The Power of the Herd (79 page)

dharma,
184

Dickinson, Charles,
195

Dietmann, Ulrike,
166

disappointment,
256–57
,
273

disempowerment,
203–4

dissociation,
241
,
285
,
306

domestication

behavioral/physiological connections,
116–18

Farm-Fox Experiment,
116–18

oxytocin and,
122–23
,
142

of stallions,
150–52

of wolves,
115

dominance

defined,
73–74

in Fulani herding techniques,
131–35
,
136–37

natural social behavior and,
73–74
,
77–78

predatory,
203–5
,
222

dominance-submission system

apologies and,
396

civilization and,
98

deflected rage and,
245

disadvantages of,
97–98

endurance of,
126

herd control and,
128

in sedentary cultures,
128–29

dominator stallions,
73–74

dopamine,
119

Dorrance, Bill and Tom,
81

Dossey, Larry,
407

drama queens/kings,
235–36

Dressage in the Fourth Dimension
(Ackerman),
71

ears, floppy,
116
,
117

economic strife,
2

education,
202

ego,352–55

Eisenhower, Dwight D.,
60

El Alamein (horse),
27–28

Eliade, Mircea,
407

Elizabeth I (queen of England),
412

Elkind, Peter,
101–3

Ellis, Joseph J.,
54
,
55
,
57
,
71
,
88
,
89
,
93
,
189
,
190–91

emotional agility,
234–35

Emotional Genius
(McLaren),
257–58

emotional heroism (Guiding Principle
11
)

apologies,
395–96

author's experience,
387–90

benefits of,
393
,
394

consensual leadership and,
386

female professionals and,
392–93
,
394

formal sequence for, in interpersonal conflicts,
397–400

generosity/forgiveness,
396–97

Jackson and,
195–96
,
208

need for,
394–95

overview,
231

shame/guilt and,
249

sharo
tradition and,
139
,
144–45
,
390–92
,
393–94

of visionaries,
158
,
259

emotional intelligence

affect contagion and,
298–99

body scan as tool for,
292–96

boundary setting vs. assertiveness,
320
defined,
35

empathic insights and,
36–38

human lack of,
181

laughter and,
40

leadership and,
35–36

professional benefits of,
235

shamanic acts,
224–25

sociopaths and,
45

Emotional Intelligence
(Goleman),
35

Emotional Message Chart,
237
,
238
,
262
,
271–74
,
295
,
300
,
302

emotional-strength training,
344
,
345–48
,
363
,
365

emotions

body as source of,
275–76

hidden,
34–35
,
277–78
,
297–99

horses and dealing with,
23
,
24

incongruent,
278
,
300–301

mind function and,
284

negative,
408–9

philosophical/religious views of,
283–84

physiological effects of,
408–9

positive,
268–70
,
408–9

refusing,
362

suppression/expression of,
21
,
34
,
232–34
,
235–36
,
285–86

triggers for,
303–4
,
399

uncomfortable, “sitting” in,
300

emotions, contagious

Body First Theory and,
276–77

empathic insights,
36–38

hidden negative emotions and,
297–99

managing (Guiding Principle
3
),
298–305
,
386

overview,
229

physiological causes of,
31–35

See also
affect contagion

emotions as information, using (Guiding Principle
1
)

