Authors: Ricky Cohen
Tags: #love, #dating, #relationships, #relationships advice
Thoughts for Living
Published by Ricky&Me at Smashwords
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2011 by RICKY&ME
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To avoid him/her,
she/he throughout the book, references are made from the female
perspective. The insights presented in the following pages speak
equally to finding your female or male extraordinary love.
And we said:
Each chapter will be a page,
and each page and every line
will have great import and significance.
And so we began.
How much easier would it have been
to add words to the words,
write a line and then another,
allow one page to run into the next,
and build chapters upon each other, without any
having an essential reason for being.
And so it went, for hundreds of days and
thousands of hours.
We challenged, we demanded, we evaluated, and
considered – every word and every mark,
until we created this extraordinary book about
And so it is.
Each chapter is a page,
and each page and every line
have great import and significance.
To men and women,
young and old
and to their courage to challenge life
and demand all that it offers.
To those who search for a love
that will be their completion and their beginning
wrapping their yesterday and their tomorrow in
HOW TO READ THIS BOOK
so that you may add the
wisdom that is about to
touch you to the wisdom that is already yours,
and you will grow.
You have read, you have heard, you have been
taught, you have been guided. The knowledge touched you and washed
through you - leaving little more than a trace of real impression
on your life.
You were inspired for a time, and then no
more. You were sensitized for a while and then went back to how
you’d been. You embraced a new system and felt yourself successful
- and then let it go. Ultimately, the insights faded from view and
There is another way. You must learn. You
Read the words slowly and carefully, and then
read them again, so that you touch the depth of their meaning.
Challenge the premises and test them in
Bring the insights to the lives of others, so
that they may be further affirmed.
Learn rather than read, own rather than
So that the wisdom that is about to touch you
be added to the wisdom that is already yours, and
you will grow…
TABLE OF CONTENTS
WHERE IT ALL BEGAN
KNOWING YOU – THOUGHTS I, II
KNOWING HIM – THOUGHTS III, IV, V
KNOWING YOU TWO – SHORT THOUGHTS
THOUGHT VI An Emotional Attraction Is
THOUGHT VII There
Has To Be A Physical Attraction, Too
Mistaken Expectations Will Cause Mistakes
THOUGHT IX For His To Be
His And Yours To Be Yours
THOUGHT X Lack Of 100% Trust
= No Trust= Nothing
THOUGHT XI Crying Is A Dramatic
Expression Of Trust
THOUGHT XII To Feel Pride
And To Be Proud
THOUGHT XIII The
THOUGHT XIV Listen: It’s Your
THOUGHT XV If You Can’t Be
THOUGHT XVI To Learn To
THOUGHT XVII Love’s
THOUGHT XVIII True Love May
Only Be Built With An Equal
THOUGHT XIX The Humility
and Pride Formula
THOUGHT XX You Can Love
More Than One Person Profoundly
THOUGHT XXI You Do
Marry His Family
THOUGHT XXII Religion And
THOUGHT XXIII Let Him Do It
THOUGHT XXIV Just
THOUGHT XXV Close Your
Eyes And Jump
THOUGHT XXVII Relationships
Should Not Be Perfect
THOUGHT XXVIII The
THOUGHT XXIX Not
Simplicity is the costume the
most wondrous wisdom wears…
Attracting your extraordinary love
will come from a knowledge of you.
an understanding of him,
and a knowledge and understanding of the
two of you.
It will come from
embracing your uniqueness and his,
so that you may give yourselves completely to each other.
WHERE IT ALL
The First Two And All Twos:
The Story of Love Mates
“And G-d created man in His own image, in
image of G-d created He him, male and female,
created He them.”
GENESIS, CHAPTER 1, VERSE 27
Man and woman were originally created as one
being with the ability to create others.
Their Maker then proclaimed: Let man and
woman stand separately - facing each other, and feel the greatness
of possibility to rejoin and become one again.
