Super Sexual Orgasm: Discover the Ultimate Pleasure Spot: The Cul-De-Sac (7 page)

In this chapter we will bring it all together—the exercises, the techniques, the positions, the motion, the mental attitude, the works—and experience all of the magic of super sexual orgasm for the first time during lovemaking. That was some long sentence! And you might be thinking, hold on—that’s a lot of stuff to be on top of at a time when you most want to be giving over everything to your senses.

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I’m not going to kid you. There is some effort required at first. It will probably take a small amount of practice to co-ordinate various muscles and movements, and some awkwardness is to be expected. But it’s a lot simpler than you might imagine. And any woman who has completed the exercises in this book thus far has
everything
she needs to experience
total control,
and to experience the ultimate pleasure of super sexual orgasm.

Total control yields total pleasure. But it is pleasure to be shared. Having control does not mean that your partner will become an incidental element in the process, a barely useful appendage just along for the ride. To the contrary, with total control, intimacy is heightened because the woman is not dependent on the man for accessing her sexual pleasure. She is offering everything she has in her sensual being to pleasure them both. When two individuals who fully embody the peak capacity of their sexuality meet, it’s the stuff of fire-works and dreams. And when you give yourself over to your own super sexual orgasm, all this will be your reality. Don’t forget: in Part II of this book you will experience even more sharing and more mutual pleasure. But it all begins with your first super sexual orgasm.

Ready…Set…

Before we get to the exercises where you actually experience penetration into the cul-de-sac for a super sexual orgasm, we need to do a series of partner-accompanied

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warm-ups with your old friends, peaking and plateauing. The difference this time is that, unlike the previous peaking and plateauing partner exercises you learned in Chapter 3,
you
will be the active partner. This time the control is in your hands—and body—completely. See how much you enjoy this kind of experience!

You need to give yourselves at least one hour for each of these exercises. And, as before, you need to choose a comfortable environment where you will not be interrupted.

Your partner should understand that throughout these exercises he is to remain passive and relaxed at all times, communicating only if something happens that is uncomfortable or painful.

Pleasure your lover with a front caress, followed by a sensuous genital caress. Continue with an oral caress if this feels good to both of you. Do all of this slowly and sensuously, remembering that every moment of this experience is to be savored by both of you.

When your lover gets an erection, gently kneel on top of him and start to caress your genitals with his penis in the same way he caressed you in the exercises in the previous chapter. Peak through low and medium arousal levels as you stroke your vaginal lips and clitoris with his penis. Explore all kinds of touches. Move your body intuitively. Pleasure yourself in any way you feel you want to, as long as it is not painful to your lover.

When you feel ready, insert the head of your partner’s penis into your vagina and squeeze and release your PC muscle

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luxuriously and orgiastically. See if you can peak to level 7 a few times by doing this.

Are you relaxed? Breathing deeply? Focused on the sensations of the moment? Good, then you are ready to lower yourself all the way so that your partner’s penis is fully inside of you.

Remember the way you explored every inch of your vagina with a dildo? Do the same thing with your mate’s penis now, fluidly moving up and gently down along your lover’s shaft. Tune in to the needs of your body. If you feel like doing something, don’t hold back. Put it into action. See if you can peak this way several times to level 8.

Use long, sinuous thrusts. Allow your lover’s penis to go all the way in and all the way out. If you have strong leg muscles, you can actually squat as you do this. (If you want to build up this strength, you can always practice with a dildo as well.) I have also found that the more athletic the person, the more easily she can accomplish such squatting maneuvers—skiers seem especially adept. Resting some of your weight on the palms of your hands will also enable you to use your arm strength to move yourself up and down on your partner’s penis.

Peak at level 9 a few times and then let yourself fall over the edge into orgasm. At the moment before you come, open your eyes, take a deep breath, and stop thrusting. Passively experience your orgasm. That is to say, just allow it to happen. Feel your PC muscle spasm around your lover’s shaft. Your orgasm will be a series of shivers or spasms which may include not only your PC muscle but also your arms, legs, and facial muscles. This is not a super sexual orgasm, though it should still feel pretty intense.

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I like to suggest to women that they do this exercise while focusing each time on a specific orgasm trigger. For example, you might do one whole set of increasing peaks while you zero in on stimulating your G-spot. Then you might change focus to the PC muscle, and after that, the cul-de-sac. The point here is giving you, the woman, the option of how you want to be stimulated and when. It is a revelation like no other to discover that you do indeed have this power.

You can put an exciting spin on the exercise you just completed by changing the way you thrust on your partner’s penis when all of it is inside you. First, kneel over your partner and lie against his chest. Support yourself on your elbows and keep your buttocks as high in the air as possible while still keeping his penis inside of you. This will put his penis in contact with your G-spot. Now thrust sensuously back and forth. You will be able to feel your partner’s penis rubbing against the spot. You may even have a “gusher.”

Let’s now put that pelvic rock and roll talent of yours to work. The key here is to think of yourself as moving up along your partner’s penis rather than down on it. Sway your hips in a circular, undulating motion and slowly thrust your lover’s penis all the way in and almost all the way out. Focus on every inch of sensation you derive from this exquisite contact. Envision this as yet another kind of oral sex, with your vagina as a mouth licking and holding your partner’s hard penis.

Mesa Grande

Once you have learned to control your peaks with your partner’s penis inside of you, this ability to understand

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and control your body can be used to plateau at high arousal levels with your lover for long periods of time.

As before, start with a languorous front, genital, and oral caress of your lover, who is again to remain passive and relaxed throughout. You can use either the kneeling, squatting, or lying flat techniques you just employed in the peaking exercise.

