Read The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them Online
Authors: W. Anton
The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them (28 page)
Simple and Straightforward
At last, now we can combine all the concepts discussed in Parts I, II, and III and formulate a general but rough plan of practice that incorporates everything covered so far and apply it in the real world, where you can interact with women.
As I have given you the basic formula and principles already, you should be able to figure out every step of the way by yourself, including how to find, meet, and seduce the most attractive women in the world. Nevertheless, in this part, I will present systematic steps to getting women, as the entire process is quite simple and straightforward yet dramatically different from common practice and conventional dating, or at least dramatically faster.
Although it is of course impossible to conceive a plan that covers everything that could happen in a social interaction, since one cannot predict and prepare for everything that might occur, by now you should know that you do not have to plan every detail, as that is not what confidence is about.
The best place to meet new women is everywhere, and the best time to meet new women is any time. Attractive females can be found even
when
and
where
you least expect it, so be prepared to approach them then and there rather than limit yourself to specific locations or certain times.
The world is your oyster, because heaven truly is a place on earth.
The ability to meet women any time has numerous advantages, much like giving women you are in a relationship with flowers when they least expect it has advantages. The effect will be much stronger if you do it unexpectedly rather than on a woman’s birthday when she expects to receive gifts and whatever you give her will have to share the spotlight with others’ gifts. Meeting women at unanticipated locations is also a lot more memorable, and women will dwell on the thought of you more if you meet at an unexpected place or an unexpected time. That is good, since falling in love is something women do by themselves, inside their
heads, while fantasizing about you. That is how they fall in love with movie stars and performers that they have
never
even met or spoken to. It is all in their heads.
Any time and everywhere includes the streets during the day, a setting that is even more surprising and requires much more confidence than at night or in a bar where people are known to and actually expect to meet each other. There is also less “competition” in the form of other males who are seeking to meet women in public locations, and there is less risk for interference by others. Although none of those factors pose much of an obstacle to a man who knows what he is doing, it is still best to avoid problems than to have to deal with them.
By adopting the new mindset that I have presented, you will no longer be stuck with all the old limitations of conventional dating, and thousands upon thousands of more possibilities will be available to you right away, unlike all the males who wait until the weekends to even consider flirting with women. These males are basically discarding 70% of their lifetime (5 out of 7 days per week), even much more than that when their window of opportunity is only a few hours during those two days as well. And those who rely on introductions or meeting friends of friends are basically ruling out more than 99.99% of the potential women they
could
meet, as there are limitations to the reach of their social circles — not to mention all the time they are wasting meeting and greeting new and old acquaintances.
In reality, there is no need to wait for the weekend to go clubbing with your friends to meet women. There is actually no need to wait for the weekend, to go clubbing, or even to go out with your friends, at all,
ever
again. You may still want to, but you will not need to anymore.
You can take two different routes: Either you can
seize
the
opportunities that the universe presents to you or you can
create
your own opportunities. That means you roam freely, run your everyday errands, buy your groceries, and go to lunch like always, but seize the moments whenever you see a woman you want. Alternatively, you decide to go somewhere women are known to hang out, such as shopping malls, nightclubs, and beaches.
A male who is still learning to become a man will make the fastest progress by intentionally creating opportunities, and as he becomes better and has more women in his life, just seizing the opportunities that the universe presents to him should be more than satisfactory.
To do this might mean you will have to go out with the sole intent of meeting women all by yourself — so be it. If you do and your friends ask you where you are going, tell them the truth: You are going out to meet some women. Do not be ashamed that you are interested in women or that you are going out to seduce them. And when you do go out with the intent to meet someone, quickly change venues if you end up where there are no women you are interested in so that you make good use of your time. This includes changing sides of the street you walk on and even taking a different route.
Attractive females are usually found where they can be seen, such as under the strongest lights inside a club or on the sunny side of the street. They consciously and nonconsciously take these spots since the more visible a female is, the higher her chances of finding a partner are; being beautiful counts for nothing unless they are noticed too (which is why getting a lot of attention
only
matters to females).
