The Fear and Anxiety Solution (38 page)

1. Did I give my power away by:

     • Taking something or someone personally?

     • Identifying my self-worth with an external goal or an agenda?

     • Trying to please others or meet their expectations?

     • Making myself smaller and holding myself back so I wouldn’t be judged or rejected?

2. Did I not take care of myself by:

     • Neglecting my physical needs or abusing my body?

     • Not allowing myself to get enough rest?

     • Overwhelming or putting too much pressure on myself?

     • Taking on other people’s energy, feelings, or problems?

     • Dishonoring my personal boundaries?

3. Did I leave my center by:

     • Making assumptions and living in a “what if” reality?

     • Battling an inner conflict without coming to a resolution?

     • Acting against my better knowledge, values, and beliefs?

     • Forcing something to happen rather than allowing it to unfold?

     • Underappreciating myself and the gifts in my life?

This list has plenty of room to grow and for you to add to it. I can imagine that you’re already thinking of personal messages fear and anxiety have been sending you that are not tabulated here. Although you may not always like these memos from your subconscious—who wants to be reminded, for example, that once again you’ve handed over your power to someone else?—you can be certain that responding to them will serve you in countless ways.

Having come this far in your healing and breakthrough journey, facing your fears no longer means mustering the courage to stare them down and then act in spite of them. For you, the face of fear and anxiety has changed. You no longer see them as debilitating enemies but as friends and guides that are right there to help you claim your power and to be, express, and love who you truly are. Therefore, I believe that ignoring anxiety is a luxury we can no longer afford. Or to expand on President Roosevelt’s famous words: the only thing we have to fear is
the fear of
fear itself.

  
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M
Y INTENTION FOR
this book is to provide people who suffer from fear and anxiety with a step-by-step process to overcome these emotions and to learn and grow from them. The work described here is based upon my experiences with the many clients I have had the privilege to support during their healing journey. I am very grateful for their trust and confidence in my work and for their courage, openness, and commitment to breaking through these emotional challenges. Their changes and breakthroughs are truly inspirational and demonstrate that by consciously working with our subconscious mind, we all have access to unlimited healing potential within.

I am thankful for the founders of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Richard Bandler and John Grinder, and for Dr. Tad James, the founder of Time Line Therapy. The outstanding work of these pioneers in healing with the subconscious mind has greatly influenced my practice and the program described in this book.

Having studied with Dr. Tad James and his wife, Adriana James, for several years, I greatly appreciate all their teachings and wisdom, which have transformed my life on a personal and professional level.

I want to thank Michelle Sherman of the Vast Institute, who encouraged and coached me to venture off the path of allopathic medicine and pursue my own healing work.

My gratitude goes to my personal editor, the very gifted Kelly Malone, for her extremely valuable suggestions, deletions, and comments—which gave the
book much greater clarity and structure—and for her patience and uncanny ability to uplift me with her great sense of humor.

Thanks to Andrea Rouleau’s creativity and artistry for the original designs of the figures.

I also would like to give thanks to my fabulous agent, Stephanie Tade, for believing in this book and ushering it to the perfect publisher.

I am deeply appreciative for the wonderful people at Sounds True, especially Tami Simon and Jennifer Y. Brown, for saying yes to publishing this book— and to everyone else who makes Sounds True a joy to work with.

My heartfelt gratitude goes to my editor, Amy Rost, for her enthusiastic support and thoughtful attention to detail during the final “midwifing” of the book, and to copyeditor Laurel Kallenbach and production editor Jennifer Holder, who skillfully provided this work with its final polish.

Words can’t describe my appreciation for my beloved wife, Danielle. I thank you for your love, your friendship, and your unshakable belief in me and my mission; for your gentle and persistent nudges to complete the first manuscript; for all your editorial guidance; and for grounding me and reminding me to continue to take care of myself. You are and always will be the greatest blessing in my life.

Note:
Italicized page numbers indicate figures.

abuse,
44
,
102 – 103

acknowledgement,
205 – 206

actualization,
25 – 26

addiction,
11
,
36

adrenal gland,
159

adrenaline,
160

age, flexibility and,
20
,
22

alcohol, self-medication with,
11

alignment,
157 – 172
,
226
.
See also
core alignment