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Reference

The following list of courses, books and music is a guide to what we have found useful and informative during our research and learning. We provide this for your information only, in the hope that it will be of use in any further explorations you may wish to undertake.

A larger and constantly updated reference section is always available at our internet web site http://www.beyondtantra.org. The web site also contains direct links to books, courses, music and other items and sites of interest.

Courses in Dual Cultivation

The following centres have courses in Healing Love. However, you would normally be expected to have completed some introductory courses before taking courses that work with Dual Cultivation (Healing Love) or to take a course that combines Tao Basics with Healing Love. Note that some of the Healing Love courses teach Solo Cultivation,
i.e.
work without a partner, instead of Dual Cultivation.

Universal Tao Center

Chiang Mai, Thailand

http://www.universal-tao.com/

Courses given by Mantak Chia and staff.

Healing Tao USA

http://www.healingtaousa.com/

Courses given by Michael Winn and staff.

Books and Videos

These are listed in order of how relevant and useful we found them to be when learning about Dual Cultivation, Sacred Sex and Taoism, rather than alphabetically.

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Dual Cultivation

Chia, Mantak,
Healing Love Through the Tao: Cultivating Female Sexual Energy
, Healing Tao Books, 1991

Chia, Mantak,
Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy
, Healing Tao Books; Aurora Press, 1984

Chia, Mantak,
The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should
Know
, HarperSanFrancisco, 2002

Chu, Valentin,
The Yin-Yang Butterfly: Ancient Chinese Sexual Secrets for Western
Lovers
, Jeremy P. Tarcher, 1994

Yudelove, Eric,
Taoist Yoga and Sexual Energy: Internal Alchemy and Chi Kung
, Llewellyn Publications, 2000

Wile, Douglas,
Art of the Bedchamber: The Chinese Sexual Yoga Classics Including
Women’s Solo Meditation Texts
, State University of New York Press, 1992

Sacred Sex

Anand, Margo,
The Art of Sexual Ecstasy: The Path of Sacred Sexuality for Western
Lovers
, Jeremy P. Tarcher; Reprint edition, 1991

DVD –
Ancient Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy
. From http://www.tantra.com VHS –
Multi Orgasmic Response Training for Men & Women
. From http://www.tantra.com

Ramsdale, David,
Sexual Energy Ecstasy : A Practical Guide To Lovemaking Secrets
Of The East And West
, Bantam, 1993

Kenyon, Tom,
The Magdalen Manuscript: The Alchemies of Horus & The Sex
Magic of Isis
, Orb, 2002

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Taoist Healing and Philosophy

Lao Tzu, Brian Walker(trans.),
The Tao Te Ching of Lao Tzu
, St. Martin’s Griffin, 1996

Lao Tzu, Brian Walker(trans.), Hua Hu Ching:
The Unknown Teachings of Lao
Tzu
, HarperSanFrancisco, 1992

Reid, Daniel,
Complete Book of Chinese Health & Healing
, Shambhala, 1994

Kaptchuk, Ted,
The Web That Has No Weaver: Understanding Chinese Medicine
, McGraw-Hill, 2000

Reid, Daniel,
The Tao of Health, Sex & Longevity
, Simon & Schuster, 1989

Chia, Mantak,
Awaken Healing Light of the Tao
, Healing Tao Books, 1993

Kohn, Livia,
Taoist Meditation and Longevity Techniques
, Univ. of Michigan, 1989

Ming-Dao, Deng,
Chronicles of Tao: The Secret Life of a Taoist Master
, HarperSanFrancisco, 1993

Music for Sacred Sex Sessions

A selection of gentle, non-intrusive instrumental music.

Anugama,
Shamanic Dream
, Open Sky Music Anugama,
Tantra
, Open Sky Music

Deuter – all CDs – New Earth Records

Karunesh,
Secrets of Lif
e, Real Music Kitaro – all CDs – Domo Records

Kokin Gumi,
Zen Garden
, Avalon

Patricia Spero,
Silk and Bamboo
, New World Music Rasa,
Devotion
, Hearts of Space

Robin Silver,
Full Moon
Hollow Bone Solace,
Ahsaha
, Magnatune

Sur Suhda,
Images of Nepal
, Domo Records

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Sacred Sex Essentials and Extras

Incense and Candles

Many people find that burning a cleansing incense such as sandalwood, Tibetan healing incense or white sage is a powerful way to change the atmosphere of a room. We have also found that for ‘cleaning’ a house or room Gum Benjamin is very useful. This comes as a powder or small chunks that need to be ground. You then put a small amount of the powder on a charcoal tablet.

We like placing one candle or tea light at each corner of our sacred space. Just make sure to place any incense or candles in a safe place where they won’t get knocked over inadvertently!

Essential Oils

We use an essential oil warmer which releases the oil into the air. Here are a few scents we like:

Relaxing: Lavender,

Rose

Aphrodisiac: Ylang

Ylang

Invigorating:

Geranium

Cloth and Cushions

A special bedspread that you use solely for sacred sex sessions is not only practical (easy to wash!) but can also help to create a special sense of ‘place’. A stack of towels is also handy for removing oil and drying off. You can also place a few of the towels under your bedspread. Finally, a pile of cushions in various shapes and sizes and of various materials with washable covers is a great way to make yourselves comfortable.

Massage Oil

Try to get some good quality massage oil. We have found Weleda arnica massage oil very good for stiff shoulders or joints, and the smell is very refreshing.

Generally, however, we use plain almond oil, jojoba or grapeseed oil.

During sessions, we put some oil into a little clay bowl that has a stable base.

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You can also put some oil in a plastic squeeze bottle. We put in enough oil for a session and add a few drops of essential oil. In this way you always have a fresh pot of oil.

Lubrication

We have found that a good, water-based lubricant has made a huge difference to our lovemaking. It gives a luxurious feeling of smoothness and completely does away with any issues of being to dry for comfort. We have tried many, many different makes and have come to the conclusion that nothing beats the water-based lubricant called Liquid Silk. The great thing about Liquid Silk is that it doesn’t get sticky and you can just add a bit of water as your session progress-es to ‘refresh’ it.

If you use condoms, make sure you use a water-based lubricant as oil-based lubes can damage latex.

Other bit and pieces

• If possible, a completely separate mattress that you use only for your sacred sex sessions. Ideally it would be great to have your own temple but most houses don’t have this facility (yet!).

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Glossary

Acupuncture
(Latin:
acus
‘needle’ and
pungere
‘prick’) The TCM therapeutic practice of inserting needles into ‘acupuncture points’ located along the Meridians to release, unblock and re-balance Qi in the body.

Dakini
(Sanskrit: ‘sky dancer’) Indian Tantric priestess. Also known as angels.

Dual Cultivation
Taoist practices for couples that use the energy generated by sexual activity for physical, mental and spiritual self-development.

Feng Shui
(Chinese: ‘wind and water’) Taoist practice of placing and arranging building and objects to be in harmony with nature.

Hui Yin Point
An acupuncture point (CV1) located halfway between the genitals and the anus; called the perineum in the West. The Hui Yin Point is where the front (Conception Vessel) and rear (Governor Vessel) Qi meridians of the body intersect.

Jade Stalk
The male sexual organ.

Kama Sutra
An ancient Indian text on sex, most likely written between the first and sixth centuries A.D.