ave you ever been told, “Get a handle on your emotions…get a hold of yourself…get a grip!”? Each of these phrases implores us to take control…take charge…take responsibility—and not let our emotions rule over us. That first means getting a firm grasp of the situation. And that’s what this book is about: learning how to lay a strong foundation and build a victorious life.
This book—the first in the
Counseling Through the Bible Series
—contains six related topics from H
OPE FOR THE
Biblical Counseling Library
. And each topic—called “Biblical Counseling Keys”— is divided into four distinct parts:
Definitions, Characteristics, Causes,
Each topic contains both biblical principles and practical steps that will help you be all God created
you to be
…so you can do all He created you to do.
If you’ve ever flown off the handle with anger, been pressed down by the weight of depression, found yourself fraught with fear…if you’ve grappled with grief, wrestled with rejection, or struggled with self-worth, then realize this: God has a firm grasp on your situation, and has provided the necessary tools in His Word to help you know
How to Handle Your Emotions.
“Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth”
Ultimately, this can be a life-changing book enabling you to get a handle on life—the life God created you to live.
Yours in the Lord’s hope,
he day begins like any other day, but ends like no other—for on this day, he gives full vent to his anger…and, as a result, finds himself running for his life.
He is part of a mistreated minority—grievously persecuted, not for doing something wrong, but for being perceived as a threat. Raised with privilege in the palace of a king, he had been spared the heartless treatment inflicted on his kinsmen. But watching the
day after day and year after year finally becomes too much for him to bear.
When he sees one of his own people suffering an inhumane beating at the hands of an Egyptian, Moses is filled with rage. He snaps. In an instant he kills the Egyptian and hides the body in the sand. But his angry, impetuous act is not committed in secret. When news of the murder reaches Pharaoh, Moses fears for his life and flees (see Exodus chapter 2).
When you look at the life of Moses, you can see both the power and the potential problems inherent in anger. Has anger ever clouded your judgment to the point that you acted rashly, and later regretted it? Ultimately, you have the choice to
wisely or to
foolishly. In his lifetime, Moses did both. And like him, you can learn to keep your anger under control. You can learn how to act rather than react! In doing so, you will demonstrate wisdom.
“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control”
Understandably, Moses felt anger over the
treatment of his Hebrew brothers, but what he did with that anger got him into trouble. Moses allowed his emotions to overpower him. He committed an impulsive crime, and a serious one at that—murder.
Although Moses was right about the
his reaction was wrong. His hotblooded volatility revealed how unprepared he was for the task God had planned for him. Consequently, God kept Moses on the back side of a desert for the next 40 years so he would realize that rescuing his own people
in his own way
would ultimately fail.
Moses needed to learn this vital lesson well before God could turn him into the leader through whom God would accomplish His will
in His supernatural way.
In truth, Moses had tried to earn the Israelites’ respect by coming to their rescue. Instead, his murderous rage earned only their scorn.
“Moses thought that his own people would realize that God was using him to rescue them, but they did not”
A. What Is the Meaning of Anger?
What began as a smoldering ember in the heart of Moses quickly burst into deadly flames. Perhaps no one noticed the angry sparks flying from his eyes, but his spirit was consumed with the heat of anger. What do you do when you’re inflamed with angry thoughts and feelings?
Firefighters know the danger of letting a flame get out of control. They are trained to respond quickly. You must respond quickly also in order to control the flame of anger before it consumes your life and destroys your relationships. How true it is that
“a quick-tempered man does foolish things”
is a strong emotion of irritation or agitation that occurs when a need or expectation is not met.
“An angry man stirs up dissension, and a hot-tempered one commits many sins”
people in the Bible are often described as hot-tempered and quick-tempered.
“A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel”
in the Old Testament, is most frequently the Hebrew word
which literally means “nose” or “nostrils” and figuratively depicts nostrils flaring with anger. Later,
came to represent the entire face as seen in two ancient Hebrew idioms:
—“Long of face” (or nose) meaning “slow to anger.”
is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and rich in love”
—“Short of face” (or nose) meaning “quick to anger.”
“Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered”