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Authors: Somraj Pokras
We’re not talking about holding your breath as long as you can, but simply not rushing ahead to the next in or out. Simply pause for a distinct moment between inhaling and exhaling, exhaling and inhaling, so that you can notice how you’re feeling.
MAKING SOUNDSNext, you have a chance to practice one of the most powerful of the four cornerstones: sound.
Do you moan at all during lovemaking?
Does it make you feel self-conscious?
How about when you’re coming?Sound is one of the most powerful cornerstones of ecstasy. The same nerves that regulate your voice box are connected to your sex organs. When your orgasmic reflexes are working, moaning with pleasure comes naturally. In fact, it requires more energy to repress your voice. If you didn’t stop yourself, you’d have that much more energy to fuel your passion!
So, the more noise you make, the more passionate you’ll feel inside. The more passionate you feel inside, the more passionate you’ll appear. And guess what, the more passionate you appear, the more you’ll feel inside, and the more likely you’ll experience an energy orgasm and ejaculation. It’s a self-reinforcing loop.
Just remind yourself that pleasure is your divine birthright, and you’re entitled to as much ecstasy as you can conjure up. Sounding
off is one way to amplify your sensations. If you’re in the least self-conscious about being overheard, be sure to find a quiet place where no one can hear you no matter how loud you become.
VISUALIZING ENERGYoff is one way to amplify your sensations. If you’re in the least self-conscious about being overheard, be sure to find a quiet place where no one can hear you no matter how loud you become.
Next, we’re going to add the visualization of energy along with your breathing, pumping, and sounding. Since energy flows where attention goes, just imagining sexual energy and electricity somewhere in your body will make something happen eventually. You already knew that the mind was the most powerful sex organ, right?
We’re going to begin working with your chakras in a big way. These are the vortices where energy tends to collect and swirl around at different places inside your body. There is also an energy channel near your spine that connects your chakras. We call this your “inner flute.”
Remember to keep all of your senses open. If you feel any sensations, no matter how subtle, visualize your breath passing through the area where you feel the sensations. In this way, the breath adds fuel to a small fire, causing it to flare up with higher flames. Even if you don’t feel much, pretend that you do, and breathe into the body parts you want to energize.
PELVIC ROCKINGThe four cornerstones of Supreme Bliss include movement. Pelvic Rocking is a rotation of your pelvic area. Some have likened it to riding a horse, but we prefer to compare it to slow deep sexual union when you’re on top.
With your weight on your knees and hands over your lover, the only way you can penetrate deeply is by either doing push-ups or by rocking your pelvis forwards and backwards. The latter is what we’re adding to your repertoire here.
FLEX YOUR SEXUAL MUSCLESPC MUSCLE
We want you to start learning to run sexual energy with one aspect of the movement cornerstone, flexing your inner sexual muscles. We’re talking about your PC muscle, short for
pubococcygeus
.
pubococcygeus
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We realize that’s a mouthful of a medical term, but it’s easy to identify. Put one of your hands on your pubic bone, the inside one that’s above your genitals and around your pubic hair at the bottom of your tummy. That’s the “P.”
Now, reach around behind you, and put your other hand near the top of your crack just below your spine. That’s your tailbone or coccyx, which is the “C.” The PC muscle snakes down around your genitals and anus and connects these two bones plus your sitting bones and legs.
What’s more important, you need to be able to identify the PC muscle from the inside. It’s the one you tighten when you want to squeeze out the last few drops of urine. Try squeezing it now. Did you feel it?
If you can’t isolate it, take a break and go the bathroom right now. Start peeing, and stop in the middle. When you’re finished, try to squeeze the last few drops out. The muscle you used to stop midstream and squeeze at the end is your PC muscle.
STRENGTHEN YOUR PCHaving strong internal pelvic muscles, keeping them relaxed when at rest, and knowing how to use them without strain can dramatically enhance your sexual pleasure. Why? Because the PC pulses rhythmically during intercourse, especially strongly during climax as it pumps sexual energy. If your PC muscle is weak, your pleasure and orgasms will suffer. If the muscle is always tense, it can block your ability to stream orgasmic energy.
Did we mention which muscle is primarily responsible for female ejaculation? You’ve got it: the PC muscle.
If yours is strong, you have a powerful tool to consciously channel energy throughout your whole body. The stronger this muscle becomes, the more intense and pleasurable sexual intimacy can be for you, and the more easily you can have an energy orgasm and ejaculate.
As with any physical exercise, improved tone gives you better muscle control. When a muscle is weak, it feels like mush even after a few contractions. With a weak PC, this cuts off the flow of pleasure and the length of orgasm. When a PC muscle is well-toned, it can relax more easily, and you can continue pumping as long as you want, extending orgasm.
PC PUMPSDid we convince you that you need to do PC pumps? That’s what we call these sexual muscle squeeze practices. Fortunately, it’s easy and inexpensive to strengthen them. It just takes a few minutes a day, although it doesn’t happen overnight. To get the maximum benefits, we urge you to add some of the following practices to your daily routine.
By the way, you’ve probably heard of Kegels. These are similar practices developed by a gynecologist in 1952 named Dr. Arnold Kegel. He taught women to strengthen their PC muscles after the trauma of childbirth to restore tone and regain control of their urinary reflexes.
Doing PC pumps is easy. The hard part is establishing a regimen and remembering to do them. Develop a successful memory device so that you don’t forget. Find a time and place where you’ll remember to do several sets of these practices each day. Once they get strong after months of practice, continue the same regimen as a maintenance program.
