The Pursuit of Happiness (2001) (2 page)

As my upstairs neighbor, Christine, embraced me, I glanced over her shoulder. Charlie was now walking towards our father’s grave. The woman was still standing there. But once she saw him coming (and evidently knowing who he was), she immediately backed away, giving him clear access to Dad’s plain granite monument. Charlie’s head was lowered, his gait shaky. When he reached the gravestone, he leaned against it for support - and suddenly began to sob. At first he tried to stifle his distress, but within a moment he lost that battle and was sobbing uncontrollably. I gently removed myself from Christine’s embrace. Instinctively, I wanted to run right over to him - but I stopped myself from such an outward show of sibling sympathy (especially as I couldn’t instantly forgive the pain that my mother silently suffered about his absence over all those years). Instead, I slowly walked towards him, and lightly touched his arm with my hand.

‘You okay, Charlie?’ I asked quietly.

He lifted up his head. His face was tomato red, his eyes awash in tears. Suddenly he lurched towards me, his head collapsing against my shoulder, his arms clutching me as if I was a life preserver in high seas. His sobbing was now fierce, uninhibited. For a moment I stood there, arms at my side, not knowing what to do. But his grief was so profound, so total, so
loud
that, eventually, I simply had to put my arms around him.

It took him a good minute before his cries subsided. I stared ahead into the distance, watching Ethan (having just returned from the toilet) being gently restrained by Matt from running towards me. I winked at my son, and he repaid me with one of those hundred-watt smiles that instantly compensates for all the exhausting, endless stress that is an essential component of parenthood. Then I looked to the left of Ethan, and saw that woman again. She was standing discreetly in an adjoining plot, watching me comfort Charlie. Before she turned away (again!), I momentarily saw the intensity of her gaze. An intensity which made me wonder: how the hell does she know us?

I turned back to look at Ethan. He pulled open his mouth with two fingers and stuck out his tongue - one of the repertoire of funny faces he pulls whenever he senses I am getting far too serious for his liking. I had to stifle a laugh. Then I glanced back to where the woman was standing. But she was no longer there - and was instead walking alone down the empty graveled path that led to the front gates of the cemetery.

Charlie gulped hard as he tried to control his sobbing. I decided it was time to end the embrace, so I gently disentangled myself from his grip.

‘Are you okay now?’ I asked.

He kept his head bowed.

‘No,’ he whispered, then added: ‘I should’ve, I should’ve …’

The crying started again.
I should’ve.
The most agonizing, self-punitive expression in the English language. And one we all utter constantly throughout this farce called life. But Charlie was right.
He should’ve.
Now there was nothing he could do about it.

‘Come back to the city,’ I said. ‘We’re having some drinks and food at Mom’s apartment. You remember where it is, don’t you?’

I immediately regretted that comment, as Charlie began to sob again.

‘That was dumb,’ I said quietly. ‘I’m sorry.’

‘Not as sorry as me,’ he said between sobs. ‘Not as …’

He lost control again, his crying now ballistic. This time, I didn’t offer him solace. Instead, I turned away and saw that Meg was now hovering nearby, looking dispassionate, yet waiting to be of assistance. When I turned towards her, she nodded in the direction of Charlie and arched her eyebrows, as if to ask, ‘Want me to take over here?’ You bet. She approached her nephew, and said, ‘Come on, Charlie-boy,’ linking her arm through his, ‘let’s you and I take a little walk.’

Matt now relaxed his grip on Ethan, who ran towards me. I crouched down to scoop him up in my arms.

‘You feeling better?’ I asked.

‘The toilet was yucky,’ he said.

I turned towards my mother’s grave. The minister was still standing by the coffin. Behind him were the cemetery’s grounds-keepers. They were keeping a discreet distance from the proceedings, but I could still tell they were waiting for us to leave so they could lower her into subterranean Queens, bring out the earth movers, plug the hole, then head off to lunch … or maybe the nearest bowling alley. Life really does go on - whether you’re here or not.

The minister gave me a small telling nod, the subtext of which was:
it’s time to say goodbye.
Okay, Rev., have it your way. Let’s all join hands and sing.

Now it’s time to say goodbye to all our company …
M-I-C … See you real soon …
K-E-Y … Why? Because we like you … M-O-U-S-E …

For a nanosecond, I was back in the old family apartment on 84th Street between Broadway and Amsterdam. Six years old, home from first grade at Brearley, watching Annette, Frankie and all the Mouseketeers on our crappy Zenith black-and-white set, with the round picture tube and rabbit-ears antenna, and the imitation mahogany cabinet, and my mom staggering towards me with two Welch’s grape jelly glasses in her hand: Strawberry Kool-Aid for me, a Canadian Club highball for her.

‘How’s Mickey and his pals?’ she asked, the words slurring.

‘They’re my friends,’ I said.

She sank down next to me on the couch.

‘Are you my friend, Katie?’

I ignored the question. ‘Where’s Charlie?’

She suddenly looked hurt.

‘Mr Barclay’s,’ she said, mentioning a dancing school to which adolescent prep school boys like Charlie were dispatched, once a week, screaming.

‘Charlie hates dancing,’ I said.

‘You don’t know that,’ Mom said, throwing back half of her drink.

‘I heard him tell you,’ I said. ‘
I hate dancing school. I hate you.’

‘He didn’t say he hated me.’

‘He did,’ I said, and turned my attention back to the Mouseketeers.

Mom threw back the rest of her drink.

‘He
didn’t say
that.’

I think it’s a game.

‘Oh yes he did.’

