KATE GOSSELIN: HOW SHE FOOLED THE WORLD - THE RISE AND FALL OF A REALITY TV QUEEN (41 page)

THE THREAT

The question most people will be asking right about now is: Why hasn’t Jon Gosselin spoken up about the abuse? I can’t answer that. Only Jon can answer that. I don’t know that he hasn’t reported it, and I don’t know what conversations or arguments he’s had with Kate about it. I don’t even know if he was ever present for the physical abuse.

I do know that Jon had to sign Discovery’s agreements not to talk about it, and the contract he signed forbids him from talking about it. But that piece of paper should never have been anyone’s excuse for not intervening if they saw or knew about the abuse happening. Fully understanding this, Kate took it a step further than just threatening Jon with the repercussions of him violating the Nondisclosure Agreement. Kate told Jon that if he ever breathed a word about her abusing the kids, Discovery would sue him for every cent he’d ever make, and she would make sure he never saw or had any contact with his children ever again.

Probably the most complicating factor in reporting child abuse is that it can be very hard to prove, since it is open to interpretation, especially in a state like Pennsylvania, which allows parents to use force “for the purpose
of safeguarding or promoting the welfare” of a minor.
The Pennsylvania Code
states:

Parents can use reasonable supervision and control when raising their children. 23 § 6302. [Civil Code] Parent/guardian/person responsible for general care and supervision/ person acting at request of the above
may use force
for the purpose of safeguarding or promoting welfare of minor including the prevention or punishment of his misconduct, if the force is not designed to cause or known to create a substantial risk of causing death, serious bodily injury, disfigurement, extreme pain, mental distress, or gross degradation. 18 § 509. [Criminal Code]

Howard Stern said it best in 2014. “You’re beating your children for your incompetence as a parent. If you’ve gotta spank your kids, something’s really wrong with you, not the kids.”

ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE

All you need is love. Those words appear on the screen, with calming, happy music playing as the “Discipline” episode of
Jon & Kate Plus Ei8ht
comes to a close. And then Kate gives her final thoughts for the TLC viewing audience:

“Our positive words and our positive reinforcement is the best thing you could ever give them.”

“You know, love is the best discipline of all.”

– Kate Gosselin

END CREDITS.

There is an INF paparazzi video online, taken in August 2010, of Jon bringing the kids back to Kate’s house after his custody time. The kids are in hysterics, screaming and crying about having to go back inside to Kate. They are inconsolable, despite Jon’s efforts to calm them.

This was one of the saddest things I had ever seen happening with these children.

I had spoken to Jon on the phone that day, just before he left his apartment with the kids. He told me he was having trouble getting the kids to go back home. He ended up being almost an hour late bringing them home because they didn’t want to leave him and go back to whatever awaited them at home.

The video is easy to find. Just Google “Gosselin kids screaming,” or anything similar, and you’ll see it for yourself. It is painful and gut-wrenching.

Watch it until the end when Jon gets into the car to leave. That’s me driving him. I was there, and I saw and heard the terrified cries of the children for myself. I didn’t read about it online, or speculate about what might have happened, or make assumptions about what was causing their distress. I was there. Eight little children were terrified of going home to their mother.

“I Wish…that there would be peace on earth and only love –

no abuse, hurt, gossip, strife or struggles for anyone!”

– Kate Gosselin

9.19.11 Kateplusmy8.com

It is truly heartbreaking to think about the many times the Gosselin children also must have wished that there would be no abuse and hurt.

“They’re crying which means they haven’t been abducted

and they’re not dead, so that’s a good thing, right?”

– Kate Gosselin

There are people in this world that should not be blessed with having children. I’m not talking about people who make a conscious decision to not have children – those people are actually the least selfish of us all because they are aware that having kids is not a commitment they are prepared to make. No, the people who don’t deserve to have children include those who would harm them in any way, those who would disrespect them, those who would view them as possessions, those who would ignore them, those who would treat them as a means to get rich, those who are not prepared to teach them well, those who have a constant need to dominate and control, and those who would view them as mere extensions of themselves instead of as separate and unique beings. It is no surprise that Kate Gosselin meets every one of these criteria for someone who should never have children.

Kate may have always wanted lots of kids, but years of watching her behavior on TV and seeing how she treats her children make it very apparent that she completely lacks the mental and emotional maturity to nurture and raise children, and to understand, respect and relate to them. Her behavior often resembles that of a 13-year-old child who is old enough to believe she knows everything, but too young to understand she knows almost nothing.

Everything Kate says and does relative to her children seems to come from some angry, impatient place; this almost always manifests itself as constant irritation with them. Any words of praise she has uttered about them sound hollow and insincere, especially since she has been so publicly critical of them so often. It is heartbreaking to hear her mock and ridicule her beautiful children. It must be terrible for them to be caught in the constant vortex of turmoil created by their mother, the person who is supposed to be their safe port in a storm.

THE MOTHER’S DAY TRADITION

For years, Kate Gosselin has been trying to sell herself as the finest example of motherhood that ever existed, but her actions scream the exact opposite. Let’s do a little comparison. The following
paraphrased excerpts are from blogs that Kate wrote for Mother’s Day 2012. They represent the kind of mother Kate Gosselin has tried to fool the world into believing she is.

Mother’s Day at the Gosselins

Posted on May 7th, 2012 by Kate G

Kate writes that her twins and sextuplets have all been plotting and thinking for weeks about what to make her for breakfast on Mother’s Day. They’ve even asked for a list of foods that Kate will eat according to he
r, because they know how routine and boring her food choices can be…

Kate says that her kids are excited to pull off their Mother’s Day tradition of breakfast in bed. They may even let her take a nap and have a relaxing day for Mommy…

After breakfast in bed and a nap, Kate says the kids usually sneak in extra surprises like home cards telling her how much they love and appreciate her, and sometimes they create coupons for back massages for when she’s the most stressed out. Then she adds, Um, is there one for, like, every day? Wink wink.

Kate looks down the road to when she has teenagers and she envisions a spa day for all of the girls with pedicures in side by side chairs, chatting and laughing and spending time together. She adds an insult to her yucky boys that they may even leave the boys home to make them dinner. Lol!

Kate wants her kids and us to know that a loving mother is the most important part of any child’s life. She feels underappreciated and thinks that she, like most moms feels taken for granted and stressed out sometimes.

Kate tells us that the greatest gift we could give is to show mom that she’s not forgotten and that she’s really important and that we’re really thankful for her.

And remember everyone, being a mom is the most difficult of any job ever, but it’s by far, the most rewarding. Kate tells us that mothers are not only caring for their own children, but they are also educating and forming the future citizens of our world…and mothers have just one shot to do it right!

My Mother’s Day Plans + coupons for Moms

May 9, 2012

Kate says that one of her favorite traditions in her house is breakfast in bed on Mother’s Day! She says that all the kids have been planning the big meal for weeks! And we should check out her latest coupon blog for more Mother’s Day deals.

One of my favorite
traditions
in our house is breakfast in bed on Mother’s Day! All the kids have been planning the big meal for weeks now. Check out my latest CouponCabin blog for more of our plans and make sure to see below for some great Mother’s Day deals!