You might use the beginning of your commute to and from work as you stop for traffic lights, when you check your email, during TV commercials, in the bathtub, or when you start your workout at the gym.
Whatever you choose, do it regularly so it becomes an integral part of your life routine. Since it doesn’t seem to matter what position you’re in for these practices, you can choose whenever and wherever best jogs your memory.
Remember, don’t push yourself and strain your groin at the outset. Instead, build up gradually. Relax everything else when you do PC pumps. If you tend to tense up, put your tongue on your upper palate to prevent clenching your jaw.
When you start practicing as described in the upcoming pages, you may find that you’re also tightening your stomach muscles. Don’t worry about it for now. Within a few days or weeks, you’ll learn to isolate your muscle control, so that only the pelvic floor where the PC muscle resides will be flexed.
These practices may be about squeezing your PC muscle, but the relaxing in between each contraction is vital. If you’re tense, your sexual energy gets trapped and can’t flow. So, the unflexed moments between pumps are as important as the strengthening. Get into the
habit of squeezing to tone the muscles, but put as much attention on totally relaxing between flexes.
PC EXERCISEShabit of squeezing to tone the muscles, but put as much attention on totally relaxing between flexes.
Here’s a series of four exercises you can use to strengthen your PC muscles…
PC FLEX
Squeeze and release your PC muscle at the rate of your heartbeat, which means hold it each time for about a second. Start with 20 contractions twice a day, and build up to at least 75 per set. When you can easily do 75 contractions twice a day, add the PC Clench.
PC CLENCH
Practice clenching your PC while inhaling. By clenches, we mean holding the squeeze for a longer period of time. Some experts say 3 seconds, some say 6, some say 15. Maybe they’re all correct, so we suggest you start with 3 and work up to 15 seconds per clench.
To do clenches, inhale and clench your PC, holding it tightly. Then, push out and relax for the same amount of time before your next clench. Repeat this cycle 20 times twice a day at first. As with flexes, build up to 75 reps twice a day.
For women, it’s very important to spend time on the push-out. Use the instructions above, and inhale, push out, hold for 3-6 seconds. Do the push-out variation of the clench as many times as the pulling-in.
PC FLUTTERS
This practice is basically the same as the first one (PC Flexes), except it’s faster. To do flutters, you contract and relax your PC as fast as you can. At first, you may not be able to go much faster than your heartbeat, but with practice, you can speed up the squeeze and release. We suggest you don’t count these but just work up to fluttering for several normal breaths before relaxing totally. Doing 20 sets of these twice a day should be great. When you can flutter like a bird, add PC Clamps.
PC CLAMPS
PC Clamps are simply long clenches. Work up to holding your clench for two minutes, 20 times each set. Remember to relax completely at length between these long clamps, and stop for a few minutes if you start to hurt or get sore.
PC practices can be a very intensive regimen if you go full out. So, don’t forget to start slow! Once you develop strength and tone in your PC muscle through some weeks of practice, you can back off to a maintenance level of exercises. After a couple of years of intense practice, we don’t do every exercise every day. Eventually, you’ll develop a sense of what’s right for you to make your PC strong and keep it there.
PRACTICE:
PRACTICING ORGASMIC BREATHING
PRACTICING ORGASMIC BREATHING
Now, let’s combine all of the elements of supreme bliss into one comfortable unified whole. We’ve broken down the individual parts of the four cornerstones of supreme bliss into discreet steps. When we’re working privately with clients, we guide them to practice each one separately. But once you learn to coordinate them all, orgasmic breathing is just doing one unified thing. Most people do these things naturally together during ecstatic sex, so why not use them consciously?
1.
POSITION
POSITION
Use whatever position you want as long as it allows free pelvic movement.
2.
RELAXING
RELAXING
Spend a few minutes getting comfortable, watching your breath, and releasing any muscle tension. Keep your eyes closed.
3.
BELLY BREATHING
BELLY BREATHING
Start taking belly breaths.
4.
ROCKING
ROCKING
Rock your pelvis one way on the in-breath and the other on the out-breath.
5.
PC PUMP
PC PUMP
Add the PC pump exercise on the in-breath.
6.
SOUNDS
SOUNDS
Make sounds as you start to feel good.
7.
VISUALIZE
VISUALIZE
Visualize the energy coming into your first chakra and streaming up your inner flute by the force of your PC contractions. During your first practices, aim to raise your sexual energy just up to your heart chakra. Of course, you can practice moving the energy up to any chakra, all the way to the crown of the head, so do what feels best in the moment.
8.
ENJOY
ENJOY
Enjoy the sensations you feel for a few minutes.
9.
SYNCHRONIZE
SYNCHRONIZE
If you want, try this with a partner. Sit across from each with your eyes closed as you perform the first eight steps. When you feel you’re in the flow of the energy, open you eyes. When the second partner opens their eyes, coordinate your breathing in and out together at the same pace. Can you feel each other’s energy?
AFTERTHOUGHTS
You may have to practice a few times to get the pieces working together. Once you do, just practice this combined exercise several times a week for a few weeks for about 15 minutes each time.
Orgasmic breathing is the primary method of channeling energy when you’re making love. It may require repeated practice because at first, it’s a very subtle experience for most people. Once you get it, though, it makes for very exciting love play. It sure gets our juices flowing when we do it before sex.
As you continue with this book, you’ll find lots of chances to practice as you discover more triggers for female ejaculation.
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