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THE RATTLESNAKE

Can be performed by either partner

This technique is a tantalizing time-out from intercourse and easily follows from In the Groove. When the head of the penis is against the clitoris, reach down between your bodies, hold the penis by the base, and give it a shake. This will stimulate both the clitoris and the head of the penis, and that should make you both very, very happy.

SHAKE IT UP, BABY! SEX ADVENTURES FOR TRULY DARING DUOS

Now that you’ve got a handle on all the ways you can use your hands during your usual mattress maneuvers, let’s explore beyond that. Whether you’re curious to road-test sex toys, try a lovemaking position that’s outside the norm, or dabble in a little light bondage or S&M, your hands can help in all these areas, too. So the next time you and your partner are feeling extra frisky, peruse this list for something that’ll catch your fancy and fire things up in a whole new way.

SEX STANDING UP

There’s something undeniably hot about two people who are just so into each other that they don’t even bother to head to bed, much less find a flat surface, to stage their lovemaking. That said, having sex while standing is tricky for most couples due to issues of height, weight, and plain old gravity. But, as usual, you can turn to your hands for a little assistance. For one, we’re assuming you two can most likely make it over to a wall, at which point the man can lift a woman up by her butt and lean her torso against the wall so he doesn’t have to hoist her full mass midair. Second, if the woman can find something to grab onto, she can help to further lighten the load. One prime (and very passionate) example of this is in the movie
The Last Seduction
, where actress Linda Fiorentino ravishes Peter Berg against a chain link fence by clinging to it with her hands. While you might not have a fence available for such a feat (at least not in a private enough area), keep an eye out for other options around your home and you may be surprised what turns up. A very sturdy wall-mounted coat rack is one possibility; floor-to-ceiling built-in bookcases are another option as long as they’re sturdy and won’t fall on top of you. Or you can simulate standing-up sex by having the man stand at the edge of the bed facing out and having the woman prop her feet on the mattress and put her arms around the guy’s shoulders.
(Warning:
Swinging from a shower curtain or chandelier, while tempting, is not a good idea.)

THE YAB YUM

In this classic Tantric pose, both the man and the woman are seated facing each other, with the woman’s legs draped over his. This position is depicted in many ancient paintings and sculptures, and for good reason: It’s a phenomenal way to connect with your partner and exchange energy. Your thrusting abilities may be limited to more of a rocking motion, but that just opens doors for building arousal in other ways—and since all four hands are free, there’s a lot you can do. Swap face, scalp, or back massages while you kiss and gaze into each other’s eyes. If you’re in the mood for some truly soul-moving sex, this may be the way.

SEX STANDING UP

THE YAB YUM

THE SUMERIAN SQUAT

According to legend this was the signature sex position of Inanna, the ancient Mesopotamian goddess of sexual love, fertility, and war. Try it and you’ll find it definitely has a bit of an “I am woman, hear me roar” allure. Not surprisingly, the woman is on top and the man
below; only rather than resting on her knees, the woman places the soles of her feet flat on the bed then squats onto his penis. One thing you’ll quickly notice about this position is that it requires very strong thigh muscles, but your guy’s hands can be a lifesaver—just have him place his hands on your cute derrière and help move you up and down. Meanwhile you can place your hands on his chest for extra balance, and can massage his pecs or give his nipples a playful tug. If you lean forward farther, you can wrap your hands around his neck or shoulders and massage the area.

THE SUMERIAN SQUAT

BREAST SEX

Massage oil a must

If your boobs are sized just right you can lather them up with massage oil then squeeze them together. Your man can then straddle your stomach and thrust into the sexy crevice between them. From the
guy’s viewpoint, this looks—and feels—sublime. For added pleasure, you can massage your breasts in circles or squeeze them together then release them. Plus he can reach back and start pushing your below-the-belt buttons to return the favor.

BACKRUB À LA MARILYN MONROE

Granted, giving your partner a back massage might not seem like a very racy way to spend the evening. But that’s only because you’ve never tried Marilyn’s version, which, rumor has it, prompted her to coyly mention, “I think I made his back feel better,” after one of her “private meetings” with President John F. Kennedy. Here’s how you can replicate her alleged sexy success: Lie your guy down and straddle his butt—ideally naked—and give him a sensual rubdown. Once he is relaxed, lean forward and whisper, “Wanna help make me come? Then lie very, very still …” Situating your mons pubis so it is pressing directly against his tailbone, start rocking your hips in small circles, finding which motion hits your personal sweet spot. Then ride him to your peak. Meanwhile you can continue massaging his back and whispering that you’re getting hotter and hotter, closer and closer … Still think back massages are on the tame side? We didn’t think so.

