F*ck Feelings (47 page)

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Nadelson, Theodore.
Trained to Kill: Soldiers at War.
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Olive Kitteridge.
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Louie
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Brosh, Allie.
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Davies, Robertson.
Fifth Business
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Wishful Drinking
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Forrest, Emma.
Your Voice in My Head
. New York: Other Press, 2011.

Gay, Roxane.
Bad Feminist
. New York: HarperPerennial, 2014.

Gethard, Chris.
A Bad Idea I'm About to Do: True Tales of Seriously Poor Judgment and Stunningly Awkward Adventure
. Cambridge, MA: Da Capo Press, 2012.

Loder, Kurt, and Tina Turner:
I, Tina: My Life Story.
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Maria Bamford:
The Special Special Special!
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Poehler, Amy.
Yes Please
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Saks, Elyn.
The Center Cannot Hold
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Sheindlin, Judith.
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AA,
35
,
36
,
38
,
121

abstinence,
36

acceptance,
2
,
3
,
9
,
32
–33,
65
,
107
,
108
,
196
,
227
,
305

accountability,
9

acne,
284

ADD,
27
,
32

addiction:

as bottomless pit,
33

defining for yourself,
35

denial of,
35

and divorce,
170

and lost love,
206

recovery programs,
34
,
36

rescuing others from,
117
–24,
193
–94,
254

selfishness of,
147

signs of,
34

and trauma,
228

withdrawal symptoms,
35

addiction, self-cures,
32
–40

accepting your urges,
8
,
32
–34,
36

examples,
34
–35

management,
35
–37

quick diagnosis,
37
–38

your script,
38
–39

ADHD:

diagnosis,
276

medication,
271

adolescents:

alcohol and drugs,
146
,
226
,
305

and depression,
112
,
258

development stage,
268

and divorced parents,
23
,
277

embarrassing boners,
198

as jerks,
127
,
145
–46,
261
–68

life-changing conversation with,
237

lying,
70
,
145
–46

need for privacy,
220

overcritical parent,
132

self-destructive,
135
,
225

shoplifting,
263

and treatment,
317
,
339

your responsibility to,
73
,
145

advertising,
41

aggression,
60
,
142

aging,
196
,
199

Al-Anon,
118

alcohol use:

avoiding in pregnancy,
251

and child abuse,
84
,
86

denial of,
120

designated driver,
64

and divorce,
165

drunk driver,
105

by in-laws,
293

out of control,
17
,
18
,
58

and pain,
166

quiet, mellow drunk,
35

rescuing others from,
52
,
117
–24,
193

risks of,
161

and spouse abuse,
239

and suicide threats,
113

teenage,
146
,
226
,
305

and trauma,
228

and violence,
80

alimony,
172

Allen, Woody,
143
,
159

alternatives, seeking,
53

altruism,
109
–41

Ambien,
202

angel, intervention by,
104

angel-themed TV programs,
284

anger,
113
,
142

child abuse as source of,
86

examples,
232
–33,
317

helping others with,
254

management,
146
–47,
232
,
233
–35,
319

at parents,
291

venting,
231
–37

your script,
148
–49,
237

animals, adopting strays,
137

annoyances:

accepting,
149
–55

examples,
150
–51

quick diagnosis,
153
–54

your script,
154

anti-vaxxers,
95

anxiety,
50
,
85
,
156
–59,
250
–51,
253
,
316
–17,
318
–19,
333

anxiety attacks,
80
,
81

asking why,
17
–18

Asperger's syndrome,
230
–31

assets, your wish list,
179

asshole:

communicating with,
303

dating,
17

ex as,
22
–23

sounding like,
22

teenage child as,
145
–46

your inner,
25

Assholes,
284
–313

accepting,
234
,
321

acting like,
24
,
30
,
268

bathing the feet of,
145

becoming,
161
,
313

bosses as,
220
–21;
see also
workplace

can't help themselves,
234

fucked by nearest/dearest,
286
–91

hanging out with,
89

inescapably annoying,
149
,
231

living and working with,
308
–13

lying,
297
–303

parents as,
234
,
291
–97

personality disorders of,
285

recovery from,
287

saintly,
296
–97

saving from themselves,
303
–8

selfish,
147
,
287

social annihilation by,
298

and therapy,
286
,
342

tunnel vision of,
297

as victims,
127
,
303

words for wrangling with,
303

your script,
237

Assholes Anonymous,
293

Asshole whisperers,
285

attractiveness,
178
–79,
184
–85,
204
,
285

autism,
230
–31,
271

avoidance,
26
,
57
,
78
,
84
–85,
239
,
242

baby:

breastfeeding,
249
–50,
251

constant attention needed by,
251

examples,
249
–50

not ruining,
247
–55

quick diagnosis,
253
–54

your script,
254

background checks,
127
;
see also
due diligence

bail, setting,
246

bang per buck,
139

barfing, constant,
29

bar mitzvahs,
121

baseball, hope springs eternal in,
105
,
208

bear:

angry,
262

being attacked by,
155

megabear reflex,
158
–59

trained,
192

Beauty and the Beast,
192

becoming a more positive person,
20
–25

examples,
22
–23

making you more nasty,
26

management of,
23
–24

nasty signs,
22

quick diagnosis,
24
–25

seeking positive friends,
24

your script,
25

becoming decently demonic,
21

behavior management,
272

being a decent person,
36

Bergman, Ingmar,
159

Berra, Yogi,
209

bickering,
234
,
257

Bill of Rights,
312

biofeedback,
159

bipolarity,
64

birth control,
198
,
246

blame:

assigning,
32
,
78
,
116
,
291
,
313

assuming,
111

avoiding,
78
,
242

protection from,
72
,
294
,
303

blowback,
306

Bochco, Steven,
300

Bogdanovich, Peter,
39

bonding,
144

boner, random,
198

borderlines,
209
,
213
–14,
285

brain:

anxious,
157

badly wired,
27

as body's junk drawer,
318

damage to,
334

growing and maturing,
72

learning by doing,
259

programmed before birth,
18

protectiveness of,
158
–59

and stress,
223

in turmoil,
230

weird,
8
,
30

you're not to blame for,
28

Bravo (TV network),
285

breastfeeding,
249
–50,
251

bullies, standing up to,
55
–62

bullshitter, becoming better,
52

burden, bearing,
157

burnout,
69

Byrne, Rhonda,
The Secret,
14
–15

Caffe Luna (R.I.P.),
39

canary, enchanted,
125

caregivers,
36
–37

carrier pigeon,
83
,
198

cat, as companion,
48

catharsis,
101
–4,
321

cattle prod,
303

changing others,
109
,
231

chaos:

classifications of,
12

slipping into,
10

charisma,
217

charity,
135
–41

examples,
136
–37

quick diagnosis,
138
–39

your script,
139
–40

chemical dependence,
32

Cheney, Dick,
149

childbirth, miracle of,
247

childhood abuse:

avoiding confrontation,
84
–85

avoiding disclosure,
87
–88

closure after,
84
–89

examples,
85
–86

girlfriend suffering from,
208

quick diagnosis,
88
–89

recovery from,
84
–89

reporting,
89

therapy for,
86
–87

your script,
89

children:

of asshole parents,
291
–97