Come as You Are (58 page)

Attachment.
See
Love/attachment

Austen, Jane,
159

Avoidance behaviors.
See What the hell is this?
behaviors

Avoidant attachment style,
139
–40,
141

Backdraft,
182

Bacon, Linda,
169

Bancroft, John,
4
,
48

Barbarella
(film),
287

Bartholin’s glands,
30

Beach, Frank,
230
,
231

Beauty, recognizing one’s own,
162
–65

Becoming Orgasmic
(Heiman and LoPiccolo),
266

Behavioral view of sex,
3
–5

Bergner, Daniel,
75
,
135
,
206

Berridge, Kent,
86

Blast from the Past
(film),
301

Blastocysts,
20

Blum, Deborah,
135

Body scans,
122

Body self-criticism,
153
–54,
156
,
163
–67,
187
,
329
,
353
n
4

clinging to,
166
–67,
177

cognitive dissonance
vs.,
182

consequences of,
163

self-compassion
vs.,
177
–78

Bonobo copulation, images of,
194
,
207
,
208

Bottom-up approach to coping with trauma,
128
–29

Brain,
40

arousal nonconcordance and,
197
–99,
221
–22

context and,
75
–76,
80
–83,
94

desire and,
233
–34

dual control model and,
48
,
60

imaging studies of,
132

pleasure centers of,
84

stress and,
117
–18

Brain stem parabrachial nucleus,
84

Breathing technique,
268

Brotto, Lori,
238
–39

Buck, Ross,
199

Bulb of penis,
22

Bulb of vestibule,
22
,
274
–75

Camilla (composite),
7
,
149
,
326

arousal nonconcordance and,
191
–92,
221

context and,
70
–71,
92
–93

cultural messages and,
161
–62

desire and,
225
,
228
–29

dual control model and,
58
–59

on genital diversity,
33
–34

orgasm and,
278
–79,
314
–15

trauma and,
126
–27

Carpopedal spasms,
44

Central nervous system,
48
,
197
–99

Challenges, meaningful,
246
–47

Chamberlin, Kristen,
129

Chasing dynamic,
89
,
226
,
238
,
318

described,
245

desperate measures to defuse,
251
–55

Chivers, Meredith,
194
,
210

Christmas Carol, A
(Dickens),
145
–46

Chronic stressors,
120
–21

Circumcision (male),
26

Clitoral hood,
22
,
23

Clitoris,
19
,
20
–25,
44

anatomy of,
17
,
20
–23,
22

distance between urethra and,
16
,
274

early scientific view of,
277

manual exploration of,
23

orgasm through stimulation of,
272
,
274
,
275
,
292
,
322

size of,
15
–16,
205
–6

visual exploration of,
23
–25,
41

Cocaine addicts, study of,
90

Coffey, Kelly,
168
–69

Cognitive-based therapy,
128

Cognitive dissonance,
156
,
182

Common humanity,
178
,
317

Conception-arousal myth,
210
,
276
,
277

Condoms,
219
,
220

Context,
5
–6,
70
–108.
See also
Cultural context; Emotional context

arousal nonconcordance and,
212
–13

desire and,
223
–29,
239

dual control model and,
65
,
67
–68,
78
–79,
92

importance of understanding,
91
–92

meta-emotions and,
322
–23

orgasm and,
270
–71,
280
,
282
–86

placebo effect and,
47

pleasure and,
291
,
302

sensation and,
77
–83,
94

two elements in,
75

worksheets,
95
–108

Corpora cavernosa,
21
,
22

Corpus spongiosum,
21
,
22

Cosmopolitan
(magazine),
161

Cowper’s gland,
30

Criterion velocity,
235
–36,
281
,
289
,
300

changing,
320
–21

defined,
235

Crura of clitoris,
21
,
22

Crura of penis,
22

Crying,
122
,
137
–38,
290

Cues for sexual desire

study,
72
–73

worksheet,
107
–8

Cujo
(film),
194

Cultural context,
6
,
153
–88.
See also
Body self-criticism; Media Message; Medical Message; Moral Message

the clitoris in,
21

desire and,
243
–44

disgust and,
156
,
170
–77,
188

dual control model and,
62

media literacy and,
183
–84

self-compasion and,
177
–81

self-trust and,
184
–87

stress response cycle and,
120
–21,
146

the vulva in,
26

weight and,
167
–70,
187

Cum hoc ergo propter hoc
fallacy,
211

Curiosity,
226
,
237
–38,
241
,
296