But if you find a well of good fortune, a place where there are tons of sexy ladies, keep this knowledge to yourself.
In most cities, there are always one or two locations where
there is an abundance of women and the ratio of females to males is very high. The specific club or park usually changes over time, not because there are better venues opening frequently, but because most males are fools. As soon as they notice where
the
place to be is, they broadcast it to the entire world and tell
all
their male friends about it, making hordes of unattractive males flood the area, essentially forcing the attractive females to migrate somewhere else — as they are not interested in being in a place with lots of males, especially unattractive males. Men who are good with women usually do not go to places overwhelmed by males, but by women, and the women themselves want to be selected from a larger pool of females rather than a small one, to feel special.
The same males often have plenty of advice about where else to find women, besides which location is the most popular one. You have probably heard your friends talking about an activity they started because “it’s a great way to meet girls!” Indeed, some activities are very popular among women, like yoga and dancing, but there is absolutely no point in joining them for that reason alone. That would just be another excuse, and men do not need excuses to meet women.
Yoga classes and dance lessons are fine activities, as long as you do it because you like the activity itself, not as an excuse to meet women. If you only like such places because the chances of meeting women are higher there, you should go there and approach them without paying for the membership or the classes, the same way you can go to a bar to pick up women without spending money on drinks or to meet women outside clubs without paying the entrance fee. And if you’ve got a dog and walk it every day and like to approach women while you do it, keep doing it, but if you cannot approach women without your dog, then you are using it as an excuse to get attention, to go out, or even to have something
to talk about. Until you have stripped away all your excuses first, however, you cannot tell how confident you really are, and your confidence will never increase because you stay too comfortable all the time; you will waste so much time that you will die long before reaching your potential.
Another common excuse is “the lack of women.” Plenty of males complain over the supposed lack of women in their area, as if
that
is the reason they are always single, never approach women, or dating ugly females. However, the real issue is that they lack confidence with women and are full of excuses instead of taking proper action. Moving to a better location will not make a difference if you are still not doing the right things, unless you are hoping to accidently bump into women as a way of meeting them, which is a very bad idea.
At the end of the day, all you really need is to find
one
woman you really want, and then approach her.
Nothing is more important than choosing a woman you really want — someone who is very attractive to you, not just okay or someone you believe you can get. Men do not settle at all. If you still believe that a specific woman or a certain type of woman is “out of your league,” such as teenagers, models, or strippers, those are the
only
ones you should approach — not those your friends find attractive, not the females your mother wants you to marry, but those that you want.
Whether or not a woman checks you out before you approach her has no relevance either, although it is ideal that she does not do it, as it makes it more obvious that you are selecting her that way. Most males would prefer the opposite, as it feels easier to approach a woman if she has looked at you first, but it does not mean anything and it does not make anything easier.
You have to select women that are most attractive to you for three reasons.
First, it is the only way to end up with a woman you really
want. Plenty of males do not comprehend that the only reason they get females but do not get the women they really want is because they waste their time with
other
females. For instance, if you love voluptuous women in their 20s with blonde hair but spend time talking to women who are not, you are not going to end up with what you want. It is that simple. Even if your success rate is low in the early stages because you feel more intimidated by a stunning woman, the women you
do
get will still be awesome simply because those are the only ones you have been flirting with, and you will not be bothered by a low success rate as you will not mind spending a lot of time with a woman who is awesome.
Second, approaching a stunning woman is not the same as approaching a plain one if the beautiful girl
feels
intimidating to you. You should not even practice with average or unattractive females. While you may not get the most intimidating women initially because you are too nervous, meeting them will increase your confidence (by increasing your tolerance of uncertainty), which will help you tremendously in the long run.
Third and finally, the more attractive a woman is, the easier she will be to seduce, as the more feminine a female is, the more responsive she will be to masculine manners. In addition, if you are an attractive male and approach a significantly
less
attractive female, she will be more likely to believe you are making fun of her and therefore blow you off.
