The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy (16 page)

Because it's illegal in most places to exchange money for sex acts, even where there is no direct sexual contact, you might have to play a bit of a guessing game until you and the performer settle on an agreeable amount for what you want her to do. She may be in a situation where she can be direct about sex acts and prices, or she may cryptically tell you that “you'll have a better party” if you're “more generous.” Exchanges like this might sound like lines out of a bad porn movie or a cheesy crime novel, and they may lead to unintentionally hilarious “who's on first” conversations, but peep-booth workers need to be cautious to stay in business and do so by not overtly breaking any laws. Different peep operations will have different price structures. After your negotiations, all you have to do is pay, sit back, and enjoy your own personal, private sex show.

But
what
do you want her to do? Tell her what will turn the two of you on the most. In general, peep workers will strip and put on a terrific show of masturbating for you, a masturbation session that you can tailor to your fantasies. Sex toys, oral, vaginal, and sometimes anal play can all be on the menu, and she might even have vibrators, a paddle or whip, or other surprises in her bag of tricks. Peep workers are used to taking special requests, so if you want dirty talk, domination, submission, certain words or personas, fetishes such as smoking, or simply want to have her watch you, just ask. Get close to her—and to your partner—while you watch, and you can interact and talk dirty with her as she plays with herself. Play with each other, too, and take turns watching. You can give your lover a hand job, give your lover oral sex, mimic the woman behind the glass for a double show, and anything else that'll get you both off. If you liked the show, give the performer a nice tip.

Most peep shows feature women performers, but there are gay male peep shows, too. If you go to a gay club, make sure to ask beforehand if women are welcome as clients. You can expect to see a fat slice of hot and sweaty man-to-man action.

The biggest rules for all peep shows: Ignore other customers, and never, ever try to negotiate a better price.

Phone Sex

While phone sex is typically a one-on-one service, you and your partner both can play with the alluring voice on the other end of the line and have an incredible time together. Professional phone-sex workers are the masters of fantasy because all day long they listen to people's fantasies, tell fantasy stories, and do it all with the express purpose of getting the caller off. With a pro on the phone, one partner can talk while the other performs oral sex, or you can use a speakerphone to have sex while the phone sex operator talks dirty or directs the action. Also, you can conference on two separate cell phones, in two different locations, and masturbate with the phone-sex worker as your explicit instructor.

Phone sex is perfectly legal, though if calls are made at your workplace or not on your own phone you can get in trouble (read: fired), and keep in mind that it can get quite expensive. Look for services that advertise in the back of local weekly newspapers and reputable adult magazines. Phone-sex operations on the Internet are dicey, since literally anyone can put up a site in a few hours, so avoid websites unless you are referred by a satisfied customer. Make your decision based on the content of the ads, the prefix of the phone number,
and the types of payment they accept—the more types they accept, the more established the service.

Number prefixes will dictate cost and content. Toll-free numbers start with 800, 866, 877, or 888, and will not appear on your phone bill. The charge goes to your credit card, though some services will allow third-party payments through online services or prepayment, where you send in a check or money order ahead of time. The FCC regulates 900 numbers and restricts what 900 operators may talk about. No credit card is required; the charge goes on your phone bill. International numbers start with 011 (except for Canada), and as with 900 numbers, no credit card is needed but the charge goes on your phone bill. International phone-sex calls can be very expensive, but if it's part of your specific fantasy or they offer a specialty you can't find domestically, it may well be worth it.

Paying by credit card is the norm, and the first person you talk to, either the dispatcher or sex operator, will ask for your credit card information before you get started. Make sure you ask their policy on sharing customer information and “opt out” if they do. Find out how the charge will appear on your credit card statement. If you don't want your charges to be seen by anyone who might get the bill, use a card whose bill will be seen by your eyes only. Even if the name of the service is innocuous, with minimal detective work anyone curious and smart enough can find out that you visited a phone-sex service.

When you call, be ready to tell the dispatcher or operator that you are a couple, exactly what you want, and how you plan to engage the phone-sex worker together—by speakerphone, multiple phones, or one on one. You'll need to be very specific, so writing details
down in advance might help. Dispatchers route calls to workers who specialize in what you want, so telling them your specific fantasy will get you connected to the right person.

The operator will begin the call by asking you a few questions to determine your likes and to help you relax. During the call, don't be afraid to guide the operator by providing details and giving direction, and be participatory—even if it's by moans and grunts, the operator will need to know that he or she is on the right track. Tell them to talk dirtier, describe something in more detail, be more submissive or more cruel, or anything else you need more of. If the call is falling short of your expectations or your energy doesn't “click” with the operator, try changing fantasies to fit the mood or tone of your conversation, or end the call. You can also gently let the operator know that it isn't working for you and ask to be connected to someone else. You're paying by the minute for your fun and games, and the operator is on the clock, so make sure you're getting exactly what you want—and that both you and your partner get off.

Call Girls and Prostitutes

Perhaps you have a decadent fantasy of enacting a threesome with a high-priced call girl in a hotel suite in the middle of the afternoon—or your idea of calling for some “room service” is a full-service delivery for two. Or maybe you want to watch your lover having sex with a stranger in the backseat of your car. Want to give him or her a birthday present they'll never forget by turning that lesbian fantasy into reality? Trying out a threesome, voyeurism, same-sex contact, and other fantasies are all available for exploration with a hired pro. All of these
fantasies are a phone call away, though you'll want to study up before you take the plunge into this exciting and sometimes perplexing territory.

