The Winter Children (21 page)

‘For God’s sake, I don’t know if this is worth it!’ he yelled during one of their most fierce confrontations. ‘Do you know how long we’ve been living like
this? Do you?’

He stood across the kitchen from her, his blue eyes flashing and his dark eyebrows set in hard arches. She stared back, eyes pricking with tears, trembling with her own anger, not sure any
longer what they were fighting about or why, or what she felt about anything except miserable.

‘I’ll tell you.’ He took two steps towards her and she cowered a little, even though she knew there was no way he would hurt her. His desire for confrontation was what frightened her. ‘It’s been years. It’s been fucking
years.
Where has the joy gone? We’re so eaten up with this thing, it’s taken everything good out of our lives together. When did we last have sex without thinking about
conception and babies and ovulation and all the rest of it?’ He stared at the floor and then shut his eyes, an expression of agony on his face. ‘Shit!’

She wasn’t able to do anything but cry. She didn’t have the strength for anything else. All she longed for was his arms around her, comfort, kindness, understanding of the sapping
nature of this journey they were on, with no promise of a destination. Her hands were over her face, tears soaking into her palms, but she didn’t utter a sound. No arms enfolded her.
Instead, she heard him turn and leave, and a few moments later, the slam of the front door. When he came back, she was as cheerful as she could be, and he didn’t mention her tears or ask how
she was. That night, they lay back to back and didn’t touch or speak. When she felt him relax into slumber, she wept again that he could sleep without resolving things, telling her he loved
her or trying to make it better.

For the first time she began to wonder how well she knew Dan. Their love had been a happy, indulgent thing that had brought them both pleasure and happiness, and she believed it was strong and
true, made to face anything. But now she felt that in a time of trial and difficulty, when she needed him desperately, he was not able to stand firm and give her the patience and generosity she craved. In the talks about parenthood, she felt a distance grow between them and sensed that there was something deep inside Dan that he was concealing. When they
talked about adoption, he agreed with her that it was a definite option, said how much he would be in favour of taking on a child from abroad, and yet she felt that he was not quite sincere. She
could not help suspecting that sometimes he said things he did not mean to keep her happy. Frustrated, she pushed harder, asking more questions, trying to find out what he really thought, but he
kept slipping away, staying elusive, saying the right things but leaving her with the uncomfortable sensation that he was prepared to hide what he really thought. He would fudge, obfuscate, even,
perhaps, lie to her. It was a horrible thought that she could not quite credit, and she tried to ignore it.

The next morning, peace gradually returned and they carried on as best they could, knowing that the next Slough of Despond was not far away. Then came the dreadful day when they were told that
her eggs were no longer viable. There was no way she could become a mother, at least, not a genetic one.

They walked away from the Harley Street clinic, where their life savings had been spent, in a state of shock. She was thinking,
If only I’d known! If only someone had told me that it
could all run out like this.
She remembered the years of trying to stop conception: the contraceptive pill, taken for over a decade; the morning-after pill prescribed several times after
accidents and forgotten pills; the jittery wait for a period after an illness that might have interfered with the process of contraception.
What was it all for? I should have grabbed the opportunities while I could, while there were still eggs
to fertilise, while my body still had the capability. It’s gone . . . it’s over. I missed it. But how? How did that happen?

For over a decade, she and Dan had talked themselves out of having children because, for one reason or another, the time wasn’t right. They had thought they were in control of the process,
and that her body would wait obediently until they decided, for whatever abstract reasons, that they were ready. The flat, she remembered, was part of it. They’d thought there wasn’t
room, or that it wasn’t in a fit state – as though a baby would arrive and immediately criticise the decor and demand its own nursery. And all along, while they dithered and delayed,
her body had been in the process of winding down its fertility. It had been ready for motherhood since she’d turned fifteen and now, its blind biology unconcerned with things like school,
careers, bank balances and steady relationships, it considered she’d had long enough to sort things out. The babies had been there, a potential child every month, and if she hadn’t done
her bit, that was it. During the decade of indecision, over a hundred chances had come and gone.

