Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love (21 page)

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his quiz has been designed to evaluate your Mating Rating—that is, where people of the opposite sex (or those who have the opposite brain wiring to you) see you on the Desirability Scale. This quiz is good for anyone who wants to improve his or her Mating Rating and jump up to the next level. It will help you pinpoint your weaker areas and the areas in which you are not achieving. No matter which category you achieve in this test, if you are happy to be in that category, then that’s OK. If you are not happy in a category, however, this test will guide you to the areas in which you’ll need improvement. We have found that people are usually tough on themselves, and we suggest that you ask someone who knows you well to do the quiz with you to guide you toward what he or she thinks could be the most accurate response for you. This way, you will
discover not only how you see yourself but how others see you. Many people will be surprised at how others see them compared to how they rate themselves.

Answer all the questions before looking at the scoring system so that you stay honest with yourself.

This is the group with the lowest desirability rating. This group, however, also has the greatest chance of improvement in their Mating Ratings—the only way is up! People at the lower end of this spectrum don’t care much about their appearance, their status, their ability to earn resources, their health, or their general well-being.

People in this group will source people in the same group and will feel happy with their lot in life—their potential partners won’t see any need to change and probably won’t be reading this book anyway.

People with a rating at the higher end of this spectrum are more likely to be reading this book and be prepared to move their Mating Ratings up because they want to make changes in their lives.

Those who scored in this group have the opportunity to increase their Mating Ratings by improving the areas in which they scored low. They can take a course, read books, join a gym, attend seminars, and so on. These people need more belief and encouragement to improve themselves, and by tackling one area at a time, they can stay focused and improve.

This group of people can tend to slip backward or forward. They can drop to the lower end, but with hard work they can also move quickly up the scale. The highest percentage of the human population is in this group.

Many people will be happy to stay in this range because most possible partners also fall into this category. To go to the next level requires hard work, but if they want to go there, they can. Higher-quality partners are on the higher levels.

If those in this category don’t like the way they look, they
can hire a personal trainer, attend seminars, read books, book a stylist, improve their health, or join Toastmasters or a community club or association; they can participate in community-based projects, attend training courses, hire a mentor or get a life coach. This work spills over not only into their personal life but into their business life, which will increase income and success potential.

The people in this range are confident, self-assured go-getters. They know what they want in life, and they regularly go for it. Rarely will this bracket drop down a level unless there is a major crisis that drags them down, but before long they will be planning to get back up there. If people in this group have a problem, they don’t need to be told; they are probably already doing something about it. These people are resourceful. This is where movie stars, millionaires, world leaders, CEOs, business leaders, and the most desirable partners live.

Wherever you are on the Mating Rating Desirability Scale, it is not a fixed position. You can improve your rating by setting goals to improve your desirability and by taking positive action. Being desirable to others is more about your attitude, how you think, and what you are doing with yourself and your life than about what you were born with. If you decide, you can move yourself to almost any level of desirability and dramatically increase the number of quality partners who will become available to you. Many people are happy to stay exactly where they currently are on the Desirability Scale, but remember that you will only ever attract a long-term partner who has the same Mating Rating as you. If you want better partners, however, reread your answers to this quiz and you will know what to do next.

In 2009, the world’s population was 6.744 billion, of which 50.5% were male and 49.5% were female; 3.8 billion of these people were aged eighteen to sixty. Assuming that 80% of these are in the worst Third World countries, in jail, insane, or generally unavailable, there are 380 million normal people who are the opposite sex to you. It is estimated that around one in fifty of the opposite sex has the right chemistry for you—that’s 7.6 million people who can make your heart beat, on sight. Assuming that one in five of this group has similar core values and beliefs to you, there are at least 1.52 million perfect partners somewhere out there waiting to meet you.

Finding a perfect partner is like selling—it’s a numbers game, and the more prospects you see, the greater the chance you have of finding a sale. In sales, a typical ratio for a product that sells for $1,000 is
5:4:3:1
. This means for every:

The world’s top salespeople don’t spend their lives looking for the one person who is a buyer; they look instead for groups of five prospects to call on. When you use this “averages” approach, the buyers will simply appear. So the salesperson’s success is determined by how often he or she calls on five new prospects, not how many people buy. And so it is for successful lovers. They don’t sit at home waiting to be discovered; they get active and see as many prospects as they can. Put simply, be as socially active as possible. As demonstrated, there are over 1.52 million potentially perfect prospects somewhere in the world for you, but right now they don’t know you exist. You have to find them.