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Authors: Winter Ramos

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Game Over

By Winter Ramos

 

 

 

 

 

Life Changing Books
Published by Life Changing Books
P.O. Box 423 Brandywine, MD 20613
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Copyright © 2013
Cover Photographer:

Seth Kushner
Photography

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Acknowledgements

I want to thank my Lord and Savior for keeping me safe during my wild and crazy life. Thank You for taking me through the bad to eventually get to the great. I appreciate it with all of my heart.

To my mini me, I can’t wait until you get here and meet us. Everyone has waited for you for so long. You are going to be a spoiled brat…so what you are your mother’s child.
World get ready for my mini me.

To my grandmother who gave up her life to make sure I had a great one, thank you. You always had my back and I thank you for everything. My step father, who I adore, I swear you are the best thing that has ever happened to me even though it took me some time to realize it. You are the best man ever and I’m sure they broke the mold when they made you. But thank God I found the closest thing. To my mother, who holds no bars, and who taught me to speak my mind and never back down. If you think I’m
bad, Jackie is ten times worse.

To the love of my life and his three little bears, I love you guys and thank you for being so understanding when my life and schedule is so hectic. To my aunt, Leslie for teaching me no matter how much money he has, you better get your own. I know I’ve done things to disappoint you, but I got it right now and know everythin
g you taught me stayed with me.

Now, it’s time to make you proud. Thanks for always letting me know there was more to life th
an just living in the projects.

To my best friend in the whole wide world and my favorite child. Keya you totally get me, and you gave me Na. I will forever owe you for that. Thank you for being the sister I never had. To Ebony and Raheem, my tag team. Thanks for always being real with me, and slapping me in the back of my head when I needed it most. Tina, Rosan
na and Renee thank you for being the older sisters I never had and all the “sit your ass down” comments when I was doing way too much. I can honestly say I have three older sisters that kick ass.

I also want to thank my Jamaican family for supporting me; Tracey, Raven, Sean, Ray, Lamar,
Logan, Grandma, Toya, Brooklyn, Chrissy, Jeri, and Aliyah. To Indiya, my special child. I’ve seen you grow and happy to say, “You have finally gotten your life.” A special shout out to Baby for being by my side and doing everything to help me through writing this book, filming, and having a baby. I love you guy!

Thanks to my fabulous publishing team for making my book a hit! Rockelle, Gilda, Simone, Kwiecia, Stephanie of Black Rose ENT and the entire roster of Life Changing Books authors, thanks for all the hard work and dedication. I know it’s tough dealing with a firecracker like me, so thanks for the love and patience. Kellie, thanks for the hot book cover design. Thanks to my editor, Melody for the sharp eyes. A special thanks goes to Nicole Bey and Tiphani. I can’t thank you enough for all the promotion on social media. Your contribution to this pr
oject is extremely appreciated.

Also, thanks to Shante at Julisa’s Bar & Lounge in
Harlem.

To my publisher, Azarel- I know you’re tired, but this next book is brewing. To everyone who has an opinion on my past just know this, it’s not did I do it, but am I still doing it. Never judge others. And lastly…I’d like to thank Kiss for putting the battery in my back to write this book. If y
ou ever need a loan, I got you! Ahhhhhhhh!

Muah!

Winter Ramos

Follow me on twitter @winterramos

 

WARNING

Imagine a sexy, A-list celebrity who’s making millions and wooing you. He meets your homegirl, your mother, impresses your best friend, and tells you all the things you’ve always wanted to hear. It’s a dream come true. Soon, he’s spending all his free time with you…when he’s not working or at the studio. He’s at your beck and call, and you put th
e rest of the world on pause.

After a few months, you’re telling everyone that you guys are a couple that is…until you’re being dragged down the steps by your hair while you scream at the top of your lungs, “Noooooooo. Stop!
Get off of me!!!!” The man who’s supposed to be your protector is now kicking you like an animal in front of his friends, sending your body hurtling around the room. Now you’re in a fetal position, crying out for help. People are watching but they stand by and do nothing. Months later, you’re still in that relationship.

This is what I have seen in the crazy world called Hip Hop that took me from the Cypress Hill projects in
Brooklyn to the offices of major record labels like Murder Inc., Def Jam and Ruff Ryder. And even into the arms of the CEO of the most successful, independent label out to date.  

My name is Winter Ramos and I’m here to tell my story. N
ot out of spite nor animosity. But, because it needs to be told. It will not be easy for the many names that will get mentioned or the secrets that will be revealed; or even for the guy who has the smallest dick in the game…but I’m telling it anyway. It is my hope that both younger and older females who think being with a rapper or celebrity is all glitz and glam will learn from my mistakes and stop chasing that dream that eventually turns into a nightmare. 

