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bride’s quilts, 208, 251,

253

The Long Engagement

(Hughes),
179

in medieval Europe, 51 in Native Americans,

233–34

in Roman times, 28

in Tudor England, 112–14 in Victorian England,

178–80

Cranach, Lucas, the elder, 2, 101

Cranmer, Archbishop, 107

Crosby, Hannah, 258 Cross, Marie Bywater, 251 Crow, Polly, 329

“Daddy’s Gone to War” (Tuttle), 323

Daily Telegraph

letters to, 268, 270–75

Danton, Georges, 166

Dati, Gregorio, 84 Daughters of the American

Revolution,
284
,

343

Daumier, Honoré, 383 David, Jacques Louis, 162,

163

Davis, Hugh, 144

Davis, Katherine Bement, 309–10

Day, Doris, 358 “Dear Boys” column

(Somerville), 336–38

Debay, Auguste, 182 “Declaration of the Rights of

Women and the Female Citizen” (de Gouges), 164

Degler, Carl, 216, 297

D’Emilio, John, 301, 313

d’Épinay, Madame, 162 Detrick, Carrie Lassell,

227–28

Dialects of Sex
(Firestone), 371

Diana (slave), 220

diaphragms, 300

Dick-Read, Grantly, 358

Dickens, Charles, 180

Dickerman, Elizabeth, 138

Dickinson, Emily, 134, 175

Dickson, Rosa, 326–27 distaff and spindle, 29 divorce

after World War II, 350 in ancient Greece, 22, 23 in Biblical times, 4–6 and the Jewish culture,

92–93

in the late twentieth century, 353–54,

395–96, 399

and the Mormons, 257

divorce (
continued
)