Sex Toy Tricks

Sex toys are like Disneyworld for your genitals, delivering never-before-felt thrills with the help of a little battery power (or an electrical outlet). And yet no matter how many types of good, good vibrations you’ve sampled over the years, odds are you haven’t tried this trick, which gets your hands doing a whole lot more than just holding that gadget in the right spot. Try placing the sex toy in the palm of your hand and closing your fingers around it, or just pressing
down on it with your thumb to hold it in place (ideally it should be a small sex toy). Turn the toy on and your whole hand should shake—which means that your fingers can now deliver the same buzz-worthy sensations as the toy itself.

This simple act of transference can be an incredible boon during sex, since you can now serve up the speed and power of a sex toy with more of a human touch. So consider keeping a sex toy cupped in your palm when doing any assortment of the techniques described in this book. In particular, try it with Good Vibes (a technique from
chapter 6
where you press your fist—which is now holding a sex toy—into the guy’s perineum) or The Shimmy (a technique from
chapter 8
where you gently hold her inner labia, only in this instance you let the sex toy’s vibrations travel on up).

Talk Dirty to Me

Weaving in some X-rated conversation while your hands are wandering can make for an incredibly erotic experience. If you tend to get tongue-tied, here are a few pointers to get you started. First, you and your partner should have a discussion about exactly which words you find a turn-on and a turnoff. Some women, for example, might find it hot to hear someone call them a “slut”; others might totally detest the term. Likewise some men may prefer you call their equipment a “cock” rather than the diminutive-sounding “willy.” Our point is that the very same lovemaking lingo can trigger completely different reactions based on whom you’re talking to, so it can help to come to an agreement beforehand on which words you should use and which you should avoid.

Once you’ve got some hot vocabulary to work with and your hands start roaming, what next? Basically, there are three very easy
ways to break the ice. The first and probably easiest is to merely ask your partner a question, such as “Do you want me to touch your [fill in the blank]?” or “Why don’t you come over here and play with my [fill in the blank]?” The second way to get started is to describe something you’re about to do (“Next I’m going to put my fingers in your [bleep]”) or something you’re currently doing (“Now my fingers are sliding inside your [bleep]”). Finally, you can ask your partner if he or she likes the results (“Do you like it when I [bleep] your [bleep]?”).

Pretty much all of these explicit talk techniques can also be used during phone sex (and just think of how happy your partner would be to receive
that
call). So if one of you is on a business trip or you two are otherwise miles apart, pick up the phone (preferably at a time when you know your partner has some privacy) and say, “I wish you were here so I could throw you down on the bed and …” Or describe what you’re doing to yourself, as in, “Now my hands are fondling my nipples, caressing my stomach, slipping under my pants …” Those are just a few of the many ways your handiwork can be combined with some sexy conversation. Go ahead and whisper, growl, or even shout your praises to add an audio element to lovemaking.

Breakin’ Out the Blindfolds

Deny yourself the use of your peepers and all your other senses sharpen to compensate: hearing, smell, taste, and—most important—your sense of touch. So try tying a scarf over your partner’s eyes before your hands start wandering. Whatever you’re doing, ask your partner to tell you how it ranks on a scale of one (not so pleasurable) to ten (pleasurable beyond belief). This will help you both tune in to subtler nuances that turn you on. Afterward, switch so you’re the one who is blindfolded and soaking up a rich new realm of sensations.

Tie Me Up, Tie Me Down

There’s a whole culture and tons of literature devoted to the art of bondage, and since we’re not experts in this area we would highly recommend that you look elsewhere for a deeper understanding of how to start experimenting safely. Still, what we
do
know is that you don’t need handcuffs, rope, or restraints of any kind to begin, since your hands alone can do a pretty good job at simulating their effects. Playfully pin your partner’s wrists over his or her head on the bed, or order your partner to sit on his or her hands and not move an inch. While your partner isn’t
really
helpless in these scenarios, the feeling may well up just the same.

Once your partner’s hands are “tied up” so to speak, then what? While pretty much anything you do will feel edgier because your partner is powerless to stop you, to truly take advantage of the situation, a little teasing is in order. Stroke around, but not on, your partner’s choice spots. Bring your partner to the brink of orgasm then pull back, then build again. The results will drive your partner nuts, but that will only make the moment when you
do
deliver the goods all the more gratifying.

From Ow! to Wow! Turning Pain into Pleasure

For some people pain feels, well, painful. And yet for others pain feels absolutely fabulous, provided it’s within the context of a sexual relationship where both partners are in on the game. Again, since S&M isn’t our area of expertise, you’ll want to turn elsewhere for in-depth instructions. Still, if you’re interested in delivering just one or two playful swats just to kick things up a notch, we can certainly provide your hands with some pointers.