Female Ejaculation (38 page)

Supplies, Showering, Setting, Stretching, and Settling.

Arrange yourself nude in a comfortable reclining position with legs spread and propped on pillows or leaning against your bed headboard. Once aroused, you’ll probably have to get up on your feet or knees to reach your G-spot. Use absorbent pads or soft towels if you’re worried about soaking the bed. Be sure your bladder is empty before you begin. You may want to do this practice in front of a full-length or hand mirror to watch what you’re doing.

Begin by slowly touching, caressing, and arousing yourself from the perimeter and circle toward the vagina. Caress the vulva and clitoris with your preferred lubricant. Then, lick or lubricate a finger and slowly circle around your vagina’s opening, gradually going deeper inside with an in-and-out stroke. Take your time, and enjoy yourself because your G-spot may not come out to play until you’re very turned on. Be sure to relax, breathe deeply, and make sounds that express what you’re feeling. You might enjoy a juicy fantasy to really get your arousal going.

When you’re turned on enough, you’ll begin to feel places on the vagina’s front wall lining become rougher and more wrinkly like corduroy. You might feel the glands harden beneath the surface somewhere between the vagina’s inside end (cervix) and the urethral meatus near the vagina’s mouth. With a few minutes of continued stroking, your G-spot will swell and become larger and harder, much like a clitoris or penis.

If you find you can’t reach deep enough inside, or your muscles protest, continue on your knees or squat on your feet. Some experimenting may be necessary to find the most comfortable position for G-spot access. A curved dildo or vibrator can help get your G-spot aroused so that you can feel it better with your fingers.

Gradually increase the pressure on the rough and hard spots on the vagina’s front wall with in-and-out strokes about once per second. Curl your finger around the pubic bone when fully inserted, making a come-hither motion as you pull your hand out.

As your G-spot becomes more engorged, you may feel a sense of urgency. This is the P-Signal we talked about before — the sensation you have when you’re sure you have to pee. This means you’re really getting there! Remember, you just emptied your bladder. So, simply breathe and continue. The feeling will pass.

Use the four cornerstones of supreme bliss to intensify and spread sexual energy throughout your body. Enjoy one or more powerful G-spot orgasms. Afterward, instead of stopping abruptly, be sure to cover the vulva with your hand as you gradually cool down.

Whenever you decide the time is right, switch to using a vibrator or dildo for more stimulation. This is where a G-spot wand really shines, giving you leverage to apply strong pressure behind your pubic bone. Don’t forget that the G-spot loves pressure!

When you decide to end your session, relax gradually, and slow down your movements. Again, we really like the energy connection of one hand on the vulva and one hand on your heart. Reflect on what you discovered and what worked best.

Supplies, Showering, Setting, Stretching, and Settling.

Begin with the Partnering Questions:

Arrange yourself nude in a warm room in a comfortable reclining position and propped on pillows or leaning against your bed headboard. Make sure you can spread your legs to allow your partner full access to your clitoris and vagina. Use pads or towels to make sure you won’t worry about soaking the bed.

Ask your partner to begin by slowly touching, caressing, and arousing you from the perimeter and circling toward the vagina. Have your giver caress the vulva and clitoris with your preferred lubricant. Then, give your partner permission to insert a lubricated finger and slowly circle around the vagina’s opening, gradually going deeper inside with an in-and-out stroke. Remember that you are the receiver, so you’re in charge. Ask specifically for what you want, even if it differs from this description. Take your time, and enjoy yourself because your G-spot may not come out to play until you’re very turned on. Be sure to relax, breathe deeply, and make sounds that express what you’re feeling.

When you’re aroused enough, your giver will begin to feel some places on the front wall lining of your vagina that are rougher and more wrinkly like corduroy. They might feel the glands harden beneath the surface somewhere between the vagina’s inside end (cervix) and the urethral meatus near the mouth. With a few minutes of continued stroking, your G-spot will swell and become larger and harder, much like a clitoris or penis.

Guide your partner to gently and gradually increase the pressure on the rough and hard spots on the upper wall with in-and-out strokes about once per second. Have your giver curl a finger around the pubic bone when fully inserted, making a come-hither motion as the hand is pulled out.

If you feel that sense of urgency, like you need to pee, remember that this is a good sign. You already emptied your bladder, so simply breathe and continue. The feeling with pass quickly.

Use the four cornerstones of supreme bliss to intensify and spread sexual energy throughout your body. Enjoy one or more powerful G-spot orgasms.

If you want, let your partner switch to using a vibrator or dildo. A specially-designed G-spot wand can really assist your lover as well, providing leverage to apply strong pressure around and behind your pubic bone. Some women like intense pressure, and it’s hard for some givers to maintain that kind of pressure with fingers alone.

When you’re ready to stop, be sure your partner knows to follow your lead so that the contact between you isn’t broken abruptly. Instead, remember to have your giver cup and hold your vagina with the palm of one hand, while the other hand rests on your heart. Look into each other’s eyes, and breathe together.

When you decide to end your session, relax gradually, and slow down your movements. Be sure you acknowledge each other, and give feedback. This is a time for expanding your awareness and sharing it with one another. Reflect on what you discovered and what worked best. Talk about how you both felt through the experience.