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Authors: Marcos Giralt Torrente

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We have art so that we may not perish by the truth.

—Nietzsche

 

Contents

Title Page

Copyright Notice

Epigraph

Father and Son: A Lifetime

Also by Marcos Giralt Torrente

A Note About the Author / A Note About the Translator

Copyright

 

The same year my father got sick I published a novel in which I killed him.

I've spent whole days, years, studying my father, and resentment has often worked its way into my writing. I've had my revenge. And yet, as Amos Oz writes in his memoir, “he who seeks the heart of the tale in the space between the work and its author is mistaken: the place to look is not the terrain between text and writer, but between text and reader…” Much of what I've written was prompted by my father, but I've never written about him. Those were other fathers, other people's fathers.

Now I'm writing about him.

I set down these lines in a notebook in the fall of 2007, when, after months of doubt and of failing repeatedly to come up with any other ideas, I finally accepted that all I could write about was my father. I thought it was a good start, but that was as far as it went; I couldn't continue. The same thing happened with all the other attempts I made in the following days to get past my block.

My plan was to write about the preceding two years, and I simply didn't know how to go about it. I'd done some reading for inspiration, but apparently that only confused me more:

Alone dwells every man and everyone mocks everyone else, and a deserted island is our pain.

(
Book of My Mother
, Albert Cohen)

One day there is life. A man, for example, in the best of health, not even old, with no history of illness. Everything is as it was, as it will always be. He goes from one day to the next, minding his own business, dreaming only of the life that lies before him. And then, suddenly, it happens there is death.

(
The Invention of Solitude
, Paul Auster)

My mother's name was Edna Akin, and she was born in 1910, in the far northwest corner of the state of Arkansas—Benton County—in a place whose actual location I am not sure of and never have been.

(
My Mother, in Memory
, Richard Ford)

I was born in 1896 and my parents were married in 1919.

(
My Father and Myself
, J. R. Ackerley)

My father had lost most of the sight in his right eye by the time he'd reached eighty-six, but otherwise he seemed in phenomenal health for a man his age when he came down with what the Florida doctor diagnosed, incorrectly, as Bell's palsy, a viral infection that causes paralysis, usually temporary, to one side of the face.

(
Patrimony
, Philip Roth)

On the floor in a corner of my study, sticking out from under a pile of other papers, is a shabby old green folder containing a manuscript I believe will tell me a lot about my father and my own past.

(
My Ear at His Heart
, Hanif Kureishi)

These are all first lines from books about real fathers or mothers that I read back then. I also read about mourning (Joan Didion's
The Year of Magical Thinking
); brothers (T. Behrens's
The Monument
); friends (Félix Romeo's
Amarillo
); families (Rick Moody's
The Black Veil
). I even read collections of letters: V. S. Naipaul's
Between Father and Son
.

But I didn't know what book I wanted to write. Or I did know, but I didn't know how to do it. Or I hadn't yet decided what to tell and what not to tell. Or my father's life ultimately wasn't novelistic enough. Or I simply wasn't sure whether it would interest anyone.

I dispensed with the dictatorship of beginnings and wrote isolated chapters, putting off the decision about how to order them.

In Word pages that I filled with uncommon haste, I tried to paint a picture of my father, reaching all the way back to his childhood, his cold, distant father, and the loss of his mother. I tried to put my guilt front and center, setting myself up to seek the redemption that would assuage it; I tried to settle on an illuminating episode that would sum up my experience of him; I tried to weave together random scenes and memories with impressionistic flair; I tried to be cerebral and confront our problem deliberately, leaving no room for poetry.

I wrote:
My father died in February. By December we knew that it was imminent. We thought we were prepared. We had a doctor and a nurse ready to relieve his suffering …

I wrote:
My father was shy, introverted, and melancholy by nature, but that doesn't mean he was sad. He hated any kind of solemnity, including that bred of sadness …

I wrote:
Sometimes those who are about to die rehearse or perform final acts that aren't so much the epitaph that sums up a life as a way of making amends or settling a score that they believe is still pending …

I wrote:
My father was born in August 1940 at 3 Calle San Agustín in Madrid, at the home of his maternal grandparents, where his parents lived temporarily after the war …

I wrote:
I have regrets, yes, but they're of a different nature. It troubles me that much of what he did after he learned that he was ill was a performance that had me in a privileged seat in the audience …

I filled pages, as I've said. But the minute they were filled, I stopped believing in them.

An elegiac portrait of my father wouldn't have been true to my feelings, would have skirted the dark corners from which generous epiphanies might spring…; perhaps I was not so thoroughly in the wrong…; it wasn't easy to come up with an illuminating episode that didn't strain the fidelity that I had pledged to the truth…; a cold, analytic account would have left too much out…; I didn't have the capacity for a great fresco, for anything too detailed that would require me to do research and work out family trees…; nor for the interweaving of intimate scenes, of memory's microscopic flotsam, which anyway was so far from my style.

