Understanding Sexual Attraction
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Authors: Nicholas Jack
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Understanding Sexual Attracti
on: What Makes a Woman Want You
By Nicholas Jack
Copyright 2012
By Nicholas Jack
All Rights Reserved
Kindle Edition
Table of Contents
Chapter 4: Personality Attributes
Chapter 5: Overall Base Attraction
Chapter 7: Tricks to Creating Attraction
Chapter 8: Attraction Characteristics that Will Differ from Girl to Girl
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120 Body Language Signals that She Likes You
The secrets to knowing whether or not a girl likes you are contained in this book. No more wondering if she is interested, after this you will understand who it is she likes better than she will.
It is important to know how to read women so you will know which women to pursue. Why waste your time on a girl who is already taken or not looking.
Reading body language cues are things that you need to do before: approaching her, asking her on a date, kissing her, and making things sexual. This book will further improve your understanding of women.
The 9 Laws of Attractive Body Language for Men
If only 7% of communication is
done through words, then why do so many believe that they can pick up a girl with some magic line? The 9 laws of attractive body language are your magic line, they cover the other 93% of communication. If you have mastered these, you will be able to say anything, to any girl, and have her respond positively in nearly any situation.
In addition to the 9 laws of attractive body language, you will also learn:
-The secret to building attraction while dancing; using the 9 laws in the club
-How to take pictures of yourself that women will find attractive
-How you can remember the laws and make them habit
-How you can teach yourself the 9 laws subconsciously
-And much more.
Chapter 1: Introduction
You don't n
eed money to get girls; in fact, I will show you what you need to be able to steal a girl from a billionaire. It's all in improving yourself. You will see none of that "Looks don't matter." and "Money doesn't matter." that people try to tell you. You will learn the truth about what causes attraction in women and gain an understanding that few people have. I’ll show you the larger perspective of attraction, and how important each aspect really is.
You can never know how to be attractive to women unless you know what is attractive to women. That is the sole purpose of this book. However
, as a bonus I will also add in some tricks to build attraction in the moment. Sexual attraction is something every man should understand. Understanding sexual attraction is a step towards understanding women.
You may have heard a small amount about what things a girl finds attractive. You may have heard "All you need for women to be attracted to you is confidence." If only it were that simple. Confidence
, on its own, accounts for about 6% of the total attraction she could feel for you. However 6% is still an important amount of attraction considering some guys will get a girl when a girl only feels a total of 10% attraction for them. The average guy will only get about 0 to 5% attraction from a girl. Right now that figure doesn't make much sense, but as you read it will all become clear.
Wh
ile reading, you will learn the attributes that cause attraction. Understand that in creating attraction, it doesn't matter what positive attributes you have, it only matters what positive attributes she perceives you to have. If you have perfect six pack abs, but she never sees them, it will never hit that particular attraction trigger. If you are a millionaire, but drive a 1,000$ car, she will never know you have money. Attraction is always caused by what the woman perceives.
I will be using a model to help you to understand the importance of different traits in creating attraction. Every woman is different, so don't pay attention to the exact numbers. Howeve
r these numbers are still relevant, because biologically, all women are wired the same.
To help you to understand better how attraction works, I will be showing you with numbers. What you will be dealing with is Base Attraction. Base Attraction is how much measurable attraction a man has. A man can say and act a certain way
, in a certain moment, to make a girl feel attraction for him in that moment, but those attraction switches are fleeting and hard to measure. So we will be focusing on Base Attraction.
You are about to understand what makes a man attractive. I will start little by little, so you will slowly begin to see the big picture. Then it will all come together. You will understand what makes a man attractive and how you can make yourself more attractive.
Chapter 2: Looks
Looks account for about 38% of the total Base Attraction that a woman feels for a man. Looks are the very first thing that a woman notices about a man. It is one of the most important things in creating attraction with a woman, but keep in mind it is not everything.
Facial Looks
Facial looks are s
omething that many people prize and a good face is the main standard of beauty in our world. Facial looks make up 10% of total Base Attraction. It is a sizeable chunk but, keep in mind it is not everything. The reason women are attracted to facial looks is because those genetics will make the faces of their children better looking. If they have a girl it means that that child will have a very easy life, even as a male, things will be easier. All these things will subconsciously run through a woman’s mind when she sees a pretty face and it will cause immense attraction. It has actually been shown that cuteness is an adaptation meant to keep a baby’s parents from abandoning them.
Eyes -
It is said that eyes are the window to the soul. Eyes are very important, but that is because of body language, which we will get to later. Eyes are one of the first things that a woman notices about a man. The reason women are attracted to pretty eyes is because it signifies health, and thousands of years ago if your sight wasn't good, you wouldn’t last long. The strong possibility of passing on good genes to her children will cause a woman to feel attraction when seeing attractive eyes.
When it comes to eye color, the rarest color of eyes is what people usually see as beautiful. In South America blue or gree
n eyes will leave girls in awe, but in the United States they are not treated with as much reverence; this is because blue and green eyes are not as rare in the United States.
Because of
the importance that eyes have in feeling attraction, it is important to take care of your eyes. Don't let them get bloodshot and don't cover them with glasses, if you have the choice.
