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Authors: Somraj Pokras

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VAGINAL ORGASMS
As wonderful as multiple clitoral orgasms are, climaxes induced inside the vagina have their own special qualities. The exact role that the womb and G-spot play in vaginal orgasms is still under scientific study. The Singers and others have written that pure vaginal orgasm occurs in the uterus as a result of jostling the cervix. Some believe the G-spot is the physical pathway to vaginal orgasm. Though research is still underway today, some things are clear.
G-spot orgasms are longer and deeper than those of the 10-second variety, even multiple ones. Some women report that they commonly last 45 seconds, while others say they can go on for many minutes. They involve the deep pelvic muscles including the big muscles of the uterus.
Remember that an explosive clitoral orgasm causes the deep vagina to tent, gripping near the mouth and opening up inside near the cervix.
The vagina does the opposite during G-spot orgasm. The outside third of the vagina relaxes along with the PC muscle, opening the entrance wider. The inner vaginal muscles tend to push out, closing the space. Perry and Whipple called this the “A-frame effect” in contrast to the tenting effect.
A G-spot orgasm is often accompanied by deep contractions that feel as if the uterus is pushing down toward the vagina’s opening. A finger, dildo, vibrator, or penis can be forcibly ejected during this inner climax, as can the fluid that accumulates in the female prostate.
Does this help you to understand the mechanics of female ejaculation?
G-SPOT ORGASM
Here’s what women say about G-spot orgasm as compared with peaks brought on through the clitoris alone.
EXTENDED
G-spot orgasms are longer with more intense contractions than clitoris climaxes. They report wave after wave of spasms that cause shaking, shuddering, and vibrating all over like nothing they’ve experienced otherwise.
DEEPER
G-spot orgasms are experienced far deeper. They feel as if they’re pushing a woman’s insides out. Some women report that it feels rooted deep within. Others describe it as whole sex erupting from heat that starts within their core and spreads throughout the whole body. One said it’s like a river running loose inside.
POWERFUL
G-spot orgasms are stronger and more moving than clitoral climaxes. They’re described as a complete rush, hitting the entire body like a storm or like a volcano of fireworks exploding from the vagina that makes the whole body feel like it’s on fire. Some say it’s like an earth-shaking tidal wave that sweeps the woman to a higher plane outside and above her body.
OVERWHELMING
Some women describe G-spot orgasm as overwhelming, causing them to lose control. They numb out, pass out, or get weak in knees. Their eyes glaze over, and they scream like never before. Some women say they lose all sense of reality, almost as if it’s an out-of-body experience.
WHERE DO YOU GO AFTERWARD?
Universally, women report that the deeper orgasms resulting from vagina play are more fulfilling, as well as more emotional. That’s not to say that we necessarily believe that losing touch with reality creates the best sexual experience. It’s possible that these women are holding their sexual selves under tight rein. Losing their firm grip is for them a brief respite from the control they continually exert over themselves. It could also be true that the feeling of leaving the body is comforting for an instant.
We believe that it’s better not to use sexual pleasure as an escape. We want you to be fully present in the experience because that’s where you’ll find the ecstasy.
Women report that, once they start, they don’t want G-spot orgasm to stop. But when it does, they continue to feel dazed and relaxed for hours. Some report aftershocks that go on and on. Another great side benefit is that women generally want more sexual play in the immediate future.
Whatever a woman experiences, G-spot play is clearly a doorway into more powerful sensations than most women manage with external play, and certainly, playing with the clitoris doesn’t eventually result in a gush of liquid. Maybe these more powerful experiences are because of the deeper pelvic nerve pathways that feed the female prostate along with the bladder, uterus, and inner PC muscle.
PRACTICE:
SOLO G-SPOT ORGASM
1.
PREPARE WITH THE FIVE S’S
Supplies, Showering, Setting, Stretching, and Settling.
