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CONCLUSION

Congratulations! You are now on your way to becoming closer than ever by exploring this aspect of your sexual relationship.

Guys, if you are still confused, or hurt, or unsure about what this all means, I recommend you really take the time to listen to what your ladylove is telling you. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, and get as clear as you can about exactly what she wants you to do, say or how she wants you to behave the next time you’re getting busy between the sheets.

And ladies, don’t be shy. Get what you want out of your sexual relationship. If he is not giving you what you need, then you have every right to let him know. If you need more support, go back and read my advice again from start to finish. Take notes! Show your lover what strikes a cord with you and talk about it.

This is not the blame game, this is an attempt to make your sex life as a couple the very best it can be. Your partner deserves respect, and mutual agreement as well as mutual satisfaction. This is not just about what one partner wants, and the other one providing it. This does not have to be a sacrifice on anyone’s part. Done right, any kind of sexual exploration should be explosively titillating, for both of you.

As a few words of parting advice: I’d like to encourage you to explore, discuss and, when possible, push the boundaries of your sexual relationship. There is absolutely no reason whatsoever to get into a sexual rut. There are literally a million and one things to do once that bedroom door closes at night – and I hope you discover every single one of them!

Remember: sex is not just sex; it’s another way of communicating with each other. It will strengthen your bond, improve all aspects of your relationship, help you to get to know each other even better, and discover new things about a person you thought you knew everything about, the person with whom you are sharing your life, and your heart.

So get out there and have some fun!