The real reason that most males avoid flirting with the best women is because they either feel intimidated by them or feel inadequate for them, but they try to explain away their irrational behavior. They make excuses either for why it is not worth even trying with high-quality women or why settling for lower quality females is actually
better
. They will insist that they want more from females than their looks and that beautiful females have
nothing more going for them besides their beauty. They pretend to have even
higher
standards and say they want a female with personality, intelligence, and talent.
I agree to some degree, except that just means that you should look for females with such traits but who are beautiful
too
.
These males pretend you have to choose between beauty and personality, which you obviously do not, but even if you had to, why would you care
that
much? It is not a maid, professor, or therapist you are looking for, but a
girlfriend
. You can easily hire people to take care of your home, solve your equations, and listen to all your problems, or use your friends and family.
Personality
What all these males are really doing is rationalizing in an attempt to make themselves feel less miserable to protect their fragile egos. You see, there is only one way to accurately measure how highly a male really regards himself (how high his self-esteem
really
is), and that is to observe the female he sleeps with — judging how attractive she is and how well she treats him.
Males who feel inadequate for high-quality women and inevitably have little success with them will claim that the most attractive females are worse in bed, high maintenance, dumb, bitchy, or already taken, which is all nonsense.
Attractive females are not worse in bed. They are the ones that become porn stars, after all, and they are as lovely, horny, and crazy in bed as a female can be. However, what the males who claim otherwise all have in common is that they have actually not had sex with enough attractive females to be able to draw such a conclusion. They have usually never had sex with even one
attractive
female, and their strategy of not even trying to approach attractive females guarantees that they never will either.
Attractive females are not high maintenance, although many females will seem to be if you believe you are not good enough and immediately start to overcompensate for your low self-esteem, making them rightfully expect more of such treatment. If you know what you are doing, however, that never happens. Instead, the women are quite
low
maintenance, as they are so happy to have finally found a decent man that they are on their best behavior and make the effort to please you. They even listen to your criticism of the few things you might wish they would improve in themselves for your sake.
Attractive females are not dumb. You will find the same variation of intelligence among attractive females as among the rest. However, since
attractive
females are the ones who get most of the attention in society, including being cast for ridiculous TV shows, you will not notice all the same foolish things
average
females do and say on a daily basis. You should not mix up the media’s selected representation of reality as reality itself.
Attractive females are not bitchy. But of course they will be rude back if you approach them
badly
, because they want to get rid of you as quickly as possible after your desperate attempt insulted or bothered them. Otherwise, they will be more than pleasant. Any male who keeps running into females who are giving him a hard time has to realize that
he
is the one and only common denominator. Not to mention, the females with the worst attitudes are rarely feminine, but quite masculine, like aggressive feminists. They are not women, so you should not be approaching them.
Attractive females are not already taken, at least not more so than other females are, and if anything, it is even more likely they are single than an average-looking female is. Most males believe the best women are already taken, so they do not even bother approaching, and they
instead
go for the lower quality females.
Not only are attractive females available much more often than most males believe, but they are also not approached as often as most males believe. Most males feel intimidated by or inadequate for attractive females, and they dare not do anything. Everywhere women go, most males only stare and drool at them without saying a word, and if they do say something, it is by shouting or blurting out something foolish or lame. These women are not approached a lot, because all males think alike, that the best women are already taken or that they are not good enough for good-looking girls. Women do get a lot of attention, however, but that is different. Many males do give them plenty of looks, whistles, honks, shouts, comments, and questions throughout the day and plenty of offers of free drinks and lame comments at night. Although women love most of the attention, they become frustrated when attention is all they get and no male dares to speak to them in a charming or even civilized manner.
This is why so many women become jaded after a while. They stop smiling when they are outside, and some even adopt an angry facial expression wherever they go. These are the kind of women many males label as bitchy without ever having talked to them, but if they were to approach them correctly, they would be surprised to notice how happy the women would finally be to meet a great guy.
