The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio (29 page)
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Authors: Violet Blue
Tags: #Health & Fitness, #Men's Health, #Sexuality, #Reference, #Personal & Practical Guides, #Self-Help, #Sexual Instruction
Guides for fellatio are pretty spotty; they tend to consist mostly of pictures and have the same techniques simply renamed to look more spiritual or cutesy than those in the author’s last book, or just to look different. It’s challenging to find books that will supplement your knowledge. Most overall sex guides have very tiny, sadly superficial treatments of fellatio—you get the feeling that they just didn’t know what to say. But it is possible to find some great sex books to extend your sexual scope that will tie into the fellatio expertise you found in this book, and round out your sex life.
As general sex guides go,
The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex
by Cathy Winks and Anne Semans is a good cornerstone of any library; it’s the most modern standard around for sex information, with a pleasure-centric approach, lots of sex practices that many people actually engage in but other guides won’t include, and lots of sex toy info.
The Guide to Getting It On!
by Paul Joannides is hetero-centric and the tone is unbearably casual at times, but it’s gigantic (over six hundred pages), has accurate information, and has sections not found in other tomes, such as a disabilities chapter. Every man who has sex with men should read
Men Like Us: The Complete GMHC Guide to Gay Men’s Sexual, Physical, and Emotional Well-Being
by Daniel Wolfe. It’s an incredibly complete guide to virtually every aspect of gay male sexuality, and its approach and tone are wonderful.
There are many books on specific topics that relate to subjects covered in this book; they’ll help you dig deep into what interests you. By far the best book out there on S/M and how to do it is Patrick Califia’s
Sensuous Magic
. Califia mixes practical advice with scorchingly hot short stories to make a book that inspires and energizes on every level.
Come Hither
by Gloria Brame is a wonderful book about becoming interested in S/M and has unbeatable information on talking to your partner about it, or coping with your partner’s wishes when they don’t match up with yours.
Family Jewels
by Hardy Haberman explores the far reaches of cock and ball torture (CBT); and
The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex
by Karlyn Lotney (a.k.a. Fairy Butch) tells all about strappin’ it on and givin’ it—to whomever you prefer.
Jack Morin’s
The Erotic Mind
is older than most of the books I’m recommending, but it’s very good; it explores the mind-set of having healthy, happy sex and digs deep into sex within long-term relationships. Folks who strive to become more sexually adventurous will want to read Carol Queen’s
Exhibitionism for the Shy
, which gave me the courage and motivation to learn how to talk dirty in bed—you can learn exactly that in her book.
The Survivor’s Guide to Sex
by Staci Haines is the first and best practical book for people who have survived trauma and/or abuse and want to have a fully present, satisfying and healthy sex life—it’s indispensable. You can learn more about anal sex for women in the landmark book
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
by Tristan Taormino, and the companion
Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men
by Bill Brent is also highly recommended.
The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know
by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams Arava explores multiple male orgasms and Tantric practices of orgasm without ejaculation. Heterosexually focused, it concentrates on combining breathing and the use of pressure points to achieve multiple orgasms in men. The book has a New Age tone throughout the text, which isn’t for everyone—I find it distracting—but it is packed with much information.
CHAPTER 13
Resources
Online and Mail Order
Babeland
Web site, retail stores, and catalog of toys, books, videos, and safer-sex supplies. Women-owned and operated, but open to all orientations. Strict privacy policy. (For retail information, see the “Retail Stores” section below.)
800 658 9119
babeland.com
Blowfish
Mail-order catalog and Web site of toys, books, videos, DVDs, safer-sex supplies, S/M gear, comics, and magazines. They feature individual reviews of their products and a strict privacy policy.
P.O. Box 411290, San Francisco, CA 94141
800 325 2569
415 252 4340
blowfish.com
Coco de Mer
A sophisticated sex toy boutique founded by the daughter of Body Shop owner Anita Roddick, their Web sites and stores in the UK and US feature smart selections and unique tools for enhancing fellatio. (For retail information, see “Retail Stores” below.)
