Threesomes: For Couples Who Want to Know More (17 page)

Keep the flow mellow
, slow, and sensual, and your two men will follow your lead.

Although men often don’t have the same kind of insecurities and feelings of possessiveness and jealousy that women do, make no mistake, they are there.

One guy can have a better body than the other, or one guy can have a much bigger penis than the other, so you have to be sensitive to those things. And your being sensitive to both of them will make them be sensitive to you and what you want or don’t want as well. When one guy gets up for water or the bathroom, you should just talk and chill with the other, so as not to leave out his friend. He may want you to keep his hard-on going, and if you feel comfortable with that, then use your hand and talk dirty to him until his friend returns. And when he does return, stop and tell the friend to hurry and catch up to the two of you. Be a friend to the guys and they will be a friend to you.

And as far as the dreaded double-penetration question goes, you’ll find that that is the stuff for porn and less for regular people. Most men think such an act is a homosexual one, and thank goodness they do because you are opening yourself to a lot of physical damage if you don’t know what you’re doing.

So keep it simple. Men are happy with less than you think. And when it’s time for them to go, tell them you’re getting tired and are hitting the hay. They may want to stay because they’re tired, so invite them to crash wherever you want in the living room while you, the queen of men, can retire to your chamber, with the door closed.

You’re a lucky girl
if you have a man who not only is open to bringing another man home, but brings up the subject himself.

That boyfriend of yours is a rare breed of self-confident man—not just confident that you won’t prefer the other man, but confident in his own sexuality, not to mention penis size.

A lot of men say they don’t want to have a three-way with another guy involved because they think there’s something gay about it or they wouldn’t feel comfortable even being naked around another man. Actually, those men just don’t feel confident enough in their own appearance or sexual prowess. Or maybe they don’t want to admit, the way women readily do, that they may feel jealous or threatened by seeing their girlfriend or wife enjoying sex with another man—or worse, they don’t want to see her prefer sex with another man. Maybe she’ll do things with the other guy more enthusiastically or maybe she’ll do things with him that she has refused to do with you. And yes, what if there is a sword crossing, what if the girlfriend begins to wonder whether he’s gay after that? Well, it’s good to know that men and women worry about the same things, save the gay panic.

But let me tell you this: Any man who enjoys porn, even if only from time to time, would enjoy the experience of watching his lady get it from another man. In a way, it’s the same feeling a man would have enjoying the view of his girl kissing and fondling another girl, but much more primal and blood-pumping. It’s like your girlfriend has become the sexy, slutty, porn vixen of your greatest jerk-off fantasies. She’s a woman who can’t get enough and who aims to please. It’s exciting to see your steady partner in that role from time to time, because sometimes you guys forget just how hot she really is to other people.

Bringing another man home is the next step to that same satisfying feeling that you get when you notice other men checking out your girl. You like the fact that other men want her; it makes you proud and it turns you on, of course. This is seeing how much other men really want your woman and what an amazing, sexual, and exquisite woman she is.

It will amaze you how much you’ll be turned on to see her ability to give a man a raging hard-on by just taking off her clothes in front of him. You know what a good lover she is, but have you ever really seen her in action? Seeing your girlfriend give another man head will give you a whole different perspective on how hard she works and how much she loves it. And she’ll love you watching her do this. The more you watch her and encourage her, the harder she’ll work to take all of that cock in. But always remember, there should be no fear. Your turn will be next.

Give your man the same sensitivity that you would want if you two were picking up another woman. Men have their own rules and regulations, and it all varies. Kissing the other guy is usually a no-no, but again, this varies, and some men may not mind it at all. Some men find the idea of their girlfriend sucking another guy’s dick offensive but have no problem in the least with her getting screwed by a stranger. You both have to get these things cleared up from the get-go to prevent any bad aftermath. Men have fragile egos and may question later how you seem to be a lot more enthusiastic with working your mouth away on someone else’s dick than you normally do when it’s just the two of you.

Of course, you really don’t know what’s going to upset someone until after it actually happens, but that’s why talking helps. In talking about it, you both will realistically picture these acts occurring. For example, say you run into an ex of yours and your boyfriend says once he is at a safe distance, “You screwed that guy?” Men have very visual imaginations, and he’ll know how much he can handle right away. On the other hand, you both may be pleasantly surprised and find yourselves going farther than you discussed, too, if the feeling in the room is sexy and secure.

If you and your partner have a sex life that is highly verbal, implement that practice into this experience. Saying things like, “Do you want to see me get banged, baby? Do you want to watch him screw the shit out of me while I deep-throat your huge cock?” is an erotic but easy way to keep all action at a comfortable level and to stay within the boundaries.

Make sure at all times that you keep physical contact with your man, even when another man is plowing you righteously. You can always ask him to passionately kiss you while it’s going on and keep that level of intimacy exclusively between you. Don’t let him sit there unattended—unless that’s exactly what he wants. He may just want to jack off while watching you with another man, like watching his very own porno flick in 3-D. But even then, when he’s ready to come, include him and ask him to come into your mouth or on your face or body.

Double penetration always comes up when talking about two men and one woman three-ways, thanks to the porn industry. Your man may enjoy watching it, as a lot of men do, but don’t worry about this subject actually coming up during your three-way. It’s a very difficult position to achieve, and what’s more, it’s not a physically safe one, even if both men are wearing condoms.

You don’t go straight to doing headstands on the balance beam during your first gymnastics class; likewise, you won’t want to try to fill your ass and your pussy at the same time during your first three-way. You are in for a world of tearing, bleeding, and soreness if you do.

However, if man-woman-man three-ways become part of your sexual repertoire, you can practice together with a dildo, study up with some hardcore porn, and check out a book or two on exotic sexual positions. Some three-ways can be purely sensual and erotic while others, particularly when it’s with two men, are done to have nasty, dirty, raucous consensual sex. Both are wonderful, just be prepared and smart.