‘You
never
heard him …’

I cut her off. ‘Why is my daddy in heaven?’

She went ashen. Though we’d been down this road before, I hadn’t asked about my dead father for nearly a year. But this afternoon, I had arrived home with an invitation to a Father/Daughter evening at my school.

‘Why did he have to go to heaven?’ I demanded.

‘Darling, as I told you before, he didn’t want to go to heaven. But he got sick …’

‘When can I meet him?’

Her face now betrayed despair.

‘Katie … you
are
my friend, aren’t you?’

‘You let me meet my daddy.’

I heard her stifle a sob. ‘I wish I could …’

‘I want him to come to school with me …’

‘Tell me, Katie, that you’re my friend.’

‘You get my daddy back from heaven.’

Her voice was weak, tiny, diminished.

‘I can’t, Katie. I …’

Then she began to cry. Pulling me close to her. Burying her head in my small shoulder. Scaring the hell out of me. And making me run out of the room, terrified.

It was the only time I ever saw her drunk. It was the only time she ever cried in front of me. It was the last time I asked her to get my father back from the celestial beyond.

‘Are you my friend, Katie?’

I never answered her question. Because, truth be told, I never really knew the answer.

‘Mommy!’

Ethan was squeezing my hand. ‘Mommy! I want to go home!’

I snapped back to Queens. And the sight of my mother’s coffin. I said, ‘Let’s first say goodbye to Grandma.’

I led Ethan forward, sensing that all eyes were on us. We approached the shiny teak coffin. Ethan knocked on it with his small fist.

‘Hello, Grandma. Goodbye, Grandma.’

I bit hard on my lip. My eyes filled up. I glanced at my father’s grave.
This is it. This is it. An orphan at last.

I felt a steadying hand on my shoulder. I turned around. It was Matt. I shrugged him off. And suddenly knew: it’s me and Ethan, and no one else.

The minister gave me another of his telling glances. All right, all right, I’ll move it along.

I put my hand on the coffin. It felt cold, like a refrigerator. I pulled my hand away. So much for grand final gestures. I bit my lip yet again, and forced myself to stay controlled. I reached for my son. I led him towards the waiting car.

Matt was waiting by the door. He spoke quietly.

‘Katie, I just wanted to …’

‘I don’t want to know.’

‘All I was going to say …’

‘Do you speak English?’

‘Would you please listen …’

I started grabbing the car door. ‘No, I will not listen to you …’

Ethan tugged my sleeve. ‘Daddy said he’d take me to the IMAX movie. Can I go, Mommy?’

It was then that I realized just how shipwrecked I was.

‘We have a party …’ I heard myself saying.

‘Ethan will have a better time at the movies, don’t you think?’ Matt said.

Yeah, he would. I put my face in my hands. And felt more tired than I had ever felt in my life.

‘Please can I go, Mommy?’

I looked up at Matt. ‘What time will you have him home?’

‘I was thinking he might like to spend the night with us.’

I could see that he instantly regretted the use of that last pronoun. Matt continued talking.

‘I’ll get him to school in the morning. And he can stay the next couple of nights if you need …’

‘Fine,’ I said, cutting him off. Then I crouched down and hugged my son. And heard myself saying, ‘Are you my friend, Ethan?’

He looked at me shyly, then gave me a fast kiss on the cheek. I wanted to take that as an affirmative answer, but knew I’d be brooding about his lack of a definite response for the rest of the day … and night. And simultaneously wondering why the hell I’d asked that dumb question in the first place.

Matt was about to touch my arm, but then thought better of it.

‘Take care,’ he said, leading Ethan off.

Then I felt another hand on my shoulder. I brushed it off, as if it was a fly, saying to whoever was behind me, ‘I really can’t take any more sympathy.’

‘Then don’t take it.’

I covered my face with my hand. ‘Sorry, Meg.’

‘Say three Hail Marys, and get into the car.’

I did as ordered. Meg climbed in after me.

‘Where’s Ethan?’ she asked.

‘Spending the rest of the day with his dad.’

‘Good,’ she said. ‘I can smoke.’

While reaching into her pocket book for her Merits, she knocked on the glass partition with one hand. The driver hit a button and it slowly lowered.

‘We’re outta here, fella,’ Meg said, lighting up. She heaved a huge sigh of gratification as she inhaled.

‘Must you?’ I asked.

‘Yeah, I must.’

‘It’ll kill you.’

‘I never knew that.’

The limo pulled out on to the main cemetery drive. Meg took my hand, locking her thin, varicose fingers with mine.

‘You hanging in there, sweetheart?’ she asked.

‘I have been better, Meg.’

‘A couple more hours, this entire fucking business’ll be over. And then …’

‘I can fall apart.’

Meg shrugged. And held my hand tighter.

‘Where’s Charlie?’ I asked.

‘Taking the subway back into town.’

‘Why the hell is he doing that?’

‘It’s his idea of penance.’

‘Watching him break down like that, I actually felt sorry for him. If he’d just picked up the phone towards the end, he could have straightened out so much with Mom.’

‘No,’ Meg said. ‘He wouldn’t have straightened anything out.’

As the limo approached the gates, I caught sight of that woman again. She was walking steadily towards the cemetery entrance, moving with fluent ease for someone her age. Meg saw her as well.

‘Do you know her?’ I asked.

Her answer was a couldn’t-care-less shrug.

‘She was at Mom’s grave,’ I said. ‘And hung around during most of the prayers.’

Another shrug from Meg.

I said, ‘Probably some kook who gets her giggles loitering in cemeteries.’