I hope those Hip Hop celebs mentioned who are married have pre-nups in place; you’ll need them. To those who have rap careers hanging on by a string, get ready to be re-born, my story will boost your career. And to those rappers or industry execs who will flat out deny my story, get ready because you know I have proof.

 

 

 

 

Journal Entry- 2/20/12

Somebody slap me! Tell me today was all a dream. It was all a joke. Friends keep saying, “Winter, stop believing everything you read.” But after Googling the effects of sexual intercourse, I froze. Someone wrote, “When a man ejaculates deep into a woman’s vagina… It’s unreasonable to think it will all drain out. What remains will be absorbed into the woman’s body…and becomes an actual part of the woman with the potential to remain with her for the rest of her life. Thus a woman who has slept with several men, will carry a small part of each of her lovers with her forever.”

Those words
messed me up. Especially: “Forever.” My mind raced. My heart thumped. I thought about all my sexual relationships with rappers, athletes and Hip Hop executives. All of their faces flashed before me: Dame Dash, Jadakiss, a Murder Inc. favorite and many more. I then thought about the tons of women they’d been with. The room seemed to spin at the thought of their sperm being re-absorbed as my very own cells. Geez…I quickly began researching online more and more, lasting late into the night with people commenting, saying the notion couldn’t be true. But in my heart I now believed the bullshit that had been written and how each man I’d slept with had now become a part of me. I then started to think about their different personality traits and how each of them had left me with something, or rubbed off on me in some way. I even thought about my first love, the man who’d obviously left me with major intuition, allowing me to recognize “Game” before it ever got too close. The notion that they each had contributed to my outlook on life made me think differently.

Undoubtedly some biologist somewhere will challenge me on this. But of course I’m not concerned with that. I actually believe this is true. And since it’s my journal, my life
, then who cares? My past is my past and cannot be erased. I’ve learned many things through my relationships, some I’m proud of and others I’m not. Maybe I’ll tell my story soon, with hopes that women from everywhere will learn something from my experiences. Of course I’ll be stepping on the toes of the men who’d rather keep our encounters a secret. But hey…Karma always comes knocking. I’m prepared. Let the games begin!  

        
                             

 

 

 

 

 

1
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Groomed For The Game

Tear
ducts...what the hell are those? 

My mother, Jackie
Natal, said I was born without them. Imagine bursting from your mother’s womb unable to shed a tear. She said the doctor slapped my behind hard several times to make me cry but his borderline abuse resulted only in slight moans escaping my lips. A young mother at seventeen, she had no idea what to do with me. Like most kids in the projects, I didn’t have a father so she had no support there. Well, I had one but he was more of a sperm donor than anything else. He saw me three days after I was born and a limited number of times since, ultimately becoming a ghost in my life. But that seemed to be the norm, none of my friends had fathers around.

My mother and I
lived with my grandmother and two aunts in the Cypress Hill projects in Brooklyn, NY in a three bedroom apartment. Supposedly, from the first day my mother brought me home, I slept through the night. Most babies wake up crying, some at the top of their little lungs to let you know they’re hungry. Not me. I guess my survival skills had already kicked in. My mother tells how she kept waking up and checking on me to make sure I was still breathing. She often wondered why her child didn’t cry every three to four hours in need of a bottle and went to my grandmother for advice.

“That child isn’t normal,” my grandmother
said. “What baby doesn’t wake up for milk?”

Night after night my mother
continued to wake me up to feed me. But my grandmother, the matriarch of the family took a stand. She ordered my mother to stop feeding me. “I want to hear her cry,” she demanded in her strong Puerto-Rican accent. “Stop feeding her until she cries for a bottle. Her lungs need to develop,” she said. At first the story seemed unbelievable…but now I understand. I’m still searching for an answer about my lack of emotion at the age of thirty-three.

I’ve been told
that I’m as cold as my name, ‘Winter.’ That comment should hurt...but it doesn’t. It’s who I am. I believe my kinks are innate while others say my experiences made me who I am today. I can say this: it wasn’t the music industry that did it. I’d been that way all of my life. Maybe not having a father in the house affected me. Maybe I was born with a heart of steel. Or maybe growing up in a house full of strong women who told me early on that men weren’t shit made an impression. 

Some may
think that four women living under the same roof in the hood would be chaotic...but we made it work. While that many females in one spot is usually a breeding ground for trouble, there wasn’t a whole lot of bickering and cat fighting. It was just the opposite. My aunts, Leslie and Mickey, worked constantly, keeping pockets full of money while my mother worked, went to school, or just plain disappeared. My grandmother, Maria Natal, raised me like her own. I even started calling her ‘mom’ and my mother, ‘Jackie.’

Still, I was spoiled rotten
—like the baddest apple in the store. Jackie came over occasionally when I was a toddler and when she made an appearance, she always showered me with gifts. At the age of three I lived like a princess with a room full of Barbie dolls, the latest and most expensive clothes, the newest toys, and the best shoes—everything my heart desired.

