More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory (71 page)

   
HPV rates of infection
HPVinfo.ca, "Incidence and Prevalence of HPV in Canada" (2007), http://www.hpvinfo.ca/health-care-professionals/what-is-hpv/incidence-and-prevalence-of-hpv-in-canada/.

   
Cancer risks
Cancer.org, "Lifetime Risk of Developing or Dying from Cancer," http://www.cancer.org/cancer/cancerbasics/lifetime-probability-of-developing-or-dying-from-cancer (last updated September 5, 2013).

   
HPV infection
L. Raphaelidis, "Making Sense of HPV,"
Journal for Nurse Practitioners
2, no.5 (May 2006): 329–32, doi:10.1016/j.nurpra.2006.04.012; CDC, "Incidence, Prevalence, and Cost of Sexually Transmitted Infections in the United States—CDC Fact Sheet" (February 2013), http://www.cdc.gov/std/stats/STI-Estimates-Fact-Sheet-Feb-2013.pdf.

   
Co-infection
H. Trottier et al., "Human Papillomavirus Infections with Multiple Types and Risk of Cervical Neoplasia,"
Cancer Epidemiology, Biomarkers & Prevention
15 (2006): 1274–80, doi:10.1158/1055-9965.EPI-06-0129; A. K. Chaturvedi et al., "Human Papillomavirus Infection with Multiple Types: Pattern of Coinfection and Risk of Cervical Disease," Journal of Infectious Diseases 20 (2011): 910–20, doi:10.1093/infdis/jiq139.

   
Vaccines for HPV
Public Health Agency of Canada, "Human Papillomavirus (HPV) Prevention and HPV Vaccines: Questions and Answers," http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/std-mts/hpv-vph/hpv-vph-vaccine-eng.php (last updated March 31, 2011). See also the Gardasil website, www.gardasil.com.

   
Condoms and HPV
S. Richards, "An Overview of Genital Warts,"
Nursing Standard
28, no. 24 (2014): 46–50, http://dx.doi.org/10.7748/ns2014.02.28.24.46.e8344; R. L. Winer et al., "Condom Use and the Risk of Genital Human Papillomavirus Infection in Young Women,"
New England Journal of Medicine
354, no. 25 (2006): 2645–54; K. K. Holmes, R. Levine, and M. Weaver, "Effectiveness of Condoms in Preventing Sexually Transmitted Infections,"
Bulletin of the World Health Organization
82, no. 6 (June 2004): 454–61.

   
Higher-risk HPV infections
Raphaelidis, "Making Sense of HPV," see note 2 for page 365.

   
Controllable risk factor
Eileen F. Dunne et al., "Prevalence of HPV Infection Among Females in the United States,"
JAMA: Journal of the American Medical Association
297 (2007): 813–19.

   
Infectious disease statistics
"List of Preventable Causes of Death," Wikipedia, note 5, citing A. H. Mokdad et al., "Actual Causes of Death in the United States, 2000,"
JAMA: Journal of the American Medical Association
291, no. 10 (March 2004): 1238–45, doi:10.1001/jama.291.10.1238, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_preventable_causes_of_death#cite_note-JAMA2000-5.

SOURCES FOR CHART
, COMMON SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS (STIS) (CHAPTER 20)

1   U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), "Chlamydia,"
2012 Sexually Transmitted Diseases Surveillance,
http://www.cdc.gov/std/stats12/chlamydia.htm (last updated January 7, 2014).

2   Public Health Agency of Canada,
Report on Sexually Transmitted Infections in Canada 2010
(Centre for Communicable Diseases and Infection Control, Infectious Disease Prevention and Control Branch, 2012), http://publications.gc.ca/collections/collection_2013/aspc-phac/HP37-10-2010-eng.pdf.

3   Genome British Columbia, "BC Researcher Closing in on Chlamydia Vaccine,"
News Releases
(February 25, 2014), http://www.genomebc.ca/index.php?cID=1478.

4   Smart Sex Resource, "Chlamydia,"
A–Z Topics
(2012), http://smartsexresource.com/topics/chlamydia.

5   CDC, "Gonorrhea,"
2012 Sexually Transmitted Diseases Surveillance,
http://www.cdc.gov/std/stats12/gonorrhea.htm (last updated January 7, 2014).

6   A. E. Jerse, M. C. Bash, and M. W. Russell, "Vaccines against Gonorrhea: Current Status and Future Challenges,"
Vaccine
32, no. 14 (2014): 1579–87, doi:10.1016/j.vaccine.2013.08.067.

