Straddle his hips, with your face toward his. Another option, if your knees can handle the torque, is to place your feet flat and to each side of his hips. If you opt for this more gymnastic position, hold onto his hands for support; otherwise, you risk sitting all the way down on his erection, which would forfeit the control this position offers you. His cock will make it easily past the first sphincter, and might meet resistance with the second. If that is the case, take a deep breath in, and as you exhale, push out through your rectum and down on his cock. If you need to, hold that position until you feel yourself open up. This is a “get acquainted” phase of anal-penile penetration.
Until she asks you to push deeper into her, remain stationary. As much as you may want to have porn–movie anal sex, this as an exercise in patience. So instead of trying to get deeper inside her ass, try to get deeper inside her mind. Is she enjoying it and what is she thinking and feeling? Likewise, share with her how it feels for you. Is it a turn-on or are her skyscraping recoils turning her butt into a nutcracker? Remember that anal sex should not be painful for either party.
POSITION 1
If you are not holding onto one or both of his hands, you can stimulate your own nipples or his. If you feel comfortable and want to surrender some of your orgasmic control to him, tell him what he needs to do. Likewise, you could also rise onto your knees or feet to control or even interrupt the penetration. By leaning forward, you allow him to push less into you.
Again, communicate how shallow or how deep his movements should be. Many women will come from the anal stimulation combined with rubbing the mound and clitoris against his pubic bone. Enjoy the rush, and come as many times as you want in this position.
Because many men find that anal sex is tighter than masturbation, you might have to tell her to slow down or to lighten up on her boa constrictor technique. Otherwise, you risk ejaculating and giving up your role as human dildo. If you continue to ejaculate early during anal sex, refer to the first chapter to learn about masturbatory training for sex.
If she feels ready for more thrusting, and if she wants to continue, the couple can transition to the next position.
POSITION 2:
Transition
I don’t recommend the roll-over transitions that are sometimes seen in porn movies or that are used for vaginal intercourse because they could result in a penile fracture. It is best for the two of you to disengage, change positions, re-lube, and prepare for reentry as follows. So let out his dingy before you invite him back to dock safely in your harbor.
Raise up high enough so that his penis slowly leaves your ass.
Lean forward, press your breasts into his chest, and kiss him.
Roll over on your side, so that your head rests on the pillow beside his pillow, and then roll the rest of the way onto your back. To make this position as relaxed as possible, comfort your lower back with a small pillow. This lumbar support is crucial if you are new to anal sex, have a weak core muscle group, or suffer from neck pain; however, his knees in the upcoming position will nestle your back as well.
To protect your knees and back, turn your back to her and pull your knees into your chest.
Push up on both arms and turn over, so that your head is now over your pillow, and you are in the “doggy-style” position with your head and hers in the same direction.
Push back on your hands and up onto your knees; you should be just several inches to the side from your partner who is waiting for you to continue. Slide over on your knees so you are both in alignment.