Arrange yourself nude in a comfortable reclining position with legs spread and propped on pillows or leaning against your bed headboard. Once aroused, you’ll probably have to get up on your feet or knees to reach your G-spot. Use absorbent pads or soft towels if you’re worried about soaking the bed. Be sure your bladder is empty before you begin. You may want to do this practice in front of a full-length or hand mirror to watch what you’re doing.
2.
TOUCHING
Begin by slowly touching, caressing, and arousing yourself from the perimeter and circle toward the vagina. Caress the vulva and clitoris with your preferred lubricant. Then, lick or lubricate a finger and slowly circle around your vagina’s opening, gradually going deeper inside with an in-and-out stroke. Take your time, and enjoy yourself because your G-spot may not come out to play until you’re very turned on. Be sure to relax, breathe deeply, and make sounds that express what you’re feeling. You might enjoy a juicy fantasy to really get your arousal going.
3.
LOCATE
When you’re turned on enough, you’ll begin to feel places on the vagina’s front wall lining become rougher and more wrinkly like corduroy. You might feel the glands harden beneath the surface somewhere between the vagina’s inside end (cervix) and the urethral meatus near the vagina’s mouth. With a few minutes of continued stroking, your G-spot will swell and become larger and harder, much like a clitoris or penis.
4.
SQUAT
If you find you can’t reach deep enough inside, or your muscles protest, continue on your knees or squat on your feet. Some experimenting may be necessary to find the most comfortable position for G-spot access. A curved dildo or vibrator can help get your G-spot aroused so that you can feel it better with your fingers.
5.
PRESSURE
Gradually increase the pressure on the rough and hard spots on the vagina’s front wall with in-and-out strokes about once per second. Curl your finger around the pubic bone when fully inserted, making a come-hither motion as you pull your hand out.
6.
DON’T STOP
As your G-spot becomes more engorged, you may feel a sense of urgency. This is the P-Signal we talked about before — the sensation you have when you’re sure you have to pee. This means you’re really getting there! Remember, you just emptied your bladder. So, simply breathe and continue. The feeling will pass.
7.
GO FOR IT
Use the four cornerstones of supreme bliss to intensify and spread sexual energy throughout your body. Enjoy one or more powerful G-spot orgasms. Afterward, instead of stopping abruptly, be sure to cover the vulva with your hand as you gradually cool down.
8.
TOY
Whenever you decide the time is right, switch to using a vibrator or dildo for more stimulation. This is where a G-spot wand really shines, giving you leverage to apply strong pressure behind your pubic bone. Don’t forget that the G-spot loves pressure!
9.
CLOSING
When you decide to end your session, relax gradually, and slow down your movements. Again, we really like the energy connection of one hand on the vulva and one hand on your heart. Reflect on what you discovered and what worked best.
PRACTICE:
PARTNER G-SPOT ORGASM
1.
PREPARE WITH THE FIVE S’S
Supplies, Showering, Setting, Stretching, and Settling.
Begin with the Partnering Questions:
1. What are your intentions for this practice?
2. What are your concerns and worries?
3. What are your boundaries, both physically and psychologically?
Arrange yourself nude in a warm room in a comfortable reclining position and propped on pillows or leaning against your bed headboard. Make sure you can spread your legs to allow your partner full access to your clitoris and vagina. Use pads or towels to make sure you won’t worry about soaking the bed.
2.
TOUCHING
Ask your partner to begin by slowly touching, caressing, and arousing you from the perimeter and circling toward the vagina. Have your giver caress the vulva and clitoris with your preferred lubricant. Then, give your partner permission to insert a lubricated finger and slowly circle around the vagina’s opening, gradually going deeper inside with an in-and-out stroke. Remember that you are the receiver, so you’re in charge. Ask specifically for what you want, even if it differs from this description. Take your time, and enjoy yourself because your G-spot may not come out to play until you’re very turned on. Be sure to relax, breathe deeply, and make sounds that express what you’re feeling.
3.
LOCATE
When you’re aroused enough, your giver will begin to feel some places on the front wall lining of your vagina that are rougher and more wrinkly like corduroy. They might feel the glands harden beneath the surface somewhere between the vagina’s inside end (cervix) and the urethral meatus near the mouth. With a few minutes of continued stroking, your G-spot will swell and become larger and harder, much like a clitoris or penis.
