Odd Girl Out (57 page)

"slut" and "skank,"
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See also
communications; language

Cohen, Suzanne (mother),
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communications

anonymous messages,
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open, practicing,
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between parents and children,
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between parents and educators,
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using social media,
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using third-parties for,
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written, assumed veracity of,
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competition

among friends,
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fear of engaging in,
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for Internet friends,
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positive,
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for relationships,
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computers,
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conceitedness,
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confidence

communicating,
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false,
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fear of showing,
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negative response to,
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conflict

accepting as natural,
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avoiding,
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facing directly,
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fear of,
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impacts of class and race,
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inability to handle,
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reasons for,
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stockpiling,
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See also
anger

confrontations

and alliance building,
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apologies,
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with educators,
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enduring memories of,
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fear of,
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indirect/covert approaches,
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ineffectiveness of,
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with parents,
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between parents,
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practicing,
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to protect reputations,
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and resisting bullying,
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role of middlegirls,
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using social media,
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viewing as opportunity,
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views of, class and race differences,
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See also
girl bullying; silent treatment, silence

connection, importance of,
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controlling behaviors,
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coping skills,
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"copying,"
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Corinna (student),
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Courtney (student),
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covert aggression,
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craziness, feelings of,
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Cruel Intentions
(movie),
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cruelty,
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cultural stereotypes,
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Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence, The
(Simmons),
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cyberbullying,
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characteristics,
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responses to,
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Cyberbullying Research Center,
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cyberdrama,
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Dana (student),
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danger, girls'
vs.
boys' perception of,
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Daniella (student),
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Danielle (student),
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Danika (student),
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Dee Dee (student),
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Deirdre (student),
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denial

of bullying behaviors,
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of feelings,
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by parents,
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depression,
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developmental stages

and access to social media,
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and bullying as "rite of passage,"
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and feelings of shame,
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healthy development,
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and relational aggression,
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DiFranco, Ani,
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digital citizenship,
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Dina (student),
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distancing behaviors,
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divorce, parental,
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domestic violence, battered women,
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Dominican culture, girls in,
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Donna (mother),
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drama,
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Drew (student),
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duplicity, hypocrisy,
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educators, teachers

challenges faced by,
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classroom strategies,
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modeling desired behaviors,
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noninterference strategy,
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recognizing/handling relational aggression,
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showing empathy,
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social-emotional learning (SEL),
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training needs,
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working with parents,
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egalitarian ethos,
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Elaine (mother),
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electronic aggression,
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Elizabeth (student),
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Ellen (mother),
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Ellie (student),
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e-mail, aggressive or hurtful,
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See also
communications; privacy; social media

Emily (student),
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emotions, feelings

accepting/expressing,
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denying/repressing,
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and typing while distraught,
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empathy

conveying,
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emotional expression
vs.,
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from parents and teachers,
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Erica (student),
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Erin (student),
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Esther (student),
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ethical use contracts.
See
social media contracts

Evans, Gail,
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exclusion

fear of,
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in kindergarten,
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and loneliness,
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as relational aggression,
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See also
loss

eye rolling.
See
nonverbal communication

Facebook

anonymous postings on,
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communications using,
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and cyberdrama,
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and exclusion,
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Honesty Box,
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and the paradox of authenticity,
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and popularity,
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safety concerns,
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