More than a hundred potential children. I’ll never know even one.

She was struck by the fiercest sense of loss she’d ever known, greater than when her father had died. All that possibility, wasted. She reeled under the blow.

Dan walked beside her, morose, his collar turned up. ‘So that’s it.’ His voice was terse, low, sad and full of finality. ‘It’s over. The end of the line.’

As soon as he said it, she heard a voice sounding loudly within her. The word it spoke reverberated through her.
No.
She would not accept this. Something powerful refused to let that
happen. She would fight it and win. Her grief wrapped itself up into a ball and tucked itself away in her heart. She felt hope fill her, pulled in from some invisible and unknown source. Stopping
in the street, facing him full on, she said fervently, ‘No, Dan. No. It’s not the end. We’re going to take a different path. But we will still be parents.’

‘What are you talking about?’ He looked bewildered.

‘There is another option. We can use an egg donor!’

He frowned, his lips tightening. When she’d mentioned this possibility before, he’d never responded, just brushed it away and changed the subject.

Olivia went on: ‘I’ve read about it on the internet forums, and researched a bit too, just in case. I’ll show you when we get back.’

Back in the flat, they opened up their laptops and started surfing through websites of clinics and agencies that offered egg donation, some for eye-watering fees, and it seemed a straightforward
process – although nothing with fertility treatment so far had been straightforward.

But when she told Dan this was what they must do, he refused point-blank.

‘Absolutely not. I don’t want to bring up a stranger’s child. I want our baby made up of us. You and me. I’m not interested in mixing my genes with a woman whose history, whose family, whose nature I do not know.’

They talked for hours, Olivia getting more emotional as she realised that Dan was adamant on this point. She’d reached an inner, obstinate core of him she’d never seen before, where
there was no compassion, no give at all. They moved around the kitchen, facing each other in mini standoffs.

‘So you don’t think nurture has anything to do with it?’ she demanded. ‘Don’t you think environment is important? More important than whether you inherit the
ability to sing or write with your left hand?’

‘Actually, I don’t think nurture is everything, now you mention it. It’s important, I wouldn’t argue with that. In fact, nurture is vital. But all the nurture in the
world isn’t going to make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear, and what if you get a sow’s ear?’

‘A sow’s what?’ She sighed with exasperation. ‘They’re eggs! So we can use your sperm to make a baby who’ll be ours! You know as well as I do that the eggs
coming from one person guarantee nothing. What about my great-grandmother who went mad and got put in an institution? What about my aunt who had depression and killed herself? What if my eggs got
a hefty dose of mad suicide genes instead of liking gardening and being good at art? There are no guarantees, but at least this way we get a baby, and it will be related to you and your family, if
that’s what matters.’

He stalked about, cross, his brows knitted, and said, ‘No. I can’t do it. I’m sorry. I can’t stand the idea, and that’s all there is to it. I don’t think I could love a child who was half a stranger to me. At least we know about your great-grandmother and your aunt. With this option, we’d know nothing.
Not least about hereditary diseases and all that. What if we had a baby and loved it and lost it to some dreadful condition we hadn’t realised was in the family?’

‘I want to take the risk!’ Olivia screamed. ‘You can’t deny me that!’

‘I don’t want it, and I won’t do it because I’m ordered to!’ he yelled back. ‘You can’t force me to!’

They rowed for hours until, in a mess of misery and tears, Olivia went to bed to weep hopelessly into her pillow, while Dan bedded down in the spare room. She thought that night that maybe this
meant they would split up. Would they be able to reconcile their opposing views, and if he won, would she ever be able to forgive him for robbing her of the chance to bear a child?

She didn’t think, in her heart, that she could, even though she loved him so much.

The next week was terrible. They barely spoke, both aware of the seismic shock to their relationship. They had always been so together and such a team, and now they were riven apart and unable
to see the way back, neither able to yield to the other.

She began to think seriously that they would separate over this, and she was lying in bed late, with Dan out somewhere, wondering if he was thinking the same thing, when she heard the door
slam. He moved around the hall and kitchen for a bit, and then came to find her in bed, opening the door quietly until he saw that the bedside lamp was on, and then padded in to sit beside her.