Even though I grew up in the projects I never
wanted for anything. Every month was like Christmas, and I’d developed this elite type mentality. Not many in my hood were doing it big like my family. It was all so unreal considering where we lived. But we were different. While all of our friends were black, in apartment 4D all the women were 100 percent Puerto-Rican. And unlike most people in the projects we were never on public assistance. There were no food stamps, no hands outs—none of that. All of the women in my household worked and made good money except for my grandmother who kept the ship afloat.

T
he combined paychecks allowed my family to spoil the only child in the house— me—even more. So living in the projects meant nothing to me. I never even realized there were bars on the window. My small but comfortable room was stocked with teddy bears, games and shelves filled with everything they had in the toy store. I had two televisions, one to watch and one for video games. I even had my own room, while everyone else in the apartment shared. Anything my heart desired, I got it.

One day,
when my mother didn’t meet my demands in our cramped kitchen things spiraled out of control. I was three years old and had asked her for something while my grandmother washed dishes nearby. Jackie’s response was a word I rarely heard at that point: no. So I called her a bitch. 

She flipped. “Go get a belt, Winter,” she told me firmly.

I stormed off to get the belt, returning to the kitchen with a malicious smirk, and handed it to her boldly as if to say, “Now what?”

“You called me a bitch?” my mother angrily asked from the table, attempting to search my grandmother’s eyes.
My grandmother didn’t turn around and kept washing dishes. My mother asked me again, “Winter, you called me a bitch?”

Eventually she got up and swung the belt aiming for my ass. Quick
ly, my rage erupted. “You bitch!” I called out, barely afraid.             

My mother went wild
and at the time I thought she would kill me. She kept swinging as I took refuge behind my grandmother’s five foot frame causing water to splash and fly wildly across the tight kitchen. “You fuckin’ bitch! You fuckin’ bitch!” I repeated over and over again, screaming at the top of my lungs as I played defense across the kitchen floor.

My mother said
I repeated those words at least ten times.

“Leave her alone,” m
y grandmother finally shouted. Her robe and hands were soaked by now, and her eyes warned Jackie to stop.

“Yeah, Jackie, leave me alone,” I interjected.

Of course that was the end. What my grandmother said was always boss. Jackie may have been my mother but it was what it was. The women in my life had created a monster and although I love her to death and am thankful for everything she taught me, Jackie wasn’t around much. I had all the material things I needed…but something was still missing.

Maybe time
with my mother?

Maybe
discipline?

Maybe
being assigned some chores for a change?

N
ot long after my third birthday my father resurfaced. We found out he’d turned into a junkie and was in jail. After he landed in Rikers Island, my mother got the call, the one that sent her running to his rescue with me in tow. My mother said she loved him and wanted me to have a father in my life, so we began visiting him at Rikers. They rekindled their relationship, he got clean and they moved to a fly place in Brooklyn leaving me with my grandmother, although I visited them occasionally.

At the time I didn’t know
my father had been labeled one of the biggest drug dealers in Brooklyn in the mid seventies. He was known as a flashy man with wads of cash in his pocket, and he possessed the finest clothes and best diamonds money could buy. But once my mother told him she was pregnant with me, their world changed. He stopped coming around and rumors surfaced that he’d been cheating on my mother.

Like the strong woman my mother was and is today, she left him
—pregnant and all—telling him she didn’t need a man if he couldn’t treat her right. Even though he made an indescribable amount of cash in the street, there was no contact while my mother was pregnant. After my actual birth, he showed up three days later before disappearing again. That brief moment only brought my mother sorrow. Over the next three years, signs of my father’s support were non-existent. He didn’t supply any pampers, milk, childcare, clothing, or anything. But his lack of financial support didn’t seem to bother my mother as much as the lack of interaction. She’d been taught that women should know how to take care of themselves and not rely on a man. And while she wanted me to have a positive male role model in my life, unfortunately, there were none around. My grandfather had moved away to San Francisco to work after twenty-one years of marriage and none of my aunts had positive relationships either.

Sadly, I never really conn
ected with my biological father—physically or emotionally. I have a few, fuzzy memories of him. I remember going to my parents’ apartment during one of those infrequent moments where they actually lived together and seeing some sort of needle and my mother shouting and screaming at the top of her lungs.

I knew something wasn’t right about the needles so
I told my grandmother what I saw when I returned home. Even at that young age, I knew how to manipulate. After that episode, my grandmother told Jackie, “I don’t want her going with him again.”

Eventually my mother
left my father again and moved back in with us. She’d had enough of my father. But that’s what I saw as a young child. Men always disappearing. The game apparently started early for me in life, one where I’d eventually fall into the arms of drug dealers, rappers, and athletes. But let’s be clear. I was born ready for them.

Let’s go!

 

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