Incredible Sex (52 Brilliant Little Ideas) (13 page)

Beginning couples can start by bathing together to relax each other, looking deeply into each other’s eyes and performing loving rituals like shampooing hair or cleansing. For the next stage move to a sensuous environment, such as cushions on the living room floor, or a bedroom that has been pre-arranged with candles, incense sticks or flowers to help you relax. Next use essential oils like sandalwood or bergamot and take it in turns to gently massage each other. Don’t place too much emphasis on the genitals yet; play with every area of the skin. The aim is to feel relaxed and open to a meditative state.

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Take a leaf out of the Kamasutra and get him to massage your feet during intercourse. Lie on your back and get your partner to enter you with his knees open around your thighs. In the Pressed Position you lift your bum onto his lower legs and he caresses your feet as he enters you. In the Half Pressed Position, one leg is stretched straight out so you can stimulate your clitoris too, all at the same time.

Now you need to practise your breathing to begin the meditation. If you are supple, try sitting in an open lotus position facing each other, or just sit comfortably using cushions to get your heads at about the same height. The aim is to activate your energy centres. These are known as chakras and the six main ones are at the base of the spine, near the navel, heart, throat, the ‘third eye’ (between the eyes) and the genitals. Try to breathe, concentrate on your genitals and expel your breath out in the direction of your vagina. Both of you should be concentrating on doing this, and when you feel it’s working look at each other and try to change the flow of the energy. Take the imaginary breath from your genitals and imagine breathing it into your partner’s heart.

You can use visualisation techniques, breathing and focus to attain a state of deep relaxation, and then in this state you can begin foreplay and sex. You’re aiming to make sexual contact much more than genital stimulation, so try to feel as if you are making love to the whole of your partner’s body.

To prolong lovemaking and withhold ejaculation, just before the point of no return flex your PC muscles tight and hold the position. The feeling of needing to orgasm should subside slightly, and then you can resume. Both you and your partner can have a go at this advanced trick. The real deal though is the meditation side: focus that breath!

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Paying for it 2

The Hotel Room. Another slut sex scenario for you.

For the sake of clarity, we’re being all traditional and assuming ‘he’ is the client and ‘she’ the whore but, of course, this fantasy begs for role reversal. The powerful female client and the stud-for-hire can be just as much of a turn-on.

Book a hotel room and pay for it in advance. She arrives first and changes – a wig if she can bear it, lingerie he’s never seen before, heels, different perfume, negligée if she’s uncomfortable strutting around near naked. Make the mood seductive with music and candles. She should psych herself up – she’s a high-class call girl and her job is to make him feel good. High-class call girls are paid a lot because they’re brilliant actresses – so she should put her heart into it. At last, he knocks on the door and she lets him in. Introduce yourselves by different names. Open a bottle of champagne. He can be nervous – that’s still in character. But she must be confident and tease, flirt or be sexually voracious. She should read her client and take her cues from him (he, of course, has to act out his other side – the side that frequents prostitutes). She must make it clear she’s here for one reason only – to give him the best sexual experience he’s ever had. What would it take?

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Plan your fantasy carefully. Take time to run through the scenario in your mind and write your script (mentally). Unless you’re both brilliant at improvisation and have a bit of a competitive streak, then it will typically take two or three fantasies for you to get a grip on it.

What does he like? She should name her price and make it high. She’s the ultimate indulgence. She’s expensive. When the price has been agreed and she has the cash, lead him to the bed and get down to business. She should remember that this is her job and she’s very, very good at it. If she can slip a few tricks in that he definitely won’t be expecting, all the better. Maintain roles until the door closes behind him.

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Danger

Danger is the fastest-acting aphrodisiac.

In a famous experiment, an attractive scientist interviewed two groups of men. The first group had a standard interview. The second were interviewed after they’d crossed a particularly hairy rope bridge. By the time they were interviewed, their palms were sweaty and their hearts beating fast. This group of men found the same interviewer significantly more alluring. The danger had heightened their sexual response.

No one’s suggesting that you set yourself up for anything life threatening, but sharing adventures together will do the job – especially physical adventures. Adventures count as anything that gets your adrenaline flowing. It needn’t necessarily be dangerous. You’re simply seeking a shared experience that gets both of your hearts thumping.

Some (soft core) ideas

   Go to Alton Towers, Disneyland or anywhere with fast, high rides.

   Dare each other.

   Have sex where you might just be seen.

   Stay the night somewhere reputedly haunted, but definitely creepy.

   Shop at a sex shop together.

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That old chestnut of making a list of six escapades to try and then letting a dice decide which you’ll undergo together brings a delicious thrill of Russian roulette to the proceedings.

Some harder core ideas

   Have sex when other people could definitely see you. (Be subtle – you don’t want to frighten the horses or get arrested. Sex in public is illegal.)

   Go white-water rafting, bungee jumping or parachute jumping.

   Take your clothes off at midnight at the end of your street.