The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy (28 page)

      
BOOKS, NONFICTION:

            
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
, Tristan Taormino

            
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men
, Bill Brent

Chapter 3:
Fantasies for Two

Building a Fantasy Scenario

      
BOOKS, NONFICTION:

            
(For books on anal sex, see
Chapter 2
, above.)

            
The Bedside Kama Sutra: 23 Positions for Pleasure and Passion
, Linda Sonntag

            
The Big Bang: Nerve's Guide to the New Sexual Universe
, Emma Taylor and Loreli Sharkey

            
The Big O
, Lou Paget

            
The Guide to Getting it On!
, Paul Joannides

            
Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting
, Deborah Addington

            
The Kama Sutra of Sexual Positions
, Kenneth Ray Stubbs

            
Sex Toys 101: A Playfully Uninhibited Guide
, Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanaugh

            
Toygasms: The Insider's Guide to Sex Toys and Techniques
, Sadie Allison

            
The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus
, Violet Blue

            
The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio
, Violet Blue

            
The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex
, Karlyn Lotney

            
The Wild Guide to Sex and Loving
, Siobahn Kelly

      
VIDEOS, INSTRUCTIONAL:

            
Better Oral Sex Techniques
(Sinclair Intimacy Institute)

            
The Complete Guide to Sexual Positions
(Sinclair Intimacy Institute)

            
Nina Hartley's Guides to: Anal Sex, Fellatio, Cunnilingus, Sex Toys
(Adam and Eve Productions)

            
Toys for Better Sex
(Sinclair Intimacy Institute)

            
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women 1
(Evil Angel)

      
WEBSITES:

            
Freddy and Eddy,
www.freddyandeddy.com

            
Tiny Nibbles,
www.tinynibbles.com

Getting to Know Your Lover's Fantasies

      
BOOKS, NONFICTION:

            
365 Days of Sensational Sex
, Lou Paget

            
Come Hither
, Gloria Brame

            
For Each Other: Sharing Sexual Intimacy
, Lonnie Barbach

            
Sex Talk: Uncensored Exercises for Exploring What Really Turns You On
, Aline P. Zoldbrod and Lauren Dockett

            
Turn-Ons: Pleasing Yourself While You Please Your Lover
, Lonnie Barbach

Chapter 4:
Role Play

Erotic Acting

      
BOOKS, NONFICTION:

            
Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot
, Carol Queen

            
Sensuous Magic: A Guide to S/M for Adventurous Couples
, Patrick Califia

Where to Shop?

            
Look locally in costume shops, used clothing stores, and in Halloween stores for inexpensive items. Sexy Halloween yearround: naughty costumes at
www.trashy.com
and
www.pinupgirlclothing.com
, and of course,
www.ebay.com
. General information and inspiration can be found at
www.costumes.org
. I've provided some links below to sites that sell uniforms for professional use only. These sites are for reference only: Impersonating police, firefighters, medical professionals, and military personnel is against the law, and in some cases, a federal offense. If you look authentic, please keep it in the house, dungeon, playspace, or sex party.

Classic Roles

      
BOSS, CAT BURGLAR, CRIMINAL, DELIVERYMAN, ROCK STAR, ACTOR, PIMP, SECRETARY, SLEAZY PHOTOGRAPHER, REPAIRMAN, SCHOOL AUTHORITY FIGURES, STRANGER, VICTIM:

            
Look in your own closet for appropriate clothing for these characters; and shop for additional accessories to add realism. Glasses make the boss or secretary, leather pants might make you a rock star, fake gold chains and big rings can ease you into pimpdom, and criminals are likely to wear ski masks and black
garments. You'll have to seek out specific repairman and deliveryman uniforms at used clothing shops or uniform stores.

      
BIKER:

            
You need leather. Or maybe some Pleather. Shop at a motorcycle store, a leather shop in your town, or online for chaps, vests, skirts, pants, or shorts. For authenticity, try these sites:
www.stormyleather.com
,
www.mr-s-leather-fetters.com
,
www.chilhowee.net
,
www.harley-davidson.com
.

      
CHEERLEADER:

            
www.cheerleading.net
,
http://cheerdeals.com
,
www.broadwayalbion.com

      
DOCTOR, NURSE, AND PATIENT:

            
For authenticity,
www.anthonysscrubs.com
and
www.allheart.com
. Sexy:
www.threewisheslingerie.com/nurse.asp
. See “medical fetish” in the fetish resources below (listed under
Chapter 9
) for specialized gear (outside of stethoscopes and nurse's hats) sold for sexual purposes.