He took her hand in his and said, ‘If you really want to do the egg donor route, then I’m behind you. We’ll do it.’

She sat up, happiness washing through her as his words sunk in. ‘Really?’

‘Yes. I want us to vet the donors really carefully. And I’ve done some research and found a clinic we could use. It’s in Spain but it comes really highly recommended and
it’s cheaper than the London ones. Would that be all right with you?’

‘Yes!’ she cried joyfully. ‘Anything, I don’t mind! But . . .’ She smiled at him, searching his face. ‘What made you change your mind?’

‘I want you to be happy,’ he said, kissing her and holding her close. ‘I can’t bear us to be apart.’

‘I’m so glad. I can’t bear it either,’ she said, hugging him back, filled with love and gratitude. And they began the process the very next day, using the clinic that
Dan had found.

But she’s never really understood what changed his mind when he’d been so entrenched against the idea.

The steaks are ready now, oozing red-tinged, fat-blobbed liquid on their resting plate. The potatoes are fried into hot, crisp little dice, speckled with garlic and parsley, and the broccoli is
glossy from the steamer, scattered with snippets of spiky brownness.

‘Dan!’ she calls, dropping cutlery on the kitchen table. ‘It’s ready.’

He comes through, bleary-eyed from the television. ‘Mmm, smells fantastic.’ He sits down, gazing appreciatively at the table as she moves the steaks to the plates. ‘Wow. My favourite.’

‘Of course.’ She sits down opposite.

‘You’re amazing,’ he says, and looks at her tenderly. ‘Is there anything you can’t do? You’re an incredible mother, a magical gardener and writer, and a
fantastic cook. You must have had some pretty good fairies at your christening.’

‘Don’t forget the bedroom fairy,’ she says with a coquettish smile.

‘How could I?’ He smiles back, and they remember their interrupted lovemaking of the previous weekend. They never got back to it. They both know that tonight – after the
sumptuous meal and the blood-warming red wine – they will make up for the long wait. They are close again now, emotionally and physically, and she has done her best to forget that steely,
unbending, cold-hearted Dan who, at their darkest moments, repelled her. The arrival of the twins decontaminated their relationship and renewed it, and she has pushed away the doubts she had about
him.

‘Aren’t you glad Francesca isn’t coming?’ she says with a laugh. ‘I mean, we can hardly stop her, and she’s bound to turn up occasionally. But somehow I never
expected her to be staying with us, not with the enormous house at her disposal.’

‘Mmm.’ Dan is engrossed in cutting his steak, revealing the pinkness within. ‘We forgot to take into account the fact that it isn’t habitable.’

‘Yes. Of course, Francesca is lovely company and she clearly adores the children . . .’ Olivia eats a tiny hot cube of potato, then says, ‘and I was wondering if we ought to
make her a godmother.’

He glances up at her quickly and says, ‘I thought we didn’t want godparents.’

‘I don’t – not
god
parents. I’m not a churchy person, you know that. But she seemed so . . .
into
the twins. Didn’t you notice? She could hardly keep
her hands off them. It was kind of sweet. It crossed my mind that it could be a nice gesture to ask her. Besides . . .’ Olivia laughs a little sheepishly. ‘I think she’d be
pretty good at birthdays and Christmas and all of that. She already spoils them with presents. In a very material way, it would be rather nice for them to have a rich godmother. It’s not
just that, of course – she’ll love them and they’ll love her.’

Dan says nothing but chews slowly on his food, still staring at his plate.

Olivia sips her wine, and looks at him. Eventually she says, ‘Well?’

Dan swallows and sits back. ‘I can see what you’re saying. But I would say no. We decided on no godparents. We’ll only offend all the people we haven’t asked if we ask
one person. And I reckon Francesca will always be generous, godmother or not.’ He frowns, hesitates and says, ‘I’m not sure I want her to be in the twins’ lives all that
much anyway.’

‘Really?’ Olivia is surprised. ‘Why not?’