How to Make Her LET GO & GIVE IN: The No-Bullshit Guide to Great Sex (21 page)

Techniques

Here you will learn three techniques. The first is a breathing technique you can use as a starter to create loads of sexual tension. The next approach will show you what to do when your girl’s clit is extra sensitive. Finally, we will teach you how to suck on her clit and vulva in ways she will love.

- Breathing

Breathing on her clit and pussy is the perfect way to make her let go and give in. It must be seen as a teaser and should be used right before or in between licking sessions. When she feels your warm breath of air on her clit, it makes her crave that deeper and warmer feeling of your grinding tongue.

However, this technique only works well when combined with emotional stimulation. If you just keep breathing on her pussy over and over again, she is likely to get bored and annoyed as she doesn’t get why you aren’t moving on to something else. Many women will like to hear you use some dirty and sweet talk in between.

Also, keep in mind that breathing is not blowing. Blowing could very well irritate her and bring her out of her emotional ride.

To start off, always make sure that her little love bud pops out because this is the main target of the breathing technique. Do this by placing your thumb on her clitoral hood at the point under which the C-spot is located. Then, slide your thumb gently upwards and her little knob will appear.

Start breathing on her love-bud, just like you would do when breathing on a pair of glasses when you want to clean them. She will shiver in pleasure while eagerly anticipating more.

In between breathing, say things like: “Fuck I’m going to eat your sweet pussy so hard. My princess’ pussy is going to taste so nice,…”

Keep using this combination of breathing and talking to her for about a minute or so. By now, she will be very excited and can’t wait for you to start licking her. It’s possible that she will try to pull your head towards her pussy. But tease her just a little more to enhance the sexual tension.

When the moment arrives in which you finally lick her, all that built-up tension will lead to an immense release of energy and will supercharge her excitement.

There are many possible variations for licking her:

1. Right after breathing and talking to her for a while, you can lick her clit very hard. This is the easiest and most straightforward way to give her a climax, which can happen as quickly as a few minutes after you started eating her out.
   
2. Alternate between licking, breathing and talking for a longer period of time. Just make sure to use an irregular rhythm to always give her new and exciting peaks. So, for example, try slowly breathing twice, then lick her for half a minute and then breath again a couple of times. Variety is the spice of life…and of sex!
   
3. After the first lick you can keep breathing and talking to her for a longer period to make her wetter and wetter. By giving and then depriving her of what she really wants, you will make her horny as hell. Just don’t forget to eventually really eat her out in a stronger way.
   

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Some girls have the misfortune of having an overly-sensitive clit and when it is licked too hard it creates discomfort, which brings her back to the rational state of mind. Also, almost all women experience an extreme heightening of sensitivity of the C-spot right after climaxing, making further stimulation inadvisable.

To overcome these issues, you can use the technique of the ‘still tongue’, which means that you place it very gently – without moving it – on her little knob to give her pleasure. After a while she will become more and more excited and this means she will experience less and less discomfort. Therefore, after using the technique of the still tongue, you can most likely go for some stronger kinds of licking.

The first thing to do is to lift up her clitoral hood so her clit pops out. Then you place the upper side of your tongue on it while using one of the following variations:

1. The simplest is to just keep your tongue still while applying soft pressure, letting her decide how hard she wants to grind against it. The more she grinds, the more pressure you can put on her clit. So, after a couple of minutes you can leave this technique behind and go in for some stronger stimulation.
   
2. You can tease her by placing and retracting your tongue. First, place your tongue on her clit in a way that it is barely brushing it. Then slowly retract and replace your tongue, and in the moments your tongue is not on her clit try some of that dirty and sweet talk. After a while she will feel a very strong urge to feel your tongue grinding very hard.
   

- Sucking

Sucking her clit and vulva stimulates her in very profound ways. The aim is to create a vacuum around her C-spot with your mouth, which is achieved by sucking the air out. This puts her C-spot under a lot of pressure and therefore makes it a lot more sensitive.

Because this is a stronger method of stimulation, always start off in a gentle way and see how she reacts. Never use this technique immediately after she has climaxed because she will definitely experience a lot of discomfort.

If you don’t know how to create this vacuum, practice by placing the tip of your finger in your mouth, sucking and licking it at the same time
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This movement is very similar to the way in which a baby sucks a pacifier.

Making a vacuum around the tip of your finger is easier than making one around her clit, especially when she shivers and moves. That can make it quite hard to place your lips in the right way on this large and soft area. To fix these issues you can do two things:

Purse your lips in a kissing position in which your lips protrude outwards, and suck hard on her clit to fixate it. You can also place your teeth right under her clit when sucking on it, but be very careful not to put a lot of pressure on it!

After you have popped out her clit, you can either go for the clit itself or her entire pussy:

1. Place your lips around her clit and suck, while at the same alternating your licks between very fast-and-hard and soft-and-slow.
   