anger/frustration,
243–48

benefits of,
237
,
361–62

context and,
237–38

depression,
260–68

in difficult-conversations format,
373
,
374

disappointment,
256–57

Emotional Message Chart,
237
,
238
,
271–74

envy/jealousy,
252–56

for fear management,
364

fear/vulnerability,
238–43

Four-Point Method for Emotional Agility,
234–35
,
237

horses and,
234
,
236–37

intensifications,
238

overview,
229

positive emotions,
268–70

questions for,
302

sadness/grief,
257–60

shame/guilt,
248–52

empathy

affect contagion and,
37–38

guilt and,
248–49

intelligence dissociated from,
99–100

physiology of,
31

“selective,”
211

empowerment

emotions for strengthening,
270

fear of,
330–32

mutual,
385–86

“encounter group” approach,
302

endurance,
51

energizing emotions,
270

energy, conserving (Guiding Principle
7
),
230
,
361–65
,
386

energy medicine,
154

Enron scandal,
99–103
,
107

envy,
237
,
252–53
,
254–55
,
273

Epona (Celtic horse goddess),
9

Epona Equestrian Services,
9

Eponaquest Worldwide,
9–10
,
310–12
,
332–39
,
372
,
373
,
385
,
410

Apprenticeship Program,
375

equanimity,
74–75

equestrian arts,
71–73
,
78
,
170

equine-facilitated learning,
108
,
310–12
,
345
,
408–11
,
414–18

Equine Facilitated Mental Health Association,
408

equine-facilitated therapy,
241
,
261–62
,
285

equine massage,
178

EquuSatori Center (CA),
408

Erwin, Joseph,
194–95

ethnic groups, objectification of,
209–10

evaluation apprehension,
188–89

Even people,
123
,
125

evolutionary theory

cooperation vs. competition in,
103

dominance-submission system and,
98

horse training and,
153

human-animal bond and,
108

mutual aid and,
103–5
,
106–8
,
205
,
366

nonpredatory wisdom and,
81

See also
“survival of the fittest”

Extract
(film; 2009),
19

Fabius Maximus,
88

factories,
18

factory farming,
128

Fall, The,
79–81
,
221

Farm-Fox Experiment,
116–18

Fastow, Andy,
100

fear

of boundary setting,
218

defined,
241

of empowerment,
330–32

equine ability to communicate,
280–82

messages behind,
240
,
271

as socialization factor,
203–4

vulnerability vs.,
237
,
238–39
,
295
,
340–41
,
362–63

fear-management skills

affect contagion and,
38–40

nonverbal,
31

protocols for,
363–65

retaliation and,
209

Federation for Horses in Training and Education International,
261

feedback, positive,
230
,
314
,
320–21

See also
crescendo-into-immediate-positive-feedback approach

feminine wisdom,
359

Field Notes on the Compassionate Life
(Barasch),
78

Fijn, Natasha,
123–24

financial crisis (2008),
97
,
239
,
260
,
375

fitness,
363

Five Dysfunctions of a Team, The
(Lencioni),
296
,
342–44

Fleming, Thomas,
69

flight-or-fight mode,
182

cathedral thinking and,
8

of horses,
38–39
,
73

hurry to adopt,
239

inflammatory words/gestures causing,
303

negative emotions and,
268

nonpredatory power and,
156

oxytocin and,
402

oxytocin as buffer to,
118–19
,
134
,
141

resisting,
8
,
39–40
,
144
,
155

shared emotion and,
38–39

sharo
tradition and,
144
,
208

Ford, Debbie,
213

forgiveness,
396–97

founding fathers,
191–92

Four-Point Method for Emotional Agility,
234–35
,
237

foxes,
116–18

Frattaroli, Elio,
37

Freedom in Fulani Social Life
(Riesman),
152

French and Indian War,
53
,
63–65
,
204
,
215

Freud, Sigmund,
354

frustration,
321–22

anger vs.,
237
,
243
,
244
,
295

defined,
247

messages behind,
247
,
272

Fry, Joshua,
53

Fulani herdsmen

courageous reputation of,
135–36

cultural decline of,
152

herding techniques of,
131–35

interspecies socialization skills of,
127–28

life cycle of,
139

nature/nurture/love as viewed by,
143–45

origins of,
135

See also sharo
ceremony (Fulani tradition)

Gardener, Tom,
341

Gaudí, Antoni,
7–8
,
10–11
,
15–16

generosity,
396–97

Genesis, Book of,
110
,
111

Geneva Conventions,
60

Genghis Khan,
205
,
206
,
226

George III (King of England),
93

Geronimo,
226

Giffords, Gabrielle,
94–95

Gifts of Imperfection, The
(Brown),
218–20

Gladwell, Malcolm,
255

“glass ceilings,”
96–97

Goatwalking
(Corbett),
111
,
112
,
113

Goldsmith, Marshall,
97–98
,
343

Goleman, Daniel,
32
,
33–34
,
35–36
,
39–40
,
42
,
276
,
277

Good Grief
(Coryell),
260

Gore, Al,
50

gossip,
304

Gould, Mary-Louise,
393–94

“grazing,” going back to,
231
,
235
,
239
,
362
,
365
,
413

Greco-Roman civilization,
91–92
,
126
,
232
,
283–84
,
406

Greene, Nathanael,
67
,
88–89

grief,
237
,
257–60
,
274

Griffiths, Jay,
232

Gross, Terry,
19

grudge holding,
207
,
235
,
333
,
389

Guiding Principles, overview,
229–31

1 (see emotions as information, using)

2 (see body, listening to)

3 (see emotions, contagious, managing)

4 (see assertiveness; boundary setting)

5 (see vulnerability, tolerance for)

6 (see programs, choosing)

7 (see energy, conserving)

8 (see nonpredatory power/wisdom)