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Nocturnal penile tumescence,
203
“No” messages,
155
,
156
Nonconcordance.
See
Arousal nonconcordance
Nonjudging,
308
–13,
315
–17,
323
emotion coaching in,
310
–12
healing trauma with,
316
–17
tips for beginners,
312
–13
Normality,
2
–3,
5
,
9
–11,
34
,
176
,
307
,
325
–26
Nucleus accumbens (NAc),
80
–81,
84
,
350
–51
n
14
Olivia (composite),
7
,
118
,
129
,
148
–49,
179
,
299
anatomy-response (non)connection in,
15
–16
arousal nonconcordance and,
197
context and,
89
–90,
223
–24
desire and,
223
–24,
225
,
256
–57
dual control model and,
50
–51
the little monitor and,
285
–86
meta-emotions and,
302
–3
sexual self-acceptance and,
39
–40
stress and,
119
–20,
180
–81,
283
One Ring.
See
Emotional One Ring
Oprah
(television program),
46
Oral sex,
170
–71
Orgasm,
6
,
265
–92,
322
,
324
absence of (anorgasmia),
45
,
280
,
364
n
24
through clitoral stimulation,
272
,
274
,
275
,
292
,
322
defined,
267
different ways to have,
271
–72
difficulty with,
279
–81
dual control model and,
4
ecstatic,
282
–92
as an evolutionary bonus,
276
–78
extended,
343
–45
in the four-phase model,
44
genetic factors in,
349
n
9
laboratory studies of,
43
–44
meta-emotions and,
314
–15
nonconcordance in,
269
practice and,
289
–92
simultaneous,
160
in the triphasic model,
45
unrecognized,
281
through vaginal penetration,
2
–3,
16
,
272
,
274
–76,
292
,
322
variation in,
266
–67,
269
–71
what it is not,
267
,
269
–70,
271
“Origin of Love, The” (song),
131
Outer labia.
see
Labia majora
Ovaries,
17
,
20
Over-identification,
178
Oxytocin,
135
Pain
context and,
80
during sex,
27
,
40
,
141
,
238
,
320
–21
Paralanguage,
200
Parasympathetic nervous system,
48
,
115
Patriarchy,
203
,
275
Pavlovian responses,
65
,
85
,
196
,
207
Penis,
17
,
20
,
275
anatomy of,
21
,
22
circumcision of,
26
size of,
205
–6
Perel, Esther,
239
–42
Peripheral nervous system,
197
–99
Pfaus, Jim,
62
Pfizer,
46
Photoplethysmography, vaginal,
194
,
212
,
356
n
3
“Pink Viagra,”
46
,
213
,
239
.
See also
Erectile dysfunction medication
Placebo effect,
47
,
197
,
351
n
14
Plateau (sexual response phase),
44
,
45
Plato,
131
Pleasure,
87
,
137
,
281
,
287
,
288
,
291
,
292
,
302
,
324
.
See also Eagerness; Enjoying
Pleasure centers of the brain,
84
Porges, Stephen,
116
Porn,
26
,
31
,
33
,
34
,
40
,
176
,
193
–94,
301
Pregnancy-arousal myth,
210
Prepuce.
See
Foreskin
Pride and Prejudice
(Austen),
136
,
159
Primal screaming,
122
,
124
,
290
Project Unbreakable,
209
Prostate,
28
,
274
Proximity seeking,
133
,
136
PTSD,
121
.
See also
Trauma
Pudendum, derivation of word,
16
–17,
205
Pukall, Caroline,
320
–21
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child
(Gottman),
310
–11
Rape.
See
Sexual assault/rape
Rapid eye movement (REM) sleep,
203
Rats, experiments involving,
62
–63,
79
,
80
–81,
85
,
86
,
88
,
117
,
196
,
202
,
237
–38,
252
Redliners,
52
,
89
Resolution (sexual response phase),
44
Responsive desire,
3
,
6
,
227
,
256
,
294
,
296
,
297
,
307
changing one’s attitude toward,
324
–25
the chasing dynamic and,
245
gender differences in,
225
the little monitor and,
236
percentage of women experiencing,
225
,
257
Restaurant analogy,
197
–99,
204
,
205
,
207
,
209
,
221
–22
Romance novels,
136
,
161
–62
Romantic/implicit cues,
72
–73
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