Jaw -
A strong, defined jaw is another feature that is part of a woman's attraction switch. A strong jaw is a sign of high testosterone levels, and thousands of years ago high testosterone levels meant that the man was higher in the social hierarchy and that he was stronger. The only way to improve your jawline is to raise your testosterone. There are natural ways to do this, for example: going to the gym, adding aggressive hobbies to your life, etc. A quick internet search will lead you to plenty of ways to raise your testosterone levels. High testosterone also signals that a man has a healthy sex drive. That is relevant because, biologically, the two most important things that human beings, as a species, are programmed to do are survive and reproduce.
Hair
- The popularity of Rogaine is a testament that men know a thick, head of hair is attractive to women. However hair is just a small part of facial beauty. A bald head, if done stylishly, can still look presentable. Hair still accounts for roughly 1% of total attraction, so do all you can to keep it looking good.
Overall Body
Many people believe that facial beauty is more important than having a good body, but biologically it is actually less. A girl will be more attracted to you based on your body than any other single feature there is. The Body accounts for 10% (16% including height) of the Base Attraction that a woman feels for a man. 10% of that you have a say in improving. There are many things you can do, and it is a good idea to make it a priority.
Muscle and Body Fat -
Everyone knows that muscle on a man is attractive, however too much muscle can be a bad thing. The idea of putting on muscle is to make yourself look like a healthy, strong man, who is able to take care of himself. If you want to strictly hit attraction triggers don't overdo this by taking steroids and dedicating your life to body building. However, if you aren’t just trying to hit attraction triggers a body builder will still hit many of those attraction triggers. The key word is healthy looking, a jacked guy is still a lot more healthy looking than a scrawny 110 lb man and he will come off as more of a protector. In my opinion about 7 to 12 percent body fat is what women find ideal.
The Shoulder to Waist Ratio-
Throughout time there has been a feature that all women have found very attractive, it's called the shoulder to waist ratio. 1:1.68 waist to shoulder ratio is preferred. This is called the Golden Ratio. To learn more about this concept of beauty, do a quick Google search. Do all you can to broaden those shoulders and narrow that waste. You will hit an attraction trigger just with that feature.
Chest-
A large, not overly large, and shapely chest is not only something that triggers an attraction trigger in men; it does so in women as well. A chest is seen as one of the leading indicators of strength when someone looks at a man. When a woman sees a nice chest, she subconsciously sees him as somebody who can keep her safe. Keep in mind not just to go for improving the size of your chest, but also the shape and definition.
Arms -
This is the second feature that people use to gauge a man's strength. Big arms are something most women love, but again mixing size and definition is the best way to get the best results from women. Good arms will also subconsciously send her the message that you can protect her.
Abs-
Abs are signs of good health, being athletic, and able to take care of a girl. Getting six-pack abs are a must if you like to find girls at beaches or pools, but they won't help you much in the beginning stages of a relationship when you are in a place that you’re supposed to keep your shirt on. It’s good to prioritize what features you work on based on how you like to spend your time.
Height
Height is one of those things that, short of flats and thick soled shoes, you can't do anything about. However
, it is still important to understand that this alone is a very strong attraction switch.
Taller people are seen as more masculine. It is a subconscious sign of status that whoever is the highe
st in a room is the person with the most status. Subconscious things like this are the reason that women are so turned on by a taller guy.
Tip: I
f you want to get those tall points, you could try traveling to South America or Asia. On average people in those places are a lot shorter, so you will get more attraction with less height.
Dress with Style
One of the simplest and most important things to remember about
having good style is to dress to your body type. It is much easier to follow than all the current fashion trends. If you have muscle, wear a tighter shirt that shows it off. If you have a good waist to hip ratio, wear a nice tailored shirt so people can see your waist. Never wear big shirts if you have a narrow waste. You want your shirts to show it off. If you are trying to hide a little extra fat you can wear shirts that are thicker with more layers.
Make sure you have a nice pair of clean shoes.
Shoes are one of the first things women notice. It's also good to have a basic idea of what colors go with what. You don't need to dress like a male model, you just need to dress to maximize your attractive qualities.
Hygiene and Grooming
H
ygiene is an attraction switch, but more importantly, it's one of the main things that can kill attraction. It is very important to make sure you are keeping up on the following:
Clean Body -
You want to make sure your body is clean. Use soap and make sure to wash everywhere. Remember your neck and around your ears. Greasy hair or dreadlocks may look good at times from far away, but up close it will kill attraction, and fast.
Trim Your Hair -
Get frequent haircuts so that you will look very crisp. Also make sure to shave, and trim your beard when needed. Don't let your pubic hair get out of control either. If you have bushy eyebrows, pluck them. If you have a hairy back, wax it, shave it, or get laser treatments done. If you can see your nose hairs when you look in the mirror it means you should pluck them.
Fingernails, Acne, Boogers, and Goobers -
Make sure to keep your fingernails cut and clean, you should see no white part. If you have acne or something else on your face do your best to get it treated, and get in a habit of always checking yourself before you go out for boogers and eye goobers.
How to Use Looks to Create Sexual Attraction
Looks are
one of the easiest attributes to show. Everywhere you go people will see your looks, whether you want them to or not. One of the best tips I can give you is to look your best whenever you leave your home. You never know when a cute girl will cross your path.
A previously mentioned way to show your
looks is to dress to your body; don't hide a nice chest behind a sweater all the time, show it off. If they can't see it, it won't create any attraction. If you have good arms, wear a short sleeve or tight shirt. Loose clothing is meant to hide your body, so only use it if you have something to hide. If you've got a big package, you better wear some tight pants or no woman is ever going to know, well, until all the hard work is already done they won’t know.