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Miscarriages: no more babies to hold.
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Even at age forty-five, wish that I had nurturing parents.
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I still miss my grandmother, who died in 1984 at age ninety-eightwhy couldn't she still be here?
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Purple dress.
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Missing having a lover but not willing to have one yet.
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Blue bathrobe.
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As I look over my list, I see that I started out with the big losses that I know from therapy and moved on to more ''feelingful" writing as I went. When we write lists, we can be free to change the language as we go; I started off by starting each line with the word loss and ended up with some comments written straight out as I thought them. If you write out a list of losses, let the words come out any way they want to.
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Pets: two hermit crabs, cats (Rocky, Little Bear, and others).
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