in Puritan New England, 135

in Roman times, 30–31 serial marriages, 396–97 in the Victorian era,

186–87, 187–88, 286

Dixon, Helen, 121

Dod, John, 126

Doll’s House
(Ibsen), 263–64 Donne, John, 122

“Donors Engelbrechts and his wife” (painting), 94

Dorothea of Montau, 80–81 Doryphorus, 40

dowries

in Biblical times, 4, 5

in medieval Europe, 47, 50–52, 82–88

in the late Victorian era, 265

Ducis, Jean François, 162, 164

ducking stools, 205

Dudley, Dorothy, 127,

133–34

Dudley, Mary Winthrop, 138 Dudley, Thomas, 127, 134

Duffey, Eliza, 301

Duplay, Elisabeth, 167–68

Earl, Ralph,
157

Easton, Elizabeth, 111

Eck, Mrs., 351

Edmondston, Catherine, 204 education (of women), 172

in the antebellum South, 204

in late twentieth century, 388

in medieval Europe, 73 in Puritan New England,

131–32

in Stuart England, 126

in Victorian era, 195, 285 on the Western frontier,

259–60, 261–62

Eighty Years and More: Reminiscences
1815–1897
(Stanton),

196

Eisenhower, Mamie, 363

Elkanah, 6–7

Ellis, Havelock, 306, 308 Ellis, Sarah Stickney, 182,

183

Ellsworth, Oliver and Mrs.,

157

Émile
(Rousseau), 147

Emma
(Austen), 183 employment

in medieval Europe, 73–74

in postwar waives, 348–51

Rosie the Riveter, 322 shipbuilding wives,

326–30

at the turn-of-the-century, 292–93

in Victorian America, 288–91

volunteerism as, 342–48,

365–66

in World War II, 317–20, 320–26

See also
housework employment (work

revolution), 380–91 dual-earner couples,

380–81, 385–87

househusbands, 381–83 husbands, working

mother’s effects on, 384 the marriage market,

396–97

maternal leave, 385–86

opposition, 390–91 women, longevity of,

389–90

women, lower earning power of, 389–90 engagement.
See
courtship and engagement

England

marital laws, 185–89 Married Women’s Property

Act, 188–89, 227

New Woman in, 268–70 Tudor and Stuart period,

108–25

the Victorian era, 177–85 Equal Rights Amendment

(ERA), 363, 370–71,

371
, 390

“Equality of Persons” (Donne), 122

Eratosthenes, 23

Eroticus
(Plutarch), 42

Euphiletos, 23

European Feminism, 1700–1950
(Offen), 164

Evans, Elizabeth, 295

Eve, 1,
2
, 58

as the “bad” wife, 18, 182 as an improvement, 3

and the “taint” of sexuality, 15

Eve
(Norris), 14

Everett, Millard, 311

Factors in the Sex Lives of Twenty
two
Hundred Women
(Davis), 309

Faludi, Susan, 390 Family and Medical Leave

Act of 1993, 385–86

Family Circle,
387

Faragher, John, 260

Father Knows Best
, 358–59

Father’s Legacy to his Daughter, A
(Gregory), 148

Fear of Flying
(Jong), 372 Federation of Women’s Clubs,

344

Felicie, Jacoba, 74 Fellows, Elvina Apperson,

240–41

Female Eunuch
(Greer), 372 female sexuality

early Christian teachers and, 15

in the Victorian era, 294–98

See also
abortion; birth control

Feminine Mystique, The

(Friedan), 201, 369 feminism (and the feminist

movement), 190

Age of Enlightenment and, 164–65

and Eve, 3

opposition to, 266–68,

357, 370, 390–91

Seneca Falls Declaration, 190, 202

suffrage, 193–94

support of, 265–66

in the Victorian era, 189, 265–66

literature, 372–73

Fidelio
(Beethoven), 174

Fields, Annie, 280

Fifteen Joys of Marriage,
76 Firestone, Shulamith, 371

Fitzhugh, George, 203–4

Flaubert, Gustave, 276–77 Flint, Mrs. (slave owner),

220–21

Floyd, Major, 206–7

Flux
(Orenstein), 399 Foote, Edward B., 295,

300

Foote, Mary Hallock, 301 Forrest, Mistress, 141

Forrest, Thomas, 141

4–H Clubs, 344 Fournival, Richard de, 68 France

Civil Code of 1804, 172 “Declaration of the Right of

Man and the Citizen,” 164,
173

the Revolution, 161–71 women under the

Republic, 171–74

Frederick, Elektor, 102

Frederick II, 12, 52

Freedman, Estelle, 301, 313

Freud, Sigmund, 308, 361

Friedan, Betty, 201, 369 Friedman, Lawrence M.,

303

“From Housewife to Ship- fitter” (Wilkinson), 327

Frontrunner
magazine, 291

Fruits of Philosophy; or, The Private Companion of Young Married People
(Knowlton), 299

Fulbert, 61–62, 62, 63

Fulvia, 35

Future of Marriage, The

(Bernard), 394

Gabber, Josephine, 315

Gallop, Hannah, 132 Galloway, Grace Growden,

161

Garcia, Andrew, 235

Gaskell, Elizabeth, 187

Gelles, Edith, 151, 153, 173

Generation of Vipers
(Wylie), 362

“Geneva Bible,” 133

Gift, Theo, 175

Gilder, Helena, 301

Giles, Nell, 350–51

Gillis, John, 145

Gilman, Charlotte Perkins, 288–91, 291–93,

387

Gilman, George Houghton, 291

Giovanni, 88–92

Gissing, George, 277–79

Glatz, Kaspar, 102 Gleason, Catarina Watson,

250–51

Gleason, James Henry, 250–51

Godelieve, Saint,
53

Godlie Forme of Household Government: For the Ordering of Private Families, according to the direction of God’s Word, A
(Dod), 97, 126

Godey’s Lady’s Book,
195,
209
,

248

“Goodbye and Good Luck” (Paley), 352

Good Housekeeping Cookbook,

339

Good Housekeeping
magazine, 286, 393

Good Wives
(Ulrich), 138 Gouge, William, 110–11 Gouges, Olympe de, 164 Graeme, Elizabeth, 160–61

Graeme, Henry, 160–61

Grand, Sarah, 276

Grandchamp, Sophie, 165

Greek times, 16–25 Agamemnon and

Clytemnestra, 10, 19 Jason and Medea, 19 Odysseus and Penelope,

16–19

Oedipus and Jocasta, 19 Greer, Germaine, 372 Greg, W. R., 182

Gregory, John, 148

Griffitts, Hannah, 158

Grimké, Sarah, 194

Guinevere, 66

Guthrie, Evelyn, 317–20, 344

Gutman, Herbert, 218

Hafen, John, 255

Hafen, Mary Ann, 255–56 Hagar, 7

Hale, Sarah Josepha, 195, 209

Hall, Radclyffe, 308

Hamilton, Cicely, 292

Hamilton, Gilbert, 309–10

handfasting, 112–13

Hannah, 6–7

Hardy, Thomas, 277

Hargrove, Maybelle, 346

Harper’s Magazine,
342, 348

Harris, John, 138

Hartog, Hendrik, 191 Haskell, Ella (daughter), 247 Haskell, Rachell, 247–49

Hawkins, Jane, 128 Hayden, Mary Jane, 228 Haywire, Joan, 123 Helen of Troy, 18

Héloïse, 60–65, 69, 91

Hemingway, Ernest, 16, 362

Henderson, David, 217

Henry VIII, 108

Hepburn, Katharine, 358

Hera, 16, 21

Higgins, Michael, 304 Hill, Master (slave owner),

217

History of Rome
(Livy), 25

Hite Report,
373

Hobby, Oveta Culp, 334 Hoby, Margaret Dakins,

124–25

Hoby, Thomas, 124, 125

Hollick, Frederick, 299

Holman, Eliza, 175

Homemakers’ Clubs, 344

Homer, 16, 21–22, 29

homosexuality

in ancient Greece, 23–24 in Biblical times, 13 marriage alternatives, 398 in Roman times, 40–41