And then there was everything else:

The why, the justification for writing about us. Everyone has parents, and all parents die. All stories of parents and children are unfinished; all are alike.

The propriety of it, the sense of decorum. Mine and others'.

The challenge, the untested ground. Speaking for the first time in my own voice. An unsettling new feeling: not being able to make things up.

And my father, of course. Would he approve? Did he suspect that I would write about him, as some of the things he said led me to believe, and was he resigned to it? Or beyond suspecting it, did he expect it? I don't know. Those last few months with him were so strange, he shed so many of the habits that he had clung to so atavistically, his boldness was so unexpected, so far from what one could have imagined, that he might have accepted this too. Even wished for it.

All misgivings and insecurities that I should have resolved before sitting down to write.

But there was more. Apart from dropping the mask of fiction, from the difficulty of being my own narrator; apart from my doubts about which moments to choose and how to recount them; apart from my qualms and my fear of betraying him; apart from my limitations, I was missing a leitmotif, for lack of a better word. I harbored the vague intention of making up for all the times when he thought he saw himself in another guise in works of fiction that I'd written; I was guided by the yearning to create an impartial likeness in which, while highlighting his virtues, I didn't hide his flaws, but I lacked the bone and, deeper than that, the marrow. I needed to know where I wanted to go with my story, what I wanted to stress. I lacked the driving idea; it wasn't there, because all I felt was a great void.

Mourning is a strange thing. Mourning is something that you feel only after it passes. Mourning isolates you even from yourself.

I came up with the idea for this book before it was appropriate to take notes for it. For months, as my father faded before my eyes, I knew that I would write about us, and this certainty became my best defense against the flood of feelings in which I was foundering. I felt dazed, and by convincing myself that in the future I would make an accounting of it all, I was able to put off the moment of absorbing what I was experiencing. I took refuge in the present, in my stupor, using it as a barrier. Things were happening, but they weren't fully happening. They were lacking the depths that I refused to contemplate.

When at last my father was gone, I felt like someone who'd been shut up in an air rifle. I was told “Your father lives in you now”; I was told “Go slow, it'll take you a year to recover”; and both pieces of advice seemed equally ridiculous. I decompressed, shooting off into life, and nevertheless, after some time had gone by, both warnings turned out to be true. I've dwelt in nothingness, and all that's left of my father is his memory.

I've become more fragile, sadder, more fearful, skeptical, older. This is the path that's brought me here.

I've thought very little. I haven't asked myself questions. The only unexpected conclusion I've come to is that—pain aside—everything was as it had to be and as we never believed it could be. A circle has closed where there might have been a parting of ways, the widening of a split. Maybe it's the simplicity of this statement that allows me to continue to wear the same deep-sea diver's helmet that I put on when everything began.

How is it possible that something that was about to go one way should have gone another way? Who worked harder to make it happen? Can generous decisions spring from egotistical impulses? Do I have any regrets? Have I put them to rest? Should he have had regrets, as in fact he told me he did? Were they sincere? Were they merited?

The helmet prevents me from answering. Or maybe I'm not fully recovered. Or maybe I am and this is what death is all about: leaving questions unanswered.

So why persist in writing about the two of us?

I've already given some reasons.

Because I tried to go back to writing a novel that I had abandoned when things began to fall apart, and I couldn't do it, and I tried to come up with an idea for another one and I couldn't do that either.

Because writing about something so intimate, so excruciatingly real, seemed a good incentive for recuperating lost routine, the habit of writing.

Because I don't know much more now than I knew when everything started, and establishing the incomplete map of what's known might help me find what eludes me.

Because even though ugly moments will surely slip in, I believe with the conviction of a drowning man that the story is happy; otherwise, I wouldn't tell it.

And maybe it really is true (though this is a trick of mourning) that by making him my own in writing, I cement his memory in me, the only life he has left.

But even all those reasons together aren't enough. Sometimes they're not.

It's hard.

I write more slowly.

Sometimes I attribute it to a loss of discipline, other times to the difficulty of exposing myself like this. I offer up both excuses when friends ask me about my writing, concerned as the months go by. But I'm also convinced that something has broken in me, that something is gone. I'm not talking about the emptiness. I'm not talking about the anguish of loss. I'm talking about the rage with which I used to write.

The memory of him doesn't provoke me, my grievances have vanished, I'm not competing with him, there's no sense in trying to prove anything to him. Nothing affects him anymore, not even what I'm writing now.

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