Remember the elements of successful plateauing? They are, of course, controlling your PC muscle, adjusting your breathing, changing you hip motions, and switching your focus. Work slowly and deliberately through your plateaus. Don’t gloss over the lower levels. In fact, make sure you plateau at levels 4 and 5 at least twice to ensure your body is warmed up and that you are comfortable with all the plateauing techniques.

Practice plateauing at each orgasm trigger site—PC muscle, G-spot, cervix, and cul-de-sac by using your PC muscle, using your breathing, alternating your hip movements, and switching your focus. Then combine all the techniques so that you can use any variation of them at any site at any given time. As you get up to the higher levels, try to maintain your arousal levels for increasing amounts of time. Your partner’s arousal levels will climb even as he remains passive and relaxed. It will help for him to remember to breathe deeply and slowly. As you get more and more profi-cient with your plateauing, your partner will be able to start to move and you will not be distracted by such activity. It will strengthen the connection between you and your partner and enhance the sensuality and enjoyability of this experience if you look deeply into each other’s eyes as you do this exercise.

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Some of my clients have told me that they’ve felt an energy circling between them and their partner—going from the genitals up, through, and across their gaze and back down to the genitals again.

Now the best way to have an orgasm after your series of high-level plateaus is to reach a level 9 plateau using heavy breathing, intense pelvic thrusting, and PC muscle contrac-tions. Then, when you are ready for an orgasm, stop everything. That’s right—bring all your activity to a halt. You will tumble over into a fabulous series of involuntary orgasmic spasms.

Stroke of Luck

Let’s try one last exercise to confirm the sense of control you have over your lovemaking before you go for your first cul-de-sac super sexual orgasm. Many women think that the longer they have intercourse, the more likely they are to have an orgasm, and many men think this is true of women too. But nothing could be further from the truth. For one thing, if you are not aroused, you won’t have an orgasm regardless of how long intercourse lasts. However, if you are
very
aroused, you can have an orgasm with a
couple of strokes
of penetration from your partner. The secret to this is the control the woman exerts, not the penetration itself.

Have your partner lie on his back. Begin a front caress, continue to a genital caress, and then add oral stimulation if this pleases you both. As your partner becomes erect, generously but slowly

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stimulate yourself by rubbing your clitoris and vaginal lips against his penis. Don’t insert it though. You may need to spend fifteen minutes or so pleasuring yourself in this man-ner. After your arousal is well under way, peak up to levels 7 and 8. In between your peaks, use manual or oral stimulation to help your partner maintain his high arousal levels.

Keep your leg muscles and PC muscles as relaxed as possible. Stay also in the here and now, experiencing the feelings of the moment, not anticipating what will happen down the line. Your eyes should be closed and your breathing should reach a panting level. Peak to level 9 this way. Now, as you are on the brink of orgasm, open your eyes, take a deep breath, and thrust yourself all the way down on your partner’s shaft. You will likely reach orgasm within the next couple of strokes.

I cannot tell you what an exhilarating, breathtaking exercise this is. You will feel so energized and satisfied after you have done it—and secure in the knowledge that you are fully at home in your own body. Practice this technique until you can have an orgasm on the
first
stroke. In this regard, you will find that the more times you can get yourself to peak at level 9 before going into orgasm, the greater the likelihood that you will have that orgasm immediately.

You can also enhance your ability to climax on the first stroke through the use of the PC muscle. When you are at the point of opening your eyes, taking a deep breath, and thrusting yourself down, pull your PC muscle shut around your partner’s shaft as well. This will often imme—

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diately trigger a powerful orgasm, especially if your PC muscle is already on the edge of a spasm.

Going all the Way

Are you ready for the sensory experience of a lifetime? Are you ready for lights, camera, and action? Are you ready to take control? I’ll bet you are. Well, here’s your chance: the super sexual orgasm exercise you’ve been patiently waiting for. It’s the big payoff. The one you have so fully earned. So go for it! Any more words will get in the way.

You want to get yourself and your partner into the mood again by doing some body caressing, genital caressing, and oral stimulation. Once you have both reached a moderate level of arousal in this fashion, take the intercourse position you’ve become so comfortable with: You are lying on your back with your knees bent and your legs up in the air and your partner is kneeling between your legs using his knees to support his weight. Again, you can rest your legs on your partner’s shoulders or you can have your calves rest against your thighs.

Once engaged in intercourse, you are now going to slowly move through a series of increasingly higher peaks, starting at level 6. Make sure to peak at least twice at every level, al-ways dropping back after you have achieved one peak before going on to the next. If you peak more than twice at each level, you will definitely enhance your prospects of having an SSO climax to remember.

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When you have peaked at level 9 for a second time, signal your partner to thrust into you as hard as he can. As he does so, pull in your lower abdominal muscles, tighten your PC muscle, and in so doing allow your cul—de—sac to open up. Your partner’s penis will slide deeper and you will grip his shaft there. Brace yourself. The sensations both of you will have will be incredible. And yours will be especially incredible because you are having your first super sexual orgasm.

If you change your breathing to panting, you can even go into a series of multiple SSOs! Your partner will feel like his orgasm is being pulled out of him. And you will feel like you are on top of the world.

Fabulous! Absolutely fabulous! A power you have never felt before. A pleasure you have never felt before. A level of ecstasy you could have never known. That’s a super sexual orgasm.

You’ll probably want to rest for a while now and bask in the glow of your stunning success. You should. You have truly earned it, and now it is yours forever. So savor it. Revel in it. Share a champagne toast with your partner: To SSO…the consummate pleasure!

However
…if you are one of those women who is ready to burn the midnight oil, there is one last exercise I want to share with you here to give you an SSO option. Try it now. Try it another time. But do try it.