An Intimate Life (38 page)

recommended resources

books

Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty
, Joan Price, Oakland, California, Seal Press, 2005.

Changing Bodies, Changing Lives: A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships,
Ruth Bell Alexander, New York City, Three Rivers Press, 1998.

Cockfidence: The Extraordinary Lover’s Guide to Being the Man You Want to Be and Driving Women Wild
, Celeste Hirschman, MA and Danielle Harel, Ph.D., Somatica Press, 2011.

The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships,
Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., New York City, Perennial Currents, 2005.

Erotic Massage
, Kenneth Ray Stubbs, Ph.D., New York City, Tarcher, 1999

The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment
, Jack Morin, Ph.D., New York City, Harper Perennial, 1996.

Femalia, Joani Blank, San Francisco, California, Last Gasp Press, 2011.

For Each Other: Sharing Sexual Intimacy
, Lonnie Barbach Ph.D., New York City, Anchor, 1983.

For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality
, Lonnie Barbach, Ph.D., New York City, Signet, 2000.

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples
, Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., New York City, Henry Holt & Co, 2007.

A Guide to Getting It On
, Paul Joannides and Daerick Gross, Waldport, Oregon, Goofy Foot Press, 2000.

Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide
, Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., New York City, Atria Books, 1993.

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
, Esther Perel, New York City, Harper Perennial, 2007.

My Body, My Self for Boys,
Lynda Madaras and Area Madaras, New York City, William Morrow Paperbacks, 2007

My Body, My Self for Girls,
Lynda Madaras and Area Madaras, New York City, William Morrow Paperbacks, 2007.

Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex,
Joan Price, Oakland, California, Seal Press, 2011.

The New Male Sexuality: The Truth about Men, Sex, and Pleasure,
Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., New York City, Bantam, 1999.

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Petals
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sex and disability

Enabling Romance: A Guide to Love, Sex, and Relationships for People with Disabilities (and the People Who Care About Them)
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videos, toys, etc.

Betty Dodson, Ph.D.
dodsonandross.com

Good Vibrations
goodvibes.com

Kenneth Ray Stubbs
secretgardenpublishing.com

sex information

San Francisco Sex Information
sfsi.org

Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States
siecus.org

acknowledgments

Writing a book is always a team effort. It was our good fortune to be part of a team of stellar professionals, without whom
An Intimate Life
would have remained a dream. Cheryl and Lorna wish to thank Charlie Winton, Liz Parker, Maren Fox, Kelly Winton, Jodi Ham-merwold, and the rest of the staff at Counterpoint for all of their hard work and dedication to this project. Brooke Warner, our editor, deserves much credit for making this book readable, lively, and professional. Thanks are also due to Brad Bunnin, our publishing consultant, who provided us with invaluable guidance. Finally, our profound gratitude goes to David Cole for bringing us together.

From Cheryl: I want to thank my Nanna Fournier for her unconditional love. My mother, for understanding that mothers and daughters can also be friends. My father, for his wonderful sense of humor, something that is necessary for a fulfilled life. My children, who are the absolute loves of my life. All my dear nonjudgmental friends who have given me support throughout the years. My husband, Bob, who taught me how to accept unconditional love. Michael Paul Cohen, without whom I would never have moved to California and discovered the work that has so profoundly affected my life. And Lorna Garano, who understood my stories and masterfully helped transcribe them onto the written page. My appreciation is eternal.

From Lorna: I would like to thank my family for their unending support and unconditional love. I also wish to express my gratitude to my coauthor, Cheryl Cohen Greene. It was an honor to help her write her story and to bring her wise, compassionate, and generous spirit to life in these pages. Last, but not least, my heartfelt thanks go to my partner, Peter Handel, the love of my life.

about the authors

CHERYL T. COHEN GREENE, DHS, has been in private clinical practice as a surrogate partner and consultant in human sexuality since 1973. She was trained in the Masters and Johnson modality and was on the training staff of San Francisco Sex Information for nineteen years. She is a certified sex educator and clinical sexologist, and in 2004 earned her DHS (Doctor of Human Sexuality) from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco. Currently, Cohen Greene serves as the vice president of IPSA (International Professional Surrogates Association), and was one of the founders of BASA (Bay Area Surrogates Association), a support group for surrogate partners in the San Francisco Bay Area.

Cohen Greene lectures widely and she is frequently sought out by national media. She has been interviewed by CNN,
Larry King Live
,
San Francisco Chronicle
,
Cosmopolitan
,
Men’s Health
, and other national outlets. Visit her at
www.cherylcohengreene.com

LORNA GARANO is a freelance writer and publicist based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Visit her at
www.lornagarano.com

Copyright © 2012 by Cheryl T. Cohen Greene with Lorna Garano

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