7   CDC, "Gonorrhea—CDC Fact Sheet (Detailed Version),"
Gonorrhea,
http://www.cdc.gov/std/Gonorrhea/STDFact-gonorrhea-detailed.htm (last updated January 7, 2014).

8   Smart Sex Resource, "Gonorrhea," A–Z Topics (2012), http://smartsexresource.com/topics/gonorrhea.

9   CDC, "Syphilis,"
2012 Sexually Transmitted Diseases Surveillance,
http://www.cdc.gov/std/stats12/syphilis.htm (last updated January 7, 2014).

10   C. E. Cameron and S. A. Lukehart, "Current Status of Syphilis Vaccine Development: Need, Challenges, Prospects,"
Vaccine
32, no. 14 (2014): 1602–09, doi:10.1016/j.vaccine.2013.09.053.

11   Smart Sex Resource, "Syphilis,"
A–Z Topics
(2012), http://smartsexresource.com/topics/syphilis.

12    Central Intelligence Agency, "Country Comparison: HIV/AIDS—Adult Prevalence Rate,"
The World Factbook,
https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/rankorder/2155rank.html.

13    Public Health Agency of Canada, "Summary: Estimates of HIV Prevalence and Incidence in Canada, 2011" (Centre for Communicable Diseases and Infection Control, Infectious Disease Prevention and Control Branch, 2012), http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/aids-sida/publication/survreport/estimat2011-eng.php.

14   CDC, "HIV in the United States: At a Glance,"
HIV/AIDS,
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/statistics/basics/ataglance.html (last updated December 3, 2013).

15   World Health Organization, "HIV Vaccines,"
HIV/AIDS,
http://www.who.int/hiv/topics/vaccines/Vaccines/en/.

16   Ibid., "HIV/AIDS,"
Online Q&A,
http://www.who.int/features/qa/71/en/ (last updated October 2013).

17   BC Centre for Disease Control, "Tests and Diagnosis,"
HIV/AIDS Overview,
http://www.bccdc.ca/dis-cond/a-z/_h/HIVAIDS/overview/default.htm#heading5 (last updated November 18, 2013).

18   AIDSmeds, "Am I Infected? (A Guide to Testing for HIV)," http://www.aidsmeds.com/articles/HIVtests_4717.shtml (last updated June 4, 2013).

19   H. Bradley et al., "Seroprevalence of Herpes Simplex Virus Types 1 and 2—United States, 1999–2010,"
Journal of Infectious Diseases
209 (2014): 325–33, doi:10.1093/infdis/jit458.

20   Xu et al., "Trends in Herpes Simplex Virus," see note for page 363.

21   CDC, "Genital Herpes—CDC Fact Sheet (Detailed Version),"
Herpes,
http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stdfact-herpes-detailed.htm (last updated February 13, 2013).

22   Ibid., "Genital Herpes—CDC Fact Sheet,"
Herpes,
http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stdfact-herpes.htm (last updated March 20, 2014).

23   Smart Sex Resource, "Herpes Simplex Virus,"
A–Z Topics,
http://smartsexresource.com/topics/herpes-simplex-virus.

24   L. Corey and H. H. Handsfield, "Genital Herpes and Public Health: Addressing a Global Problem,"
Journal of the American Medical Association
283, no. 6 (2000): 791–94, doi:10.1001/jama.283.6.791.

25   L. Newson, "Clinical: The Basics—Herpes Infections,"
GP
(June 19, 2009): 34, http://go.galegroup.com/ps/i.do?id=GALE%7CA202043631&v=2.1&u=ubcolumbia&it=r&p=HRCA&sw=w&asid=7083d653cc68ce0be1722e49d0f622fa.

26   Rotermann et al., "Prevalence of Chlamydia Trachomatis and Herpes Simplex Virus Type 2," 10–15, see note for page 355.

27    E. F. Dunne et al., "Prevalence of HPV Infection Among Females in the United States,"
Journal of the American Medical Association
297, no. 8 (2007): 813–19, doi:10.1001/jama.297.8.813.

28   CDC, "Other Sexually Transmitted Diseases,"
2012 Sexually Transmitted Diseases Surveillance,
http://www.cdc.gov/std/stats12/other.htm (last updated January 7, 2014).

29   Ibid., "Genital HPV Infection—Fact Sheet,"
Human Papilloma Virus (HPV),
http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm (last updated March 20, 2014).

30   Smart Sex Resource, "Types of STIs,"
About STIs
(2012), http://smartsexresource.com/about-stis/types-stis.

31   Ibid., "Screening,"
Human Papilloma Virus (HPV),
http://www.cdc.gov/hpv/screening.html (last updated February 5, 2013).

