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Authors: Tristan Taormino
The Anal Sex Position Guide
NAL
S
EX
POSITION GUIDE
The Best Positions for Easy, Exciting, Mind-Blowing Pleasure
Tristan Taormino
author of the bestseller
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
CHAPTER 3
Preparing for Anal Sex: Hygiene, Lube, and Safer Sex
INTRODUCTION
Repositioning Anal Pleasure
WHEN I PUBLISHED
my first book on anal sex in 1998,
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
, the topic wasn’t exactly on everyone’s radar. I wrote the book because it was one I wanted to have in my own personal library; there was so little information about anal pleasure available at the time, especially from a woman’s point of view. It was something people didn’t talk about publicly, and you did not hear a lot about it, even among sex educators. Although my publisher supported the book wholeheartedly, the salespeople at the distributor were skittish, the book buyers were concerned, and stores weren’t quite ready to roll out the red carpet to promote it. It was difficult to convince people that anyone was interested in a book about anal sex. It was a struggle to get any newspaper or magazine to even mention the title of my book (let alone review it). I can remember having awkward conversations at parties when someone would say, “You’re an author? What’s your book about?”
Anal sex is still considered taboo by many in our society, but what a difference a decade makes! It has taken time and patience, but the dialogue around this erogenous zone has finally, well, opened up. I now get hundreds of emails a day from people who are curious about it or consider it one of their favorite things to do and want to make the experience even richer. Popular magazines such as
Redbook
,
Cosmopolitan
, and
Marie Claire
have featured advice on anal pleasure. Mainstream media outlets from CBS Health-watch and iVillage to MSNBC and Oxygen have all covered the topic. Plus, anal sex finally made its way into scenes in some of the most popular shows on television, including
Sex and the City
,
The Sopranos
, and
Weeds
. The growing visibility of anal sex means more people are talking about it, learning about it, and, of course, doing it!
In the ’80s and early ’90s, if anal sex was mentioned at all in the media, it was primarily in the context of AIDS, gay male sexuality, or risky sexual practices. That limited people’s perceptions about who practiced and enjoyed anal sex. Today, anal sex is seen as an intimate activity enjoyed by a wide variety of people of all genders and sexual orientations. Statistics from the last two decades vary, but several studies show that about 20–25 percent of heterosexual women and men have tried anal sex. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s 2002 National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG) polled more than 12,000 men and women aged 15–44 (90 percent of whom were heterosexual), and found that 34 percent of men and 30 percent of women reported having anal sex at least once.
Most books devoted to sexual techniques focus on vaginal intercourse, devoting only a fraction of their pages to anal play. When I revised
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
in 2006, I added seventy-five pages of new material, hoping to make it the most comprehensive guide on the subject—but I didn’t have room to go into tremendous detail when it came to positions. The best way to introduce new positions is with lots of informative and inspiring illustrations, and that’s why I am so thrilled to have the opportunity here to combine my expertise and advice with some of the most stunningly erotic photographs of anal pleasure I’ve ever seen!
Feel free to get distracted or inspired by the images as you flip through the pages. Here is a basic roadmap in case you get lost! In
chapter 1
, I review male and female sexual anatomy and discuss the many ways people experience pleasure through anal sex. Learn more about how to bring up the subject, communicate about it, and talk through your concerns with your partner in
chapter 2
.
Chapter 3
covers how to prepare for anal sex, including
tips about hygiene, enemas, lubrication, and safer sex. In
chapter 4
, I share information about penetration—from warm-up and genital stimulation to finger techniques and intercourse—with pointers along the way for both givers and receivers.
Chapter 7
is devoted to beginner and basic positions; you’ll recognize such classics as Missionary, Spooning, and Doggie Style, and find out how you can best use these positions—and different variations of them—for anal pleasure. Looking for some positions to spice up your sexual repertoire? Then check out
chapter 7
for great ones, including Reverse Cowgirl, Tailgate, The Chairman, Flying Doggie, and Side Saddle. When you’ve mastered these, move on to
chapter 10
for the most advanced, unique positions. You’ll learn about Superman, Batman, Inverted Spider, Triple X, Wheelbarrow, and the Rocking Horse, among others. In
chapters 5
,
7
, and
11
, the positions will be discussed with examples and illustrated with photos of men as givers and women as receivers; however, keep in mind that many of the positions can be adopted by partners of any gender. In
chapter 12
, I identify and review which positions work well for strap-on anal sex, and all the images will be of women penetrating men; again, many of these positions can work for gay or lesbian couples as well. Find out what elements you should consider when finding the best positions for you and your partner in
chapter 13
and get some final words of encouragement in
chapter 15
.
A complete guide to sex toys such as butt plugs, dildos, vibrators, and more can be found in
chapter 8
.
Chapter 11
is all about men receiving anal pleasure: I debunk the myths, share important information about prostate stimulation, and cover the ins and outs of strap-on anal sex.
In
chapters 6
,
9
, and
14
, I have included “Words to Inspire You,” sexy short stories written especially for this book by three of the most celebrated erotic authors in the country: Alison Tyler, M. Christian, and Rachel Kramer Bussel. I hope their words will help spark ideas and fantasies as part of your learning process. At the end of the book, there is a resource guide of all things anal, including books, videos, websites, and the best sex shops for toys and accessories.
Keep an open mind as you read
The Anal Sex Position Guide
. Experimenting with a new position can help you move outside your comfort zone, just as returning to a favorite can often arouse you in a new and unexpected way. Either way, you’re in for a wonderful erotic adventure!
