The New Male Sexuality (78 page)

References

Although space considerations preclude listing all the materials that have been helpful in working with men and writing this book, I list those works that are of particular interest for further reading, and also document quotations and information taken directly from other sources.

Introduction

“Challenging because masculinity itself.…”
A survey conducted in the 1990s demonstrates that while images of women have improved since the 1970s, those of men have “soured.” Men are now seen as jealous, moody, fussy, temperamental, deceptive, narrow-minded, and heedless of consequences. One of the researchers called the phenomenon “negative masculinity.” “Stereotypes: From the 70s to the ’90s,”
Psychology Today
, November/December, 1998, p. 8.

“New solutions have also emerged …”
R. Rosen et al., “The Effects of SSRIs on Sexual Function,”
Journal of Clinical Psychopharmacology
, forthcoming, 1999.

“Nondrug sex therapy has also become …”
Numerous examples of the increased sophistication and flexibility of sex therapy can be found in R. Rosen & S. Leiblum,
Case Studies in Sex Therapy
(Guilford, 1995).

“In this new edition, I draw on …”
J. Gottman,
What Predicts Divorce
(Lawrence Erlbaum, 1994) and
Why Marriages Succeed or Fail
(Simon & Schuster, 1994). Gottman’s actual therapy interventions are in
The Seven Principles That Make Marriage Work
(Crown, forthcoming, 1999) and
The Marriage Clinic
(Norton, forthcoming, 1999).

“I suggest that it’s not easy being a woman or a man …”
Among the helpful works in recent years on how men get to be how they are and the price they pay are: J. Balswick,
The Inexpressive Male
(Lexington, 1988); W. Farrell,
Why Men Are the Way They Are
(McGraw-Hill, 1986); M. Kimmel & M. Messner (eds.),
Men’s Lives
(Macmillan, 1989); A. Kipnis,
Knights Without Armor
(Tarcher, 1991); R. Levant & G. Brooks,
Men and Sex
(Wiley, 1997); M. Miedzian,
Boys Will Be Boys
(Doubleday, 1991).

Chapter 1

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On manly characteristics, see D. S. David & R. Brannon (eds.),
The Forty-nine Percent Majority
(Addison Wesley, 1976), and J. Doyle,
The Male Experience
, 2nd ed. (Wm. C. Brown, 1989).

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H. Robbins,
The Adventurers
(Pocket, 1966), 8; S. Sheldon,
The Sands of Time
(Warner, 1989), 353; C. Schuler,
Sophisticated Lady
(Harlequin, 1989) 8–9.

“Nature had different purposes …”
Sociobiologists are the people who most strongly, and in my mind most cogently, make the case for genetic differences between males and females. A good place to start is the outstanding book by D. Symons,
The Evolution of Human Sexuality
(Oxford, 1979).

“little girl burst into tears …”
J. Kellerman,
Time Bomb
(Bantam, 1990), 1.

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On the differences between girl-girl and boy-boy friendships, see M. Caldwell & L. Peplau, “Sex Differences in Same-Sex Friendships,”
Sex Roles
, 1982,
8
, 721–731; P. Erwin, “Similarity of Attitudes and Constructs in Children’s Friendships,”
Journal of Experimental Child Psychology
, 1985,
40
, 470–485; L. Kraft & C. Vraa, “Sex Composition of Groups and Pattern of Self-disclosure by High School Females,”
Psychological Reports
, 1975, 37, 733–734.