Take a long bath or shower to relax you, freshen your skin, and cleanse your body and energy.
Clean and trim your nails. If your hands (giver) are rough, plan to wear latex gloves for any kind of penetration.
Empty your bladders and bowels.
Beautify yourself by dressing seductively, and adorning your body with loose, sensuous clothing and jewelry (even if you’re alone).
Schedule ample time without a tight schedule.
Insure privacy and quiet, free from possible distractions and interruptions. Turn off the phones, and lock the door.
Make sure the room is well-heated.
Beautify your room by decorating with art, wall-hangings, flowers, incense, soft lighting, and candles, etc.
Play soft, sensuous, or erotic music.
Arrange your bodies to be comfortable, visible, and open to loveplay.
Sit quietly, meditate, gaze into each other’s or your own eyes in the mirror, share expressions of love and affection, recall times and places of pure joy, or anything else that makes you feel good.
Ritually undress each other, whispering endearments and compliments as each part of the body is revealed.