Women are only used to being approached by males who have been drinking to gather the courage to talk to them or by males pretending to not know what time it is or where the post office is located. Not a single of these approaches counts as flirting in my mind. That is not how men flirt with women. Although most attention is somewhat flattering, it gets old pretty fast and tends to bother women after a while, to the point where they learn tricks to avoid undesirable approaches, comments, and questions.
They quickly avoid eye contact, wear sunglasses and headphones, look to the ground or the pitch-black darkness outside the subway window, or even look a bit angry when they are out alone. They must to keep all the unattractive males away, and it works fairly well because most males do not even dare to ask what time it is unless the woman gives them an excuse by looking at them or smiling first.
After all, women spend a lot of time studying what makeup to buy, how to apply it correctly to look their best, and actually putting it on each morning, but of course they know that a smile does more for the attractiveness of a face than any product they can apply. Whenever you see a woman with makeup on, you can tell she is obviously aware of her appearance and wants to look attractive, but if she is not smiling as well, it is very likely she is avoiding it intentionally. Unless she is having a very bad day, it is more likely that she has had enough bad experiences by being bothered too many times and has learned to keep excusers from bothering her by not smiling.
Whether a woman smiles or not
before
a man approaches her does not make a difference to him, however. He knows that her face will light up as soon as she can tell that he is different, as soon as she realizes she has met a man. And even if her face would not light up, he would still not be affected by this, as he is confident.
If you are already in love with a woman, she is of course the one you should approach, but do not wait to fall in love before you decide to go after girls. Unattractive males tend to wait until they fall in love and then decide to pursue the female they want, rather than dating several women until they know what they want and fall for one in particular. You have no business falling in love with a woman you have not dated. If you have not spent time alone with her on dates, you cannot possibly know enough about her to
fall in love with her. Males who sit quietly across the classroom secretly admiring a female or fantasizing about a female when they are alone are making themselves fall in love with an ideal fantasy from their own imagination — which is why they tend to be so
deeply
in love, as she is “perfect.” Even if they did get their fantasy girl, which they never do, they would be disappointed, since the real one will not fit that fantasy. When they don’t get her, they are devastated too, since they believe they are missing out on “the one.” Either way, they end up depressed.
If you have to think about whether you want the female, you do not want her. The best girls will usually take your breath away the instant you first lay your eyes on them. It is only a matter of approaching the ones who do instead of being awestruck.
Once you have found a woman you are interested in, the next step is to approach her. It does not matter if she is with company or if she seems preoccupied. Attractive females are seldom found all by themselves, as they have a tendency not to tolerate being alone if they are feminine; they are usually with their best feminine friend or they are found in the middle of a group of other females who cannot stand being alone either.
When women indeed are alone, it is a good bet that they are on the phone talking to another female who is by herself. Women are very seldom by themselves or unoccupied; thus, you have to learn to deal with it, as discarding these situations as impossible would reduce too many opportunities to meet them. And when they are by themselves, you have to be aware that they are
less
comfortable, so you will have to make even more of an effort to make them relax in such situations.
While women never go to bars or nightclubs by themselves, they also rarely go to such locations and just hang out with males they are already sleeping with. Therefore, whenever you see a
woman with another male in such a place, they are probably not a couple, and only
he
wishes they were. If they really were having a sexual relationship, they would probably have stayed at home or gone somewhere where there is more privacy.
Whether the woman you want is with a male, another female, a group, or sitting, standing, walking, talking, swimming, working, or roller-skating, it does not make a difference. You should consider yourself more important than whoever she is with and whatever she is doing, because that is what having confidence comes down to. Be dominant. This also means you might have to pull over and get out of your car if you are out driving, ask the cab driver to make an unexpected stop if you are sitting in a taxi, walk into the next passenger car if you are sitting on a train, or ask to change your seat on an airplane if you spot a woman you want to meet. It would not make sense to let such practical details stop you from meeting women.