020 7836 8882 (UK)
1 866 959 2626 (US)
coco-de-mer.com
(UK)
cocodemerusa.com
(US)
Condomania
Exhaustive site that sells virtually every condom under the sun, with fun facts, lots of condom information, and a helpful condom shopping guide.
1 800 9CONDOM
1 800 926 6366
condomania.com
Glyde Dams
Buy ’em here, by the dozen or in a party pack!
Good Vibrations
Good Vibrations has a staff who are committed to dispensing accurate sex information about the products they sell. Web site and retail stores carry toys, books, and DVDs. (For retail information, see the “Retail Stores” section below.)
934 Howard St., San Francisco, CA 94103
800 289 8423
415 974 8990
goodvibes.com
LoveHoney
This UK-based site is a one-stop shop for quality sex toys, books, and videos. They make their own product videos, have an entertaining blog, and are committed to green practices and environmentally conscious products.
Unit A, Locksbrook Rd.
Bath, BA1 3EU
England
0800 915 6635
lovehoney.co.uk
Retail Stores
A Woman’s Touch
Feminist sex store offering toys, books, and safer-sex supplies. Their Web site has great advice columns.
600 Williamson St., Madison, WI 53703
608 250 1928
200 N. Jefferson St., Milwaukee, WI 53202
414 221 0400
888-621-8880
a-womans-touch.com
Babeland
Retail store, Web site, and catalog of high-quality, carefully selected toys, books, videos, and safer-sex supplies. Women-owned and operated, and open to all orientations. They have in-store educational workshops and a highly trained staff.
707 E. Pike St., Seattle, WA 98122
206 328 2914
94 Rivington St., New York, NY 10002
212 375 1701
43 Mercer St., New York, NY 10013
212 966 2120
462 Bergen St., Brooklyn, NY 11217
718 638 3820
(Mail order) 800 658 9119
babeland.com
Come Again Erotic Emporium
Woman-owned store with toys, books, and lingerie.
353 E. 53
rd
St., New York, NY 10022
212 308 9394
Eve’s Garden
Woman-focused store with toys, books, and videos.
119 W. 57th St., 12
th
Floor, New York, NY 10019
800 848 3837
212 757 8651
evesgarden.com
Forbidden Fruit
Woman-owned and operated toy store/adult gift shop, and fetish boutique. A big supporter of the Austin S/M, fetish, safer-sex, and sex-positive communities.
Toy Store and Education Center
512 Neches St., Austin, TX 78701
512 478 8358
www.forbiddenfruit.com
Good Vibrations
Staff is trained, and their Education department serves staff and customers and does outreach to health organizations. Web site and retail stores carry toys, books, DVDs, safer-sex supplies
603 Valencia St., San Francisco, CA 94110
415 522 5460
1620 Polk St., San Francisco, CA 94109
415 345 0400
2504 San Pablo Ave., Berkeley, CA 94702
510 841 8987
308A Howard St., Brookline, MA 02446
617 264 4400
(Mail Order) 800 289 8423
www.goodvibes.com
(See “Online and Mail Order” section for more mail
order/Web info.)
Pleasure Chest
Retail store and Web site of novelties, toys, videos, and clothing .
7733 Santa Monica Blvd., West Hollywood, CA 90046
800 75 DILDO
323 650 1022
156 Seventh Ave. S., New York, NY 10014
212 242 2158
3436 N. Lincoln Ave., Chicago, IL 60657
773 525 7151
thepleasu
rechest.com
Canadian Resources
Come As You Are
No visit to Toronto is complete without visiting this community-oriented worker-owned co-op retail store, and they also have a mail-order catalog and Web site. They have toys, books, videos, safer-sex supplies, and educational resources, especially resources for the disabled. Products are hand-picked and individually reviewed. Stores offer educational workshops.
