
defusion,
1
,
2
,
3
emotions,
1
,
2
fusion,
1
,
2
,
3
radio analogy,
1
,
2
urge surfing,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
,
7
,
8
,
9
urges
awareness of,
1
,
2
balancing act,
1
,
2
push and pull,
1
,
2
response to,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
‘Valued Living Questionnaire’,
1
,
2
,
3
,
4
,
5
,
6
,
7
,
8
V
values
and relationships,
1
as motivators,
1
,
2
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