4.
PRESSURE
Guide your partner to gently and gradually increase the pressure on the rough and hard spots on the upper wall with in-and-out strokes about once per second. Have your giver curl a finger around the pubic bone when fully inserted, making a come-hither motion as the hand is pulled out.
5.
DON’T STOP
If you feel that sense of urgency, like you need to pee, remember that this is a good sign. You already emptied your bladder, so simply breathe and continue. The feeling with pass quickly.
6.
GO FOR IT
Use the four cornerstones of supreme bliss to intensify and spread sexual energy throughout your body. Enjoy one or more powerful G-spot orgasms.
7.
TOY
If you want, let your partner switch to using a vibrator or dildo. A specially-designed G-spot wand can really assist your lover as well, providing leverage to apply strong pressure around and behind your pubic bone. Some women like intense pressure, and it’s hard for some givers to maintain that kind of pressure with fingers alone.
8.
COOL DOWN
When you’re ready to stop, be sure your partner knows to follow your lead so that the contact between you isn’t broken abruptly. Instead, remember to have your giver cup and hold your vagina with the palm of one hand, while the other hand rests on your heart. Look into each other’s eyes, and breathe together.
9.
CLOSING
When you decide to end your session, relax gradually, and slow down your movements. Be sure you acknowledge each other, and give feedback. This is a time for expanding your awareness and sharing it with one another. Reflect on what you discovered and what worked best. Talk about how you both felt through the experience.
ENERGY PATHWAYS TO ORGASM
“…The solid bodies of the two lovers begin pulsating as if charged with electricity. The feeling of having solid flesh disappears. You are suddenly a pillar of vibrating energy held in exquisite balance by your lover’s field of energy. This is a total orgasm of body and soul.”
— FROM
TAOIST SECRETS OF LOVE
BY MANTAK CHIA
SETTING THE STAGE FOR ENERGY EXCHANGE
Not every woman opens to G-spot play quickly and easily. Early direct clitoris stimulation doesn’t work for every woman either. So, blending the two can be a powerful combination. But getting there requires the consciousness of the receiver, the skill of the giver, and communication between the two.
Diving straight in to using physical techniques alone isn’t the guaranteed path to sexual success. How often have you heard the complaint that men just want to pump and skip the foreplay, while women want connection, intimacy, love, or at least something more than just physical fiddling. They want sex to have meaning.
Adventuresome lovers often get hooked on stronger and stronger physical stimulation in an attempt to create more pleasure. We encourage everyone to play with all pathways that intensify sensation and orgasm. It’s the addiction to stronger “external” stimulation that troubles us.
In contrast, by opening all of your senses fully, you can become more sensitive to every sensation, no matter how subtle. You can learn to immerse yourself in the most delicate whiff of pleasure, and transform it into surges of ecstasy. That’s why we call S.E.X. Subtle Energy eXchange.
WHAT IS YOUR CAPACITY FOR PLEASURE?
Most everyone has ingrained limits to how much pleasure they can experience. If your pleasure balloon is restricted to the small area of your genitals, it can fill up too rapidly and explode, creating an explosive orgasm without the possibility of extended orgasm.
Somraj has always wanted it all, and he used to think he could take as much excitement as he and his lovers could muster. It was a sobering moment when he discovered that he had limits, too. Through practice, however, he has expanded his capacity for pleasure. Where will it stop, nobody knows.
By slowly stretching your pleasure balloon, more and more energy is contained without the wonderful but brief explosion that virtually pops your bubble. Slowly expand your balloon to fill your entire body with orgasmic energy, and you will feel the powerful vibrations of orgasm continuously everywhere in your body. That’s the degree of pleasure you can experience if you move past your current limits.
This kind of full-body orgasm is an energy event. Truly, nothing compares to using subtle sexual energy to reach spectacular crescendos of ecstasy.

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