32   Public Health Agency of Canada, "What Everyone Should Know about Human Papillomavirus (HPV): Questions and Answers," http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/std-mts/hpv-vph/hpv-vph-qaqr-eng.php (last updated October 9, 2012).

33   CDC, "Table 2.1 Reported Cases of Acute Hepatitis A, by State—United States, 2007–2011,"
Viral Hepatitis Statistics & Surveillance,
http://www.cdc.gov/hepatitis/Statistics/2011Surveillance/Table2.1.htm (last updated August 19, 2013).

34   Public Health Agency of Canada, "Hepatitis A Vaccine,"
Canadian Immunization Guide,
http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/publicat/cig-gci/p04-hepa-eng.php (last updated November 30, 2012).

35   Smart Sex Resource, "Hepatitis A,"
A–Z Topics
(2012), http://smartsexresource.com/topics/hepatitis.

36   CDC, "Table 3.4: Reported Cases of Laboratory-Confirmed, Chronic Hepatitis B Virus (HBV) Infection, by Sex, Race/Ethnicity, Age Group, Place of Birth and Case Criteria—Emerging Infections Program (EIP) Hepatitis Surveillance Demonstration Sites, 2011,"
Viral Hepatitis Statistics & Surveillance,
http://www.cdc.gov/hepatitis/Statistics/2011Surveillance/Table3.4.htm (last updated August 19, 2013).

37   Public Health Agency of Canada, "What You Need to Know: You Can Have It and Not Know It,"
Hepatitis B—Get the Facts,
http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/hcai-iamss/bbp-pts/hepatitis/hep_b-eng.php (last updated August 21, 2010).

38   Smart Sex Resource, "Hepatitis B,"
A–Z Topics
(2012), http://smartsexresource.com/topics/hepatitis-b.

21   POLY PUZZLES

   
Bipolar disorder
Jules Angst, "The Emerging Epidemiology of Hypomania and Bipolar II Disorder,"
Journal of Affective Disorders
50, no. 2 (September 1998): 143–51.

22   RELATIONSHIP TRANSITIONS

   
Grandmother's unhappy marriage
Dan Savage,
The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family
(New York: Penguin, 2005): 113.

24   FINDING PARTNERS

419   
"Fuck yes" or no
Mark Manson, "'Fuck Yes' or No," Mark Manson [blog] (July 8, 2013), http://markmanson.net/fuck-yes.

RESOURCES

There's a lot out there on polyamory, as well as the skills—such as communication and cultivating healthy self-esteem—that are useful in creating happy poly relationships. With the list below, we've tried to present a few of the standouts in each category.

RELATIONSHIPS

The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships,
Harriet Lerner (Harper Perennial, 1989). A classic book, geared at women but useful for everyone, on maintaining clear boundaries and a strong self while building intimacy in relationships. Harriet Lerner also maintains an excellent (though monogamy-focused) blog on the
Psychology Today
website.

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead,
Brené Brown (Penguin, 2012). About expressing courage in all our relationships and throughout our lives by daring to be our most authentic selves.

Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You,
Susan Forward and Donna Frazier (William Morrow, 1998). A primer on recognizing and dealing with emotional manipulation and blackmail in romantic relationships.

SELF

The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are,
Brené Brown (Hazelden, 2010). A small but life-changing, evidence-based book on confronting insecurity, believing in our own worthiness and living what Brown calls "wholehearted" lives. Brown also writes a blog at
brenebrown.com.

The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want,
Sonja Lyubomirsky (Penguin, 2007). Another research-based book that delves into the factors in personal happiness that are within our control.

COMMUNICATION AND CONFLICT

The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate,
Harriet Lerner (HarperCollins, 2009). Excellent techniques for high-stakes communication in any kind of relationship and emotionally charged situations.

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships,
Marshall Rosenberg and Arun Gandhi (Puddledancer Press, 2008). A guidebook for clear, compassionate communication that teaches the foundations of authentic communication without bullying.

The Joy of Conflict Resolution: Transforming Victims, Villains and Heroes in the Workplace and at Home,
Gary Harper (New Society Publishers, 2009, available direct from newsociety.com). On the "drama triangle" in conflict and how to find a path out of it through curiosity and compassion.

Messages: The Communication Skills Book,
Matthew McKay, Martha Davis and Patrick Fanning (New Harbinger Publications, 2009). A workbook containing practical exercises for improving personal communication skills in personal and professional life.

SEX

The best, most current information on STI prevention and testing can be found at the websites of the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (cdc.gov) and Planned Parenthood (plannedparenthood.org).

The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships and Other Adventures,
Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy (Greenery Press, 2nd ed., 2011). The landmark book on non-monogamy, first published in 1997.