Hopkins, Anne Yale, 131 Hopkins, Edward, 131 Hopkins, Sarah

Winnemucca, 233

Horney, Karen, 361

househusbands, 381–83 housework (and chores),
48

in antebellum South, 208, 210, 210–12

in Colonial America, 148–50

domestic life,
248

in the late twentieth Century, 364–69

in medieval Europe, 74 on the Oregon Trail,

238–39

philanthropy, 181

in Puritan New England, 137–38, 138–40

servants, 137–38

in the Victorian era, 181, 183, 192, 288–91

on the Western frontier, 229–30, 256–57,

259–60

during World War II, 324, 336–38, 339–43

See also
employment Hubbard, Robert, 113

Hughes, Arthur, 179

Human Comedy
(Balzac), 276 Huntingdon, Countless, 124
Husbands and Wives
(study),

366–67

Hutchinson, Anne, 135–36

Hygiene of Marriage, The

(Everett), 311 “Hymn to Aphrodite”

(Sappho), 24–25

I Love Lucy
, 359

Ibsen, Henrik, 263–64, 265

Iliad
(Homer), 21–22 “In Praise of Marriage”

(Christine de Pizan), 81

Incidents in the Life of a Slave Girl
(Child), 212

Indiana
(Sand), 276

Intimate Matters

(D’Emilio/Freedman), 301

Isaac, 7, 8

Ishmael, 7

Iseut, 65–66

Jacob, 8–9

Jacobs, Harriet, 212, 220

James I, 126, 127

Jane Eyre
(Brontë), 184 Janin, Albert, 282–83,

284–85

Janin, Violet Blair, 281–85 Jason, 19

Jerome, Saint, 15, 57, 58

Jesus, 98

and adultery, 12

and homosexuality, 13

on marriage, 12, 15 Jewett, Sarah Orne, 280 Job, 10

Jocasta, 19

John Birch Society, 370 Johns, Auntie Thomas,

220

Johnson, Lyndon, 369 Johnston, Frances Benjamin,

224, 284

Jong, Erica, 372

Jordan, Cecily, 142

Joseph, 11, 16

Josselson, Ruthellen, 384

Jovinian, 57

Joy of Sex
(Comfort), 372 Judah, Gershom ben, 55 Judaism

conceptions of marriage, 13–14

and divorce, 92–93 husband living with the

bride’s family, 84–85

Ketubah
(marriage contract), 4,
5
, 84

marriage ceremony, 55–56

and polygamy, 3–4, 7

wedding ring,
57

Jude the Obscure
(Hardy), 277 Julia (daughter of Augustus),

31

Julia (wife of Pompey), 31 Julia Secundina, 39

Julian of Norwich, 81

Jungfrauspiegel, Der,
58

Junior League, 344

Juvenal, 40–41, 41

Kay, Ellen, 265

Keayne, Benjamin, 134–35

Keayne, Sarah, 134–35

Keller, Ludwig, 105

Kelly, Frances, 188

Kelly, James, 188

Kemble, Fanny, 221–22

Kempe, Margery, 70, 77–81

Kennedy, Robert, 370

Kerber, Linda, 172

Kesselman, Amy, 330

Ketubah
(marriage contract), 4,
5

Killpack, Marjorie Reid, 344–45

King, Martin Luther, Jr., 369, 370

King, Nancy, 217

Kinsey, Alfred, 310–11, 355

Kinsey report, 355–57, 393

Knowlton, Charles, 299

Komarovsky, Mirra, 364

Koehler, Lyle, 140

La Bas, Philippe, 167–68 Laban, 8, 9

Ladies’ Association, 160

Ladies’ Home Journal,
286, 288, 350–51, 364,

392–93

Laius, 19

Lambilly, Marie-Victoire de, 169–70

Lancelot, 66

Lancelot
(Chrétien), 66

Lass, Virginia, 281–85

latchkey children, 323 Lavoisier, Antoine Laurent,

162,
163
, 164

Lavoisier, Marie Anne Pierrette Paulze, 162,

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