The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them (6 page)

Obviously, I am not interested in destabilizing society, which is why I am not out on a political campaign to change our socialization by altering our schools’ curriculums, the laws of our nations, or the way we raise our children. However, I do want to discuss the topic of feminism briefly, as it has already and is still trying to do
all
of that, but feel free to skip this section if you have no interest in politics.

Feminism

The idea that females are
more
valuable than males in a society may come as a surprise to you if you live in a country where feminist ideas have become popular, particularly the notion that females are unequal to males, but have been and still are less valued, not more. The opposite is really the case, and males have always been and still are the disposable sex as far as a society is concerned. However, the idea that females require more protection,
even to the extent of calling them victims, will always be
politically
correct. But an idea that is popular is not necessarily accurate.

It appears that more males tend to be more feminine these days than in the past, and entire generations of boys are being intentionally raised to be more like girls in some of the industrialized nations due to the rise and political success of feminism. Many females complain that males were
somehow
manlier a decade ago, without understanding that this is the obvious result of inviting feminist ideas into our schools and institutions. The latest generations of males who are currently being raised with these new ideas are even more emasculated and effeminate than ever and are already finding it more difficult to get girls (as if their fathers did not have a hard enough time already), without seeing the connection between diminished masculinity and reduced attractiveness to females.

Few people are aware of this, however, but even if the radical feminist leaders who set the political agenda were aware, they would not care, considering such a large portion of them are lesbian and hence not interested in males, regardless of whether the males are attractive.

The problem with today’s feminism has nothing to do with the original goals of the “women’s” movement, such as equal economic opportunities, full political liberty, and fair treatment under the law. These are objectives that most reasonable people would be crazy not to support, as they embody nothing less than justice for all. However, the more progress that was made toward those admirable goals, the more the agenda shifted from
equality
to
hostility
toward males. Today, feminists are more likely to be found discussing their mutual contempt for males, and those with influence have tried making expressions of
masculinity itself politically incorrect behavior. They believe that the cause of all society’s problems is masculine males and that the universal solution is to make males more feminine. Feminists have tried to achieve equality by erasing the gender differences entirely, altering everything from everyday vocabulary to common law, as if there were no biological differences between the sexes.

Such ideas have unfortunately been able to spread into many of our institutions, particularly our schools, in parts of the Western world.

Ironically, however, the only reason such ideas have spread so successfully and feminists’ attacks on men go on without much defense lies in the fundamental difference between the sexes, that females
are
more vulnerable than males and thus
any
kind of response from a male would be seen as unjust. If males were to put down females the same way that feminist females tend to put down males, the headlines would scream misogyny and sexism. This difference in the level of tolerance or even acceptance of how much worse females are allowed to talk about and treat males is rooted in the underlying biological fact that one sex
is
more vulnerable than the other, while at the same time being more valuable and hence more important to society. This makes it politically correct and socially acceptable for the more vulnerable, yet more valuable, sex (females) to attack the less vulnerable sex (males) seemingly without limits, but not the other way around.

Luckily, it is quite easy to avoid these tiresome debates, and men who are successful with women are too busy enjoying their lives to write letters to editors or engage in political campaigns. They are nowhere to be found in those areas because they have so many better things to do. This is the same reason why you seldom see
attractive
females wasting their time in those debates, either.

While early feminists have succeeded in increasing females’ rights in society to equal those of males, they have managed to do so without increasing females’ responsibility to match that of males, although more responsibility usually goes hand in hand with more rights. Leaders and legislators have allowed this to happen because taking responsibility always involves forms of risk, and since females are more vulnerable than males, but also more valuable, risk-taking behavior is seen as masculine and inappropriate for females. No one expects females to take huge risks, and no female will fight for increased responsibility as risks are undesirable, unlike rights.

While all forms of responsibility do involve exposing yourself to risk, the severity of the risks can vary greatly. Females always have and still do take more responsibility at home, for instance, but they do so because that domain is safer and involves a lot less risk than responsibilities in the outside world. For instance, responsibility for armed soldiers and the defense of nations, as males tend to take, involves much greater risk than responsibility for young children, as females tend to take. But even in the home, if a task involves risk taking, like a heavy object needing to be fetched from the attic or a satellite dish being attached on the roof, the male is expected to take care of it.

Nonetheless, feminism is not actually about equality, and it never was. If it were, then feminists would discuss equal responsibility as much as they do equal rights. They would talk about getting females into the filthy and dangerous professions that are dominated by males and not only about the prestigious and safe positions like company boards, and they would fight equally to send more females into war to defend their country and earn their right to vote, not just demand more rights without more responsibilities. Of course, then it would not be called a “women’s”
movement, but a people’s movement. The reason it is not, however, is because feminism is about nothing but reinforcing and spreading the already prevailing idea that females are more vulnerable than males, although more valuable, and hence require more protection in society — in the disguise of its own rhetoric. It is just a new form of the same old traditional socialization, although feminists themselves seem completely oblivious to this fact.

The more things change, the more they stay the same.

This is also why, despite the “women’s” movement making significant progress and increasing females’ rights, without increasing their responsibilities, feminists
still
maintain that females are oppressed by males and valued less by society. And I can tell you right now that no matter how much “progress” is made, they will never be satisfied and politicians will always be ready to listen because as long as it is in a society’s best interest to value females more, that interest will shape public policy.

