Female Ejaculation (14 page)

Our fingers are the perfect natural tools to uncover the mysteries of the vulva, the vagina and the G-spot. The fingers are highly sensitive with lots of nerve endings, and we’re all skilled at manipulating them. Yes, we’re suggesting you touch yourself. Self-pleasuring is a powerful way to discover your G-spot and how to give it maximum delight.

We urge you not to resist any kind of sexual play. It’s a tragedy that self-pleasuring isn’t more socially accepted. We avoid calling it masturbation because too many people have a guilt association with the word. But call it whatever you like! Just do it. It’s such an ideal way to learn about your body and sexuality. You’re always the closest to the action. You have the strongest vested interest in mastering your body’s uniqueness. Feedback is instant. No attention is required to the challenging art of communication, and the big payoff is immediate pleasure. Excel, and you might even have an orgasm. Whoopee!

Of course, for self-pleasuring to work well, you need to listen to your body intently instead of being consumed by guilt. To welcome the life-altering power of G-spot pleasure into your life, drop all of these old inhibitions that don’t serve you. The taboos are for nay-sayers.

Unfortunately, the shape of some women’s bodies makes self-pleasuring the G-spot difficult or uncomfortable. Many women’s fingers
aren’t long enough or strong enough for facile internal experimentation. Later, we’ll suggest some uses of specific sex toys to facilitate self-pleasuring. But for now, let’s get down to exploring and enjoying your body by yourself.

Because of our social conditioning, most of us don’t appreciate our genitals fully and accept their unique shape, size, and aroma. If you want to experience the heights of sexual ecstasy, it’s essential that you start now on a personal program of loving these sacred parts of your body.

Right now, begin exploring your vagina’s sacred landscape in greater detail. What do you think of when you look at your vagina with a mirror? A rose or perhaps a lotus flower?

Each vagina is a beautiful work of art. Just as no two women’s faces are alike, every vagina is different. Some lips are longer, some shorter, each with its own special flair and personality. And remember that size and shape have nothing to do with functioning, sexual or otherwise.

The more your entire body is pleasured, the closer you will come to female ejaculation. Plus, you’ll have lots of fun in the process.

The 16th-century Hindu love manual, the
Ananga Ranga
, teaches that a woman’s erogenous zones are the head, eyes, lips, mouth, cheeks, ears, throat, nape of the neck, breasts, nipples, belly, back, arms, hands, thighs, knees, ankles, feet, big toes, vagina, waist, buttocks, crown of the head, and the center of the forehead. With so much territory to cover, no wonder women complain they want more foreplay!

In fact, those complainers are much more likely to tell you that it’s
how
you touch their skin that feels sensual. And we’re not just talking about technique here. What counts is the presence, the sensitivity, and
the love with which you touch. That’s the essence of the conscious touch we talked about before.

Diving right into G-spot massage or penetration is uncomfortable for most women. Physical arousal from the outside and streaming energy from the inside are wonderful preparations for entering the G-spot.

We don’t mean to suggest you should leave out loving touch of the genitals. After all, women have tissue that becomes erect, too, and we’re not just talking about the nipples. Here’s a run-down of the parts of the vulva.