      
FIREFIGHTER:

            
The real deal is at
www.chiefsupply.com
.

      
FOOTBALL CAPTAIN:

            
www.teamsportswear.com

      
HERO, HEROINE:

            
Your everyday clothes, of course. Maybe for underneath you'll want to check out
www.costumecraze.com/Superheroes.html
.

      
HUMAN DOG, PONY, OR PET:

            
We're talkin' collars, bridles, leashes, human saddles. For the simple stuff, your local pet store or tack shop. For advanced, visit
www.stormyleather.com
,
www.mr-s-leather-fetters.com
,
www.the-stampede.org
(ponyplay, extensive resources).

      
MILITARY:

            
Army supply stores will have everything you need, cheap.

      
POLICE:

            
Can be thrown together easily—look around various websites for inspiration. The real thing is at
www.chiefsupply.com
.

      
PRIEST, NUN:

            
Sexy and fun, a good selection is at
www.costumecraze.com/Couples-Costumes.html
. Real priest cassocks at
www.zieglers.com
.

      
SCHOOLGIRL OR -BOY:

            
Pretty much every stripper store, adult toy store, and costume shop has a risqué schoolgirl outfit, but sometimes the real thing is sexier. What you need is a plaid skirt, white top, and tie—or slacks and white top and tie, all found in your closet or local used clothing store. If you order the real thing online, as an adult you'll need to order children's plus sizes. Check out
www.frenchtoast.com
for inspiration.

Gender Play

            
Cross-dressing for sex is a blast. Men will don bras, panties, garters or pantyhose, skirts and dresses, heels (if you can find large sizes), and makeup. Look at
www.cross-dress.com
,
www.tgforum.com
, and absolutely visit
www.missvera.com
. How-to books for male-to-female gender roles include
Miss Vera's Finishing School for Boys Who Want to be Girls
and
Miss Vera's Cross Dress for Success
, by Miss Veronica Vera;
A Charm School for Sissy Maids
, by Mistress Loreli; and
The Lazy Crossdresser
, by Charles (Charlie Girl) Anders.

                  
Women dressing as men will decide between boxers and briefs and slip into suits, workmen's uniforms, or any other masculine attire. Facial hair can be added with theater spirit gum and false hair (available at theater makeup stores), and you can strap on a dildo for form or function inside your pants.
Get packing dildos and harnesses at
www.goodvibes.com
. Find further information, such as books and videos, in the fetish resources below (under
Chapter 9
). Books for female-to-male cross-dressing include
The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex
, by Karlyn Lotney.

Age Play

            
Costuming for age play usually involves one partner being significantly younger, and that is where the focus of dress lies. Age play can be done with schoolgirl or -boy costumes, or taken further with adult diapers. Also check out
www.foreverakid.com
.

Chapter 5:
Threesomes, Foursomes, and Moresomes

      
BOOKS, NONFICTION:

            
The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
, Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt

            
Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits
, Deborah M. Anapol

            
Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships
, Wendy-O Matik

Chapter 6:
Weaving a Spell: Striptease, Hot Talk, and Erotic Massage

      
BOOKS, NONFICTION:

            
Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot
, Carol Queen

How to Strip and Lap Dance 101

      
BOOKS, NONFICTION:

            
The Art of Exotic Dancing for Everyday Women
, Leah Stauffer

            
Bedroom Games: Stripteases, Seductions and Other Surprises to Keep Your Partner Coming Back for More
, Mary Taylor

      
VIDEOS, INSTRUCTIONAL:

            
The Art of Exotic Dancing for Everyday Women
(Philadelphia Films)

            
The Art of Sensual Dance for Every Body
(Self Appeal)

The Art of Dirty Talk

      
BOOKS, NONFICTION:

            
The Fine Art of Erotic Talk: How to Entice, Excite and Enchant Your Lover with Words
, Bonnie Gabriel

      
VIDEOS, INSTRUCTIONAL:

            
Talk to Me Baby: A Lover's Guide to Dirty Talk and Role-Play
(S.I.R. Productions)

Giving an Erotic Massage

      
BOOKS, NONFICTION:

            
Erotic Passions
, Kenneth Ray Stubbs

            
Male Erotic Massage
, Kenneth Ray Stubbs

            
Massage for Lovers
, Tim Freke

      
VIDEOS, INSTRUCTIONAL:

            
The Best of Vulva Massage
(The New School of Erotic Touch)

            
Fire in the Valley: An Intimate Guide to Female Genital Massage
(The New School of Erotic Touch)

            
Fire on the Mountain: Male Genital Massage
(The New School of Erotic Touch)