No matter the evidence or real-world experience that suggests otherwise, no matter the statistics that show that males live shorter lives than females, are more often victims of violence, commit suicide more often, get longer prisons sentences for committing the same crime, are the only ones drafted for the military, and are more frequently hurt and die more often at work because females are more valued than males in society, and our socialization therefore teaches us to overprotect them without question. Plus females’ concerns will always be taken with less scrutiny in the political sphere, especially in democratic countries where females cast the majority of votes. Thus, the idea that females have more and tougher struggles than males will always persist, even when there is evidence that contradicts it, which there is in many areas, because people simply respond with more empathy to females in distress. For instance, this is why the world is
full of “women’s” shelters and more government grants that are earmarked to help battered females despite the vast majority of victims of violence being
males
.

Also, if you were to see a female slapping a male in bar, for instance, it is quite likely you and everyone else in the venue would instantly think “he probably deserved it” and not move a muscle. Some might even be amused. But if the roles were reversed and it was the male who slapped the female, it is quite likely you and everyone else would instantly think “what an asshole” and even get up and intervene, call the police, or wish that someone would. And, of course, everyone would be appalled.

I could go on with countless more examples, but I give you merely these examples to show you that our behavior comes from our beliefs, and since we are traditionally raised with different beliefs about males and females, we behave differently. We only feel an urge to protect one sex but not the other. If this were not true, females would be left to fend for themselves the same way males are.

Few people are aware of these beliefs, however, but our mindset (all our beliefs) governs our manners (all our behavior), regardless of our awareness.

No man who is successful with women is a feminist, although most do support fair treatment of females and often treat them more equally than ordinary males do. In particular, they support the sexual liberation of women as it benefits them the most since it is such men who sleep with the women who don’t worry about promiscuity. Such men benefit, but not the average male and especially not the few emasculated males who actually call themselves feminists — something they do, ironically, only because they feel inadequate for or intimidated by women and seek their approval. They fear to disagree and believe that women in general want
what only a few angry and outspoken females claim they want.

A man does not have to call himself a feminist to get girls, and he does not need to worry about the issues that feminists make a big deal over either. For instance, one of those issues that feminists love to get all worked up about is the objectification of women, which is nothing more than the natural attraction instinct in all males. If males had not developed this instinct of being attracted to women based on their bodies, these feminists would not be alive today to complain about it. But it is not “women” in the everyday meaning of the word, as in “all females,” that males like to look at and objectify. It is women by my definition, as in the feminine females that males are the most attracted to, that males like to look at — and they are a small minority of all females.

I actually agree that it is wrong to objectify
females
, because the majority of females are unattractive. Only 10% or so are really attractive; thus, a male has no business looking at the majority. But then again, that is really the case already, and this might be the real reason why some of the 90% of females get upset, as they are indeed neglected. Males are not objectifying all females in general; instead, they ignore them, and the men who are most successful with women focus on the most attractive ladies without wasting time on the rest. They neither look at them nor listen to their complaints because they have no biological value.

You should be less concerned with what the majority of females want because you are honestly not attracted to them, and their opinions do not represent those of the women you really want. Remember, though, not only is the vast majority of females unattractive these days, but the same goes for the vast majority of males. This means that the political agenda will always cater to the wishes of
unattractive
people, as it caters to the majority. You should have this in the back of your mind whenever you
hear public opinion, government policies, mass media, and the opinion of any political movement. Politically correct opinions will simply be ideas that are popular, ideas that the majority of people like to hear regardless of how accurate or effective those ideas are. However, nevertheless, the women that males really want are not part of the majority; they are never radical feminists, or the ones complaining.

One goal of traditional socialization, which feminists aim to preserve in their own way, is to protect females in society. My point, however, is that a male should treat a female he wants like a woman; he should make her feel feminine. That includes protecting her and shielding her from discomfort (since a female
is
more vulnerable than him after all), but he should not sacrifice
himself
while doing so — as women do not want that. Only society does. Females are naturally attracted to a male who believes he is important and valuable, but also equal to them, and therefore treats his female as important and valuable too. Only society wants males to believe, or at least to behave as if they believe, they are insignificant and disposable but also inadequate for and unequal to all females and therefore willing to sacrifice themselves if necessary.

Scientific Advice

From an evolutionary perspective, females are supposed to have been mating with the males who were able to provide for and protect them, as the ones who cared more for these traits in a male would be more likely to survive their pregnancy and make sure their offspring would survive to adulthood to reproduce on their own. Traditional socialization, which teaches that males have to earn females and that females’ sexuality must be controlled, reinforces the ideas that males should be able to
provide, while females should make sure they are provided for, as that maximizes the children’s chances to survive and reproduce.

Males with such supportive abilities have always had high status in all societies, so many anthropologists believe that females are attracted to males with high status. Modern research of matchmaking has also found that males with more wealth, which is a sign of high status and ability to provide, are more likely to get married. However, the researchers’ conclusion that females are attracted to males with wealth or high status is nevertheless false. In addition, examining the kind of partner males and females decide to marry will only, even if the correct conclusions are drawn, lead to ideas for how to find a marriage, something far less interesting and advantageous for males and not the type of relationship they usually want, at least not primarily or naturally.