The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them (36 page)

EPILOGUE

We are all raised in similar ways, to believe similar ideas, and to behave in similar fashion for the greater good of society. Males grow up in a world where achievements, careers, and the pursuit of wealth and status are held to be very important, even unavoidable, if they want women — something all males do. Without even noticing, it is easy to get stuck spending most if not all of their lives working hard pursuing goals that in the light of better judgment actually do not matter that much.

Socialization seduces them.

In the beginning of this book, I mentioned that my intention was to present an entirely new way of looking at the world, a new paradigm. If you have read everything so far without skipping pages or misunderstanding me, I hope what I meant has now become clear, or at least less vague. By now you have seen that there is a rather drastically different way to look at, meet, and talk to women, a way that is more natural and more direct, and any male who decides to embrace it is bound to have his entire life change for the better, even if it has been quite good so far.
He might even experience things that
seem
unreal.

He may experience things that might appear too good to be true, things that never happen to ordinary males. For example, women he only used to dream about will follow him home the first night he meets them — even though he knows they have a boyfriend who is stronger, more successful, and better looking than he is.

At first, he might actually not believe what is happening, but that is perfectly fine as long as he does not let it show — as long as he just plays it cool and keeps his doubt inside himself until his mind catches up with reality. When things are done right, everything can fall into place
very
quickly, much sooner than one had ever imagined, and after a while, this quick pace and seemingly easy success with women will not seem unreal, but natural, because it is, while it will still seem astonishing to people who know no better — pretty much everyone else, that is.

As a male’s eyes open up to the enormous and endless opportunities of meeting lovely ladies and gorgeous girls every single day no matter where he is, his life might change dramatically on all levels. He will probably come to the same conclusion as all other men who understand that they can get girls without working as a bartender, doing magic tricks, or making up stories; it is just not fulfilling or worth your time to do anything but pursue women directly. Acquiring that new home theatre system is no longer a high priority, and spending every evening in the gym or at work is just not that interesting when you are able to go out and meet the women you want, just like that. Even going out to bars might all of a sudden be less tempting when you know you can approach women everywhere.

The difference between what a male really
needs
and what he merely
wants
will suddenly become clear. This is a distinction
that is very difficult to make when he is not having the level of success he wants with women. His interests in all areas of life might change, but perhaps the most noticeable changes will be in his career and social circle.

As a male’s imaginary need for money and status is reduced, his career motivation may go down. If he has chosen a job because it is more lucrative than fulfilling, he might take it less seriously, or rather more realistically, or even change careers entirely. He may even get fired for getting caught in the copy room having sex with that dazzling secretary he has always wanted. When he realizes that those he spends most of his time with do nothing but drag him down, when he understands he will never get his female friends into bed, when he notices how much time his male friends waste doing ridiculous and unnecessary things trying to get girls, and when he knows he no longer needs any of them to meet women through introductions or by coincidence at their parties, or to distract the attractive female’s friends, he might simply find new friends.

When all these changes occur at the same time, including having better relationships with women who treat him better as they appreciate him, a significant amount of pressure will be removed from all facets of a male’s life, and he will simply be a much happier and carefree person.

If that were not enough good news, there is more. Such a man will also
stay
happy and carefree, as there is no risk that he will lose his ability to seduce women once he has attained it, since his ability is based entirely on a natural mindset and natural manners and there are no tricks or gimmicks involved. It is not as if he could get caught doing something immoral or deceiving, because all that he is doing is being confident, charming, and responsible while truly being himself. He is being a man that women want.

All the males who feel inadequate for or intimidated by women and rely on excuses to meet them will always have to worry about their tricks being figured out or even exposed in the mainstream media. One year they will be doing magic tricks, reading palms, or delivering whatever the latest pickup line they heard was funny and effective, and it will vary with the season. They will endlessly be chasing the next thing as more and more males are doing and saying the exact same thing like parrots, while being a charming and responsible man will never go out of style and it is not an approach that can be exposed or ridiculed in the first place, although I am sure some will try.

There are seemingly no limits to how far some people will go to enforce the traditional socialization, consciously or not, but its inherent flaws luckily become apparent when they do go
too
far. It is not that it is unlikely someone will try to attack men who are confident, charming, and responsible, as one’s socialization can make people commit even more foolish acts than that to preserve the status quo, but it would luckily not work very well and only expose the flaws of logic that our traditional socialization includes.

The old cliché “just be yourself” is actually rather good dating advice when it is interpreted to mean that you should relax and let go of the social inhibitions that are holding you back. However, it is hard to be yourself when you have forgotten what that is like, since the last time that you were entirely free from bad social conditioning, you were too young to remember, and it will be even harder if you believe that social inhibitions are actually a
good
thing for you.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Losing your social inhibitions does not mean you will all of a sudden go berserk and start doing crazy things
against
your will;
it is the other way around. When you are uninhibited, you are in true control of yourself, but when you are inhibited, you are not. While this does not mean you will automatically go wild, it does mean that if you really want to do something wild, there will no longer be an invisible barrier blocking you inside your mind. You will no longer be struggling with yourself like a lunatic. You will have full control of yourself for a change; you will be less affected by whatever your upbringing has forced onto you. And when the crowd starts going wild, you
have
the ability to step aside without mindlessly following along, unlike a member of the crowd.