2. Engorge her entire pussy by sucking hard on her inner lips. You can go in fairly hard because it adds the psychological component that she is being devoured by       her strong and powerful lover.
   

The G-spot

The G-spot – or Gräfenberg spot – is something all women have. People who say that this spot is non-existent are either poor lovers or women who have had only bad lovers. It is actually not hard to find this spot because it protrudes out of the anterior, or front, vaginal wall, not far after the entrance. However, it only pops out when she is aroused.

Anatomy

One reason why the G-spot is such a powerful erogenous zone is that to this day it remains somewhat of a mystery in the scientific and medical world. There has been some, but not a lot of research done on this matter and at this point no one has been able to provide a comprehensive and fool-proof description of the G-spot and how it works. Therefore, I've formulated a theory of my own.

You already know that when she’s excited, the clitoral legs, bulbs and urethral sponge swell up because of the increased blood flow. Well, the G-spot is located at the spot where all that pressure comes together:

The urethral sponge gives pressure from the back, the bulbs from the bottom and the legs from the top.

This internal pressure from three sides makes the G-spot protrude through the vaginal wall. When adding more external pressure from your fingers or penis, this spot gets squeezed even more. So all this locked-up tension focused in this tiny spot can only be released through a massive orgasm.

When it comes to squirting, my hypothesis is that the swollen urethral sponge puts pressure on the glands filled with liquid. When applying strong finger pressure, these glands are pressed even more, until the point where the fluid squirts out.

Fingering

You can either give her a G-spot orgasm or make her squirt while you are fingering her. We will start with the basics on how to find her G-spot and how to trigger it in ways that make her scream in pleasure. Once you are able to give her this climax, can you start practicing on your squirting skills.

Before inserting your fingers, let’s first look at some general guidelines:

1. Long fingernails can be a problem. Make sure they are short, clean and smoothly trimmed. You don’t want to cause an internal trauma.
   
2. If needed use lubrication. However, when she is aroused she most likely will be wet enough to do without added lubrication. For those of you who are not that experienced, keep a bottle of lubricant around.
   
3. It’s possible that she will squirt or get extremely wet when given some lengthy G-spot stimulation. Hence, keeping some towels around is a good idea to prevent the bed (or whatever surface is under her) from becoming saturated. However, the aim of basic G-spot stimulation is not squirting but rather bringing her to an earth-shaking climax. We will look at specific squirting techniques later.
   
4. With most (not all) women, you can keep stimulating the G-spot even after she orgasms. It does not become overly sensitive like the C-spot, so this is one of the spots to use when going for multiple or sequential orgasms.
   

Locating the G-spot

The G-spot is located on the anterior wall of the vagina. This means the wall closest to you when standing in front of your girl. Stimulation of this area feels pleasurable for every woman and gives very intense orgasms.

Before looking for it, don’t forget to warm her up. A good way of doing this is by giving her a clitoral orgasm first, or stimulating the front wall of her vagina in a gentle and soothing way without focusing on the G-spot

If she is not yet aroused, stimulating her G-spot can make her feel very uncomfortable, even to the point of being in pain. Only when you notice that she is aroused should you look for a spot that feels softer than the surrounding areas.

The easiest position to find her G-spot is when she is lying on her back with her legs spread apart slightly. Settle in between her legs and slide both your index and middle finger, palm facing upwards, inside

Slide your fingers along her anterior (front) vaginal wall. You don’t need to put too much pressure on it, just gently travel upwards. When you are about two finger knuckles in, you will find a spot that has a different texture. While the vaginal wall has a firm texture, the G-spot feels softer and bumpier and somewhat spongy.

At the back of this bumpy spot, you will find a small crease. Most women have their G-spot located in this crease and it is around the size of a pea. But not all women are alike, so you should expect that this spot can be located a little bit off. You will know you have found it when she shivers or moans loudly. If you don’t find the right spot immediately, gently probe around with your fingers and don’t be afraid to communicate with her. After all, she knows her body the best.

Techniques

The most important thing to remember is that the G-spot needs to be under constant pressure, so this kind of stimulation works best without any interruption. Therefore don’t use any teasing ways or the stop-go-stop technique.

There are three good ways to keep the pressure on:

1. Come here:
The first is making the ‘come here’ motion. After inserting two fingers, you must curl them up as if you were commanding someone to come towards you. But, while doing this movement, you must keep the pressure on the spot. So, in a way it is like clicking onto the mouse of your PC; whether you’re clicking your mouse or not, your fingers are always placed on the button.

2. Running along:
An alternative for the ‘come here’ is to make a movement in which your index and middle finger make running movements; one finger goes up, while the other goes down, so one of the two fingers is always keeping the G-spot under pressure.