And so it was established from the beginning
of time, in essence, from the beginning of all beginnings, that man
and woman would come together. And it was established that there
would be a man for each woman, and a woman for each man.
And so, it will be forever.
You will meet the most right person for you.
When you do, you will give yourself to him, and he will give
himself to you.
You will become one.
As you and your love mate become one, you
will become an outstanding two.
So it was from the beginning, and so it will
The joining of man and woman so that each,
individually, can be complete, happy, and successful.
The First Two And All Twos:
The Story Of Love Mates
You are a partner to the creation of your
We have been taught: There is a Primal Mover
who is an active participant in our lives.
He designates potential love mates for each
of us, even before we become part of this world.
That’s true as well.
He works to ensure that those who have not
yet connected to their extraordinary love will do so.
Therefore, you would conclude: A love mate
has been chosen for you, and it’s your destiny to be with him.
We have been taught: Man was created in the
image of his Maker, embodies much of His greatness, and is an
extension of Him.
Man has free will. He will determine who he
becomes and whom he brings into his life.
That’s true as well.
A man’s meeting of his love mate is a result
of his actions.
Therefore, you would conclude: It’s your
responsibility to find your love mate, based on the decisions you
make, the steps you take, and the way you build your life.
Which one is it?
Is it in G-d’s hands, beyond your realm,
having little to do with you?
Or is it in your hands, as the one who has
ultimate responsibility for your life?
The fact is: It’s both.
Life is a flow of man’s actions and those
outside of his control, each building from the other.
You are a partner with your Maker to the
dynamic and vibrant process of life, which is shaped by you – with
your every thought and action.
You are a partner to the significant and
meaningful events of your life - each of the opportunities, all the
possibilities. You are a partner to one of the most important
endeavors of all:
Attracting your extraordinary love.
In fact, the effort to attract your love mate
is one of the most dramatic expressions of this partnership.
There is no such thing in life as a specific
fate or guaranteed destiny. There is no such thing as a prewritten
script. There is no thing that should be assumed or expected.
There are possibilities and potentials -
people who are positioned to come into your life – and who will do
so, based on your actions.
Life will do what it must to make your love
mate yours. It is unconditionally committed. Your efforts must join
those greater than you because:
You are a partner to the ongoing creation of
One will not be without the other.
THE SOULMATES AND
THE LOVE MATE
There will be a number of men and women who
will touch your life at critical points in time, and who will
enrich your life, in a sustained, true, and substantive way. They
will be special people, who will teach and strengthen you, guide
and counsel you, value and care for you – in ways no others
There will be an uncle or a cousin, whose
love for you and connection with you is unique and unparalleled.
There will be a friend, male or female, who understands you and can
see things in you that are deep below the surface.
There will be a teacher, whose wisdom is
remarkable in how it answers your questions and calms your fears.
And a business mentor with great insight and experience - who wants
to see you succeed.
There will be men and women who will touch
your life, each in a unique and essential way. They are your
And then there will be your most special
partner, the pinnacle to the soulmates you will bring into your
life: Your love mate.
Your love mate is the one with whom you will
undertake the most wondrous furthering of the human experience –
bringing forth children.
He is the one with whom you will build the
longest lasting of legacies – by enabling you to be you and him to
Your love mate is the one with whom you are
uniquely suited to share the eternal expression of love’s power –
by uniting physically.
With him you will build your present and your
forever - a home, and a family.
Keep in mind, no one – soulmate, love mate,
or otherwise, can fill all your needs, stimulate all your
interests, or be a partner to all your challenges and
opportunities. No one person can.
Be on the lookout for new acquaintances,
friends, and family members with whom you can share ideas, dreams
and fears. Give your trust to people who are willing to give you
theirs. Be open, and allow potential soulmates to immerse in and
help you shape your life.
Your love mate can only be your
if he is
The soulmates and the love mate:
Each is irreplaceable to you
Each is irreplaceable to the other