A male who decides to make the changes necessary to improve his life with women should be aware of what to expect from his peers, as they are conditioned to react in a rather predictable way when someone else stops following the crowd. For instance, you will never get any credit from other males who are still stuck in the traditional mindset. When you stop acting as though you are inadequate for or intimidated by women and your friends notice all the women who start coming into your life, their initial reaction will be to explain your newfound success in a way that makes sense in the traditional mindset.

They will rationalize —
a lot
.

This is quite normal, as people rationalize the most when their world view, their mindset, is challenged — when you discuss an opposing belief or a behavior that contradicts their prevailing beliefs.

They will look at you for anything that is out of the ordinary to find an excuse that “explains” your success in a way
they
can understand. If your nationality or background is the only difference they can see, they will settle on that. Otherwise, they will simply resort to calling you “lucky.” That usually does the trick for them, and they can then happily go on with their lives without
having to challenge everything they believe in and often have built their lives on and around. Instead of accepting, or at least considering, that their own beliefs might be wrong, they will try to fit the unexpected into their world by finding a, to them, plausible explanation.

Because of this, you may have a hard time relating to others, including your friends, when they keep talking about things you
now
know are nonsense. You may even find it challenging to relate to your oldest and best male friends with whom you may have bonded for years by looking at and discussing women. Even though their mindset has not given them success with women, some males would rather keep it to avoid an identity crisis.

If you do try to discuss these new beliefs with them, many whose minds are closed to new ideas will fight hard to keep themselves convinced and even try to change your mind back as well.

This can be very annoying while you are still looking for other people’s approval, but in the end, it is
their
problem. Just be careful that you do not let them bring you down back into their hole, and be aware that they will fight hard to do so. They love company down there as it makes them look less bad (as people
without
confidence and self-esteem constantly compare themselves to others); it is not obvious what they are missing, and it distracts them from doing something about their own misery, which they may have been unaware of until you showed up with these “crazy new ideas.”

These crazy new ideas will always be easy to brush off instantaneously for someone who has been raised to think otherwise, which is practically everyone on earth. It will always be hard for people to allow their entire world view to come crashing down before their eyes and rethink their very way of living. Their narrow-minded and delusional ideas may start to wear you down
if you are not mentally tough, or you will feel exhausted by listening to their imaginary problems, their hallucinated explanations, and all their excuses.

If they are good friends that you would like to keep, feel free to recommend this book to them; otherwise, consider finding new friends.

Although a great number of generalizations are made throughout this book, and there are always exceptions to every rule, it is vital to remember that those who are the exceptions will obviously be the ones who stand out; the ones who scream the loudest and want to argue the most. But when they do, you have to remember that they are still
exceptions
, so it is important to take a step back and look at the big picture and not get distracted by them. When you do this, you will notice that the more attractive a female is, for instance, the more these generalizations ring true about what women want.

By no coincidence is it always
unattractive
females who disagree the most and want to argue these ideas if you are foolish enough to bring them up. They are not the “women” this book is about, and you should not be wasting your time with them, as they will work very hard to make any male feel bad for being interested in a female because of her beauty, for instance, if they have none themselves.

Although my intent has been to cover everything a male needs to know to become a man, leaving males to simply start taking action, they will also be better at judging what else will work well and why if they decide to look for even more advice. They will be in a much better position to recognize the few men and women who really know what they are talking about from the many males and females who do not.

That is priceless knowledge by itself, because you will inevitably
feel a lot of social pressure from your peers who do not know what you now know. It is for this reason that I have set up an online forum to help cope with the social repercussions and to easily find new friends among like-minded individuals from all over the world. This forum will also allow you to discuss the changes in perception and experience of the world that is common for someone who changes their mindset. Life may feel like it has slowed down, inner peace abounds as your internal voice becomes quiet, your vision appears to expand, and it may feel as if you have woken up from an eternal sleep — a state of mind completely incomprehensible for anyone who has not experienced a drastic change of limiting beliefs.

However, the forum is not intended for anyone to waste even more time on the Internet. Spending more time online is the last thing a male needs if he is not getting girls.

Any male who thinks his situation is unique and wants advice tailored specifically to his current life situation and his own experiences can even give me a call for some personal consultation, but it should not be necessary, and I encourage you to try solving your problems on your own
first
. I hope to have given all males enough pointers to figure out the remaining answers to questions they might have, and true confidence involves being able to go ahead and take action even if you are not completely sure of yourself.

Finally, if you did enjoy reading this and want to improve your life, do
yourself
a favor and set yourself a reminder to read this book again in two months’ time. It will not cost you extra and you will be surprised to discover a new layer of meaning you overlooked and were unable to comprehend the previous time you read it, no matter how careful you were, as some ideas require time to sink in.

As this book is coming to its end, one might think it would be appropriate for me to wish all the males reading it the best of luck with getting the women they really want, but I will not do that because as a man you will no longer need luck. Real men create their own destiny and sweep the women they want off their feet. The only luck involved is for the women when they meet one of us, so it is to them that I wish good luck in finding a man. For every male who reads and applies this knowledge, there will be one more of such men in the world.