Before you engage in actual sex with any new partner—as opposed to the minimal contact of strip clubs, peep booths, and phone sex—you'll need to take stock of your relationship and your expectations. Discuss what each of you wants and doesn't want to do or see. Read about jealousy in
Chapter 5
, “Threesomes, Foursomes, and Moresomes” to understand what emotions might come up, as well as how to deal with any unexpected feelings. This section will also give you tips for how to keep control of any multiple-partner situation at all times, and suggestions for code words that might come in handy in case either of you wants to stop or switch activities.

First and foremost, when engaging in sex with someone new, always use safer sex—see the chart in
Chapter 12
for guidelines. Professional sex workers always use condoms—if they don't or won't, stop everything, pay them for their time, and find someone else.

Know the laws regarding prostitution in your city. Although prostitution is legal (and regulated) in many countries worldwide, in the U.S. it is legal in only a few counties. None of what I'm presenting here constitutes legal advice or condones the breaking of any laws. If you have legal concerns, talk to an attorney. But I can tell you how to have a good, safe encounter with a sex worker—in a locale or situation where it is legal.

You can choose from unlimited flavors of sex workers for your adventures. Before you go shopping you'll likely have a fantasy in mind that will dictate the type of pro you're looking for. For instance, you might want a quick and dirty encounter with a male or female street worker,
in which case grittiness and coarseness will fit into your fantasy picture. Or you may see your ideal encounter taking place in a hotel room with a sex worker who fits a specific fantasy of sex with a stripper, a hustler, the girl-or-boy-next-door, or a cultivated courtesan.

Reputable online services such as
www.Erosguide.com
are national directories with phone-book-style entries featuring a wide variety of sex workers and verified photographs. Local weekly newspapers will have a plethora of ads in their back pages for escort services and individual. If an ad says “incall,” you go to the sex worker's place; if the ad says “outcall,” he or she comes to you, usually at a hotel room. Avoid any ads whose titles or wording suggests disrespect toward the sex workers themselves. Look for larger ads that are more costly to run and include terms like “upscale” and “elegant.”

Make a list of possible agencies or individuals, and begin the process of elimination. For research purposes, call each prospect during daytime hours to see if they have a professional-sounding outgoing message, or are staffed during the day—two good signs. If the phone rings and rings, is answered by someone not associated with the escort service, or the number is not in service, cross it off your list. If you find one you might like, don't leave a message when you call—call back during evening business hours, usually from 8
P.M
. to midnight.

When you are ready to make a “date,” call the same day to set up your appointment, and have your hotel room already rented. If a woman is making the phone call, she should ask if the service entertains couples—this will eliminate confusion as to whether you're looking for a job and will let you know immediately if you've found a suitable agency. Say you'd like to make a couple's date; describe how you want the sex worker to
look, whether you want a half hour, an hour, or longer (some will have a one-hour minimum), and be prepared to give your name, hotel, and room number.

If your scenario involves role play or costumes, be sure you let the sex worker know ahead of time that you'd like to pretend you're a schoolgirl, your lover likes to be told what to do, or that the two of you like to play doctor/nurse games, and so on—but don't discuss sex at this point. Mention any special requests, such as heavy makeup or no panties, and let the sex worker know if you have any items you'd like him or her to wear for you. Once your appointment is set, make sure you have safer-sex gear and any sex toys, lubricants, outfits, champagne, or other accoutrements that'll make your fantasy complete.

Some escorts will accompany you to a strip club (at their same hourly rate, of course), so the sky's the limit when it comes to combining your fantasies. Don't expect them to drink alcohol or do drugs with you—while some might, many are on the clock and have a full night of work ahead. And needless to say, never take anything with you that could make the situation worse if you encounter an undercover officer.

Do not expect the escort to engage in any S/M activities with you, though some independent escorts might be open to sessions that include professional dominance or submission. Information on pro dommes (and doms) can be found in
Chapter 10
, “Erotic Dominance and Submission: S/M Fantasies.”

When your escort arrives, she or he may place a call to the agency to let them know they arrived safely, and may place or receive calls during or following the session for safety purposes. All parties will be very cautious in the beginning stages of the encounter; the sex worker
will want to make sure you are not a cop, and you'll want to know the same. Since police officers generally can't take off their clothes, disrobing can be a good way to dispel everyone's fears. In all cases, the escort is never permitted to say that he or she will have sex for money, and you should never say that you will pay for sex acts of any kind. While this sounds like a convoluted way to negotiate your session, know that you can be more specific once clothes have come off and money (often called a “tip” or “donation”) has been exchanged.

Learn your local laws regarding sex and prostitution, especially if you want to pick up someone off the street for your encounter. Having a hotel room ready is a good idea, since many streetwalkers won't have sex in your car because it's a good way to get arrested. You and your partner will want to cruise together in your car to find the streetwalker you like—he or she will be walking in a known prostitution area, and when you slow down, will come over to your car and ask if you want to “party.” Don't discuss money until you get to the room. Trust your intuition—if it feels wrong, end it wherever you are.

In general, you can expect to pay an escort from $200 an hour upward, though rates for street prostitutes can start around $20–$50 for oral sex and $50–100 for intercourse, with street hourly rates averaging $60 to $200. Higher-class, independent escorts have rates for one and a half hours, two hours, dinner dates, overnights, and travel. Don't try to negotiate prices. Be polite, be on time, practice good hygiene, and bring cash. Always expect to use safer-sex practices. Respect the escort's limits, and if she is not to your liking, or isn't as described, thank her for her time, give her the required “tip,” and send her on her way.