Nous offrons des services limites en francais.
701 Queen St. W., Toronto, ON, M6J 1E6, Canada
(Toll-free) 888 504 7934
416 504 7934
comeasyouare.com
Good For Her
Woman-focused retail store carries toys, books, videos, and erotic art; hosts sex workshops, all geared toward female pleasure. In addition to regular hours, store has women and trans-only hours.
175 Harbord St., Toronto, ON, M5S 1H3, Canada
(Toll-free) 877 588 0900
416 588 0900
goodforher.com
Lovecraft
Retail stores and Web site offering toys, books, videos, and lingerie. Possibly the oldest women-owned sex shop in North America—open since 1972.
27 Yorkville Ave., Toronto, ON, M4W 1L1, Canada
416 923 7331
2200 Dundas St. E., Mississauga, ON, L4X 2V3,
Canada
905 276 5772
(Toll-free) 877 923 7331
lovecraftsexshop.com
Womyn’s Ware
Retail store, Web site, and catalog of toys, books, and fetish gear, education- and woman-focused. Store hosts sex seminars.
896 Commercial Dr., Vancouver, BC, V5L 3Y5, Canada
604 254 2543
(Toll-free) 888 996 9273
womynsware.com
European Resources
Le Boudoir
The Spanish woman’s answer to a female-friendly, smart, and sexy online sex shopping experience—from Spain, they are a fabulous resource. Lovely; Web site is in Spanish.
LoveHoney
This UK-based site is a one-stop shop for quality sex toys, books, and videos. They make their own product videos, have an entertaining blog, and are committed to green practices and environmentally conscious products.
Lust
A women-run, women-focused online sex boutique from Denmark, with a lovely site and fantastic selection. Site is in Danish.
Second Sexe
French Web site, erotic boutique, and resource for women-positive, feminist-identified products and porn. Exquisite site, lots to choose from.
SH!
A women’s sex shop that is all-inclusive and couples-friendly, with two levels including handpicked toys, books, videos and lingerie. A well-educated staff, many after hours events and comfortable atmosphere.
57 Hoxton Square, London N16 6HD U.K.
Tel. 0845 868 9599
020 7613 5458
Tiberius
Austrian leather, latex and a variety of sexy tools.
A-1070 Wien, Lindengasse 2, Austria
Tel. 43 1 522 040 74
tiberius.at
[email protected]
Yoba
A gorgeous online women’s sex toy boutique, with lingerie and their own beautiful sex magazine. I wish American sex toy boutiques looked and felt like this (site is in French).
Safer-Sex Resources
American Social Health Association
P.O. Box 13827, Research Triangle Park, NC 27709
919 361 8400
ashastd.org
Center for Disease Control National Prevention Information Network
P.O. Box 6003, Rockville, MD 20849
800 458 5231
cdcnpin.com
National AIDS Hotline
800 232 4636
National STI Resource Center Hotline
919 361 8488
Planned Parenthood
800 230 PLAN
plannedparenthood.org
Safer Sex Page
San Francisco Sex Information
Sex information and referral switchboard that provides free, nonjudgmental, anonymous, confidential, accurate information from a highly trained staff. Monday through Thursday 3:00 P.M. to 9:00 P.M.; Friday 3:00 P.M. to 6:00 P.M.; Sunday 2:00 P.M. to 5:00 P.M. PST. Ask any question about sex under the sun by emailing [email protected].
415 989 SFSI
sfsi.org
Sex Education Classes and Workshops: Organizations
(For stores near you that offer sex education workshops and classes, see the “Retail Stores” section.)
Body Electric
School of healing arts dedicated to exploring the healing potential of erotic energy, with a holistic, mindful, and spiritual approach (open to all spiritual orientations). Classes for men and for women, mixed classes, retreats, and more, in